My boyfriend is my opposite, is it good or bad?

[WizzardGirl]

me: calm, rational, introvert, serious, cold minded, diplomatic, conservative

him: impulsive, drama queen, extrovert, party boy, likes to joke /to clown, makes friends with EVERYBODY, liberal

Well... i guess we have more
But also we have a lot in common at the same time tho
What do you think?☺

[serious]

Well from your info it looks like there are some crucial differences as far as personality is concerned. If you say you have a lot in common then it would mean your compatibility with him is quite good, in that case you should be able to manage the differences you have with him.

However, according to me in the long run I think it is bad only.

[Andres77]

Teamwork!
Weaknesses and strengths together helps us be better.

[WizzardGirl]

Who is weak?🥺

[Andres77]

Every single human on this planet throughout the history of mankind has weakness.
I'm not calling you out. Men and women are better and worse in certain circumstances.
That's all I'm saying.
I'm FUCKING AWESOME at certain things that my wife simply can't do. It's the same in reverse.
So I'm strong where she's weak and vice versa.
That's all I'm saying.
If you have NO weaknesses then I have a security job and a whole lot of trees to be moved... come on over...😉

[WizzardGirl]

But you think its good?
He keeps saying we are chalk and cheese
Very different

[Andres77]

Some partners compliment each other very well. Others, not so much. Any guy that's a drama queen won't be coming back into a burning building for you... so just think about it.
I hope it All works out for you.

[WizzardGirl]

So... must dump him?

[Andres77]

I'm not saying to dump him. You have to evaluate if he'll be good for you in the long run.
Are you compatible?
Will he always have your back?
Is he the guy that you would trust teaching your sons how to be good men?
Will he teach your daughters how to be a strong lady?
I've always said, the #1 cause of divorce is marriage. People feeling obligated to stay in a wrong relationship because they are afraid they won't find a new one.
Or you really do love the other and you don't want to hurt their feelings by ending what your heart says really won't work but you tell yourself that if you love them you should at least try, so you get married full of hope but you realize that you're just not compatible and you never should have gone through with it but now you have kids and it's not fair to them... so you're stuck... or it's now YOUR fault for tearing the marriage apart when you're just tired of wasting yourself on someone that never really earned you in the first place.

[Blackcosmo]

He makes up for what you lack and you make up for what he lacks. It's perfectly fine.

[motownplayer2000]

It can work as long as you don’t put lofty unhealthy expectations on each other. That’s when it will end badly

[WizzardGirl]

What do you mean?

[motownplayer2000]

Like if you expect him to change or conform to you and your personality or if he expects similar.. you have to let each other be opposites sometimes. And give each other space to be that from you.

[Rockstarrrrr]

It's usually bad on the long term... When the magic is gone

[WizzardGirl]

We are together for 1 year

[driven159]

Whatever makes you two happy that's all that matters

[Xtendable]

It really depends if you see his opposite traits as bad things, or the yin to your yang…

[NoirTJ]

I'm some cases it's a good thing... you can't fight fire with fire

[FilmGuy93]

Uh... that doesn't sound good to me at all.

[WizzardGirl]

Why not?

[FilmGuy93]

too much clash, not enough unity.

[WizzardGirl]

We have unity

[AviatorTom]

Opposites attract, so enjoy the relationship.

[lightbulb27]

Trouble

[WizzardGirl]

Whats trouble?

[lightbulb27]

what you're going to feel as the drugs wear off. Extremes draw, but in day to day life, when baby shows up, gets... harder... to handle someone so different. if you respect him and trust him then ok. If he loves you... and values your emotions, then ok... that's something.
I've seen too many relationships blow up. it can work, but understand... big differences means work... that's all.

Kinda like this in the future... but I don't watn to take the fun out of life... it's the discovery that's fun:)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z0h2Wk6-C_I

[Anonymous]

Opposites do attract.

[WizzardGirl]

Explain

[Opinion Owner]

Not really sure how or why, its just something I have heard.

[Anonymous]

Liberal Jesus christ you're fucked

[WizzardGirl]

Why?

[anylolone]

Depends...

[WizzardGirl]

On what then?

[anylolone]

On what you want, what you can handle and what people around you can handle.