When do girls cheat?

[Anonymous]

I am 21 and currently in a serious relationship, it's not my first girl but definitely I have never been this involved with any other girl, she's 3 years younger, before me a virgin and I am even her first kiss. I believe we are both madly in love and experiencing really strong feelings only growing as time pass by. We have been together for almost a year and since I have never got this far and this deep in a relationship I feel vulnerable.
It does not seem like it is ever going to happen, but just cause it would probably destroy me completely I really need to know when and why a girl would cheat on the perfect boyfriend, I heard this story before and I'm really worried that at some point she will want to try "new things" and leave me for experiencing other guys since I'm the only one. I can't blame her if she decides to do that but I would still get torn apart.

[PrettyPriya]

You come off as extremely insecure. To assume that she is going to cheat on you isn't fair to her. That means you have zero trust and that is a huge component to a healthy relationship. Without trust and communication, you have nothing.

At that point, you don't even have a relationship in my opinion. You are just two people that get together. I'm unsure as to why the insecurity but you need to address that. If you are constantly worried or wondering if she is going to leave you, your relationship is doomed.

Sorry for being direct, but it is true. I have a very healthy relationship. My SO talks to friends back home that are girls. His best friend in the world is a girl. Doesn't bother me a bit. You know why? Because I know what I mean to him. He shows it to me and I trust him implicitly.

I think you need to evaluate your so called "fears" of her leaving or you are just going to drag yourself and her down until she actual does leave you because you are that insecure.

[Asker]

I have read again the question but It doesn't seem like what you are describing, I clearly said that "I don't believe she would ever cheat"
The answer to my question from you seems like all it takes is trust and communication, do you think this are the only reasons for betraying someone in your personal experience?

[PrettyPriya]

Let me quote your text that worries me:

"I really need to know when and why a girl would cheat on the perfect boyfriend, I heard this story before and I'm really worried that at some point she will want to try "new things" and leave me for experiencing other guys since I'm the only one. I can't blame her if she decides to do that but I would still get torn apart."

You are assuming she is going to cheat. Every word of that screams it. You need to stop thinking she will want to experience other people. Girls (in general) don't think like this. There has to be something driving this insecurity. Be honest with me... or at least yourself.

I didn't say those are the only two things it takes. I said they are "huge components" of a relationship. I didn't say they are the only ones. They rank as my top two however. If you don't have those, you don't have a relationship in my opinion.

You seem to lack the trust given your detailed part of the question. Even the question itself is basically asking when will she cheat on me? Sorry, but you know what you are asking. I would love to help but you don't give any indication as to why you think this way.

I wish you the best of luck but my opinion stands without any further details.

[Asker]

Ok, I do see it now, I would probably say that I really think she is perfect, she beautiful really smart, I love her smile I love how she cuddles to me and feels safe when I'm with her.
But I don't understand why I have this effect on her, I don't think I deserve it, you may say that I am decent looking guy, I have been working out for years, I try to give her the best of me because I really think she deserves the best.
But I'm not actually sure I deserve her.

[Asker]

By the way, all I'm writing here doesn't reflect how people see me in real life, this are the bad thoughts i have when I'm alone, and they are buried within me

[PrettyPriya]

That is an issue when you say you don't believe you deserve her. Why say that? She is with YOU and not someone else. She made a conscious decision to date you, not some other guy. Doesn't that say a lot?

Sounds like you lack some confidence. Is there a reason to that? Is there something that you believe is insufficient for her? Perhaps if you can figure out what that is, I can better advise.

[Asker]

What does it say about me if I were to tell you that I don't wanna answer anymore?

Not because I don't think it's helping or because I feel scared of digging deeper into the matter, but because I think that I'm bothering you.
I'm treating you like a psychologist but you are not paid to hear me whining about all this silly matters like I am any different than anyone else.

[PrettyPriya]

It is no bother at all. I am not a psychologist so any advice I give is based on life experience and opinion. However, you do not have to share anything you don't wish to share. If you do, that is fine as well. Completely up to you.

I try to be helpful to users any way that I can. If I don't feel that I can be, I will let you know. I am happy to continue to discuss, but only if you feel comfortable.

[JustAnj]

If it eases your mind, my husband is the only man I have ever been with he is my first.

I do not want anyone else and I can tell you we have issues we are dealing with right now and I still feel this way.

Been together 13 years.

Just always make her feel the wanted and the way you make her feel now.

Always water the rose.

Also give yourself some slack, may you deserve her or not she wants you and doesn't care about anything else other than having you.

Let her have you and enjoy her love. That's all a girl can ask for. 🥰♥️

[SaartjieJane]

Everyone is different, be totally open with each other about everything even the awkward stuff, don’t let other peoples opinions intrude on your relationship and muck it up.
Just because other people have experienced that stuff doesn’t mean you will.

[FictionalCharacter]

Girls cheat when their partner is not available for her when she needs them.

[Anonymous]

People cheat because their relationships suck.