Boyfriend and family advice?

[Anonymous]

boyfriend has told me about his family but up until recently I haven't met but one of them.. and I've met a small number of his closest friends. That's fine. Except now I've met more family and they seem to really like me and one in particular has invited me to a lot of family orientated functions. Something obviously I've been left out of so far. Two things. 1- Family is so important to me and he has known this. It makes me sad to see a glimpse of everything I've ever wanted knowing this isn't real. It's for the time being while they are here because he doesn't want this dynamic. If it wasn't for them coming to town and him wanting them to save money/show off i probably would have never met them. They are genuinely great and kind hearted people that like similar things as me too. 2- how do I navigate this situation so I don't lie to them about me attending these events but also not put their family out there that they just dont want me in their life to that extent? Add Poll: Should I go to these things or not?

Yes

No

[petitedollbabee]

How long have you been dating?

[Asker]

Almost 2 1/2 years. One of them asked about marriage and i ran.. literally.

[petitedollbabee]

That’s really strange that you’ve met barely any of his family members after almost 2 and a half years. Do you think he might be ashamed of his family? I haven’t let my boyfriend meet some of my family because they’re awful people, but he’s met my family members that are important to me.

[Asker]

I don't know. It makes sense because as of today I met the closest people to him but I feel like part of it may be he is also ashamed of me. That's based off other things. But one of the family members asked about marriage and i just excused myself because its something I did want but gave up on because it's clear he doesn't want to marry me and i guess I got complacent.