Why did Babby Daddy leave you a single Mother?

Question

Why are you a single mother? Two people have sex. Unless someone is raped. A woman consents to have a man put his seed inside her. A man chooses to do this. There are many reasons and personal dynamics for why this happens. Sometimes people have sex because its a casually relationship. Sometimes people have sex because they are in a romantic relationship. THat doesn't mean they are ready to have children yet or even want to. Sometimes people are in a romantic relationship and are in love and do want a child together. What is your story for why you are a single mother?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Voted D, but my situation was the reverse of what most probably expect.

In fact, I met a gal at a business/social event, we hit it off and I went back to her place. We ended up having sex, I spent the night and we had some sex the next morning and that was it. Typical one night stand.

The sex was unprotected, but honestly neither of us gave it much thought. It was pure sex, very animal. We didn't really know each other and as I say, we were both "in the mood" and things just "clicked. We wanted each other's naked bodies for pure animal pleasure and that was it.

We never spoke again or talked about it. I never heard from her. It was, as I say, the quintessential one night stand.

Flash forward about 12 years. I am a father of three with my girlfriend of 14 years and very happy. I get an e-mail saying, in effect, "You probably don't remember me but we met and had a one night stand. I wanted to let you know that you got me pregnant that night and you have a 12 year old son..."

Without going into the details, we met, we got a test done and sure enough I have a son that I did not know I had. In answer to the question, the funny part is not that I left the mother of my child. Rather, she left me.

She decided, when she found out she was pregnant, that she wanted to raise our son on our own. She was not even sure how to find me - it took her some considerable "detective work" to find me when she decided, after 12 years, that as our son was becoming a teenager, he should know his father.

Happily, two years on, I have a great - if to be fair, sometimes awkward - relationship with my son. He gets along with my girlfriend and his half siblings well and we have him over for weekends, some holidays and for a bit during the summer. I could not be happier.

With one exception. Although I think his mom is a nice person and she did an amazing job raising our son on her own, it hurts that I missed so much of his life. I would have happily been a part of it and helped to support him - and his mom. In that, I must confess, I feel a certain resentment toward my son's mom. (Even though, frankly, I still don't know her all that well.)

Bottom line, I have no regrets. I guess the main point is that in my case, as I say, I was left rather than being the leaver. My son's mother chose to be a single mom.

It's a bit of a twist on the question, but life can be like that. Perhaps the question should have reflected that a bit more.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Girls who call their partner "Baby Daddy" are bound to wind up living in trailer parks as single mothers.

But seriously, comments by some of the girls here are heartbreaking. People who judge single mothers without knowing the circumstances suck.

The most amazing girlfriend I was ever with had a son. She had been sexually abused by her stepfather for over 10 years, beginning at a very, very young age. She got married and had a son when she was 16 or 17, probably to get away from her step father.

The marriage only lasted a couple years, though. I don't know all the circumstances. But the father wound up with the son. The girl had become an alcoholic and was in therapy over her childhood trauma.

When I met her, she was 30, had beat alcoholism and become amazing. Her 13 year old son came in from out of state to visit every once in a while.

I loved that woman with my heart and soul and she loved me. Next to my wife, she was one of the most admirable and sexy woman I've ever known.

So here's to some single mothers, although there are some idiots, too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The condom broke so I took a morning after pill, but it didn’t work and I ended up pregnant. We had not planned to have kids yet, but were still happy when we found out and decided together to keep it. We were already engaged and lived together and planned to have kids in the future, so it just happened a few years earlier than expected. Everything was fine. Fast forward about 1,5 years he tells me he met someone else and was leaving me. He moved out and straight away moved in with his new girlfriend and has been a deadbeat dad since.

Starlight007 · Accepted Answer

You know thank you for asking this questions! us humans can be quick to judge people which is just straight up so wrong, This makes me see why Christians are taught to refrain from being judgmental towards others!. I'm not posting this to claim that I am perfect no I'm not I have judged people but I'm going to try harder to stop doing that, it's really not right!. We go through a lot, as husbands, as daughters, sons, wives, single parents etc. So lets cut each other some slack as a society please!.

Anonymous · Answer

We were in a relationship and we both wanted kids. He was the one suggesting we go unprotected and he ejaculated in me on purpose. When I got pregnant he was shocked (uhm ok…) and suddenly changed his mind and no longer wanted a baby so he wanted me to terminate. I did not, and had already told him before, even in the beggining of our relationship, that if I were to get pregnant I would not have an abortion. So he was very well aware of this and again he said he wanted kids and he was even the one suggesting to toss the birth control. He still got extremely upset that I wouldn’t terminate and started calling me horrible stuff, yelling how he wasn’t ready to be a dad yet, made sick threats of what he’d do if I didn’t do as he wished and so on. He became like a different person. I then found out he was cheating on me and so I told him to go to hell and we broke up.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men who do this were only wanting sex. Really... Speaking honestly more often then not she chose him. She was having sex with him knowing that he isn't really good and many times she isn't a saint herself.

I am not judging her we have all done dumb shit that we regret and had consequences from.

Though what is sad is sometimes it is rape that caused it but more often then not she was making her choices to sleep with men who were only interested in sex and she was likely the same way.

This is the same reason why women have abortions is because they don't want to be responsible for raising a child that she created and men run away because they don't want the responsibility

More often then not as you said it was a choice by both people to have the sex and many times did not use any protection and were not in a any kind of serious relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Babby Daddy is really women who were unwed so I would never cally ex-husband a baby daddy. Long marriage woth a lot of communication issues as well as mental, emotional and physical abuse. We were already opposites but were compatible in foundational areas. After being patient upon kicks to the stomach, metal cup being smashed off my ankle and waking up to getting beat in the head, the glares full of contempt and the complete dismissal of my feelings I threw in the towel.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

My mother was a single mother.
My father cheated on her.
Then he cheated on the woman he cheated on my mother with after he had a daughter with her.
This was not told me by my mother, it was told by my father.

And trust me this is just the tip of the iceberg on how much if a piece of shit he is. All said and proven by himself. No matter how many opportunities I gave him, he always fucked up.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

My father was selfish and a prick, simply put. My mother was in no way without blame, but he could have done something more than running away with another woman.

Anonymous · Answer

They always go back to abuse. Bitch you were probably someone he cheated on another girl with too. God damn is a huge penis really that important🍆?

Sometimes I think single moms wanted to be abused so they could have an excuse to raise a son-husband.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Who is, Babby Daddy? Is that some new stupid-ass rapper?

GatewayRealm · Answer

I didn’t Know I was a mother Thanks for telling me I’ll have to take some Kid from there parents and accuse the parents of kidnapping my kid.

Anonymous · Answer

Generally it's A or B. In rare occasions it's C. If she's really dumb.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Dude broke my hand so I left. 🤷‍♀️

bamesjond0069 · Answer

You mean amber turd?

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