How should I feel about my "younger sister" being in a relationship with my ex?

[Becky316]

To explain, I have a close friend, like a sister to me that recently started dating one of my exes. She is intimate with a guy who has been down on me and I have been down on. We never slept together but I'm still not sure how I feel about this or why it's bugging me. Any thoughts here might help.

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Since it's come up, when I was dating him I did things that she doesn't know about and I don't want her to think bad of me and I don't know if he's still does those things or if he's grown like I did. I'm worried for her but I just don't know how to ask him or talk to her about stuff without telling her what all I did and now am ashamed of.

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Update to this, they broke up, he was more forceful, (what I was worried about) it frieked her out and scared her. Thankfully, hubby and I were able to convince him that her decision to end the relationship was final as long as she so chooses. He always was a little possessive, he tried the same shit with me. I took martial arts for years and convinced him not to try to force me to change my mind. I went along with some things that I really shouldn't. I'm glad she is safe

[mandyfire98]

Did this guy wrong you in anyway or did the relationship just not work out?

If it was just a normal breakup then he's no longer your boyfriend and I'd just let them be honestly. It's not like you and your friend have to sit around talking about sexual stuff about the guy.

[Anonymous]

It happens and if it's an ex there's nothing you can really do. It's not fair to keep them apart.

[Surely]

If you confront your ex about your not so proud of past. It may make him talk about it quicker!
lf the two of you were on good terms. Then you could maybe ask him to leave your name out of a few things.

[AviatorTom]

If he's your "ex", he can do whatever he wants. If he abused you, then you should be concerned for your "sister" and talk with her about him. Otherwise, just stay out of it and live your own life.

[Red_Arrow]

Sounds like your biggest worry is that she will find out about the "shameful" things you were into. I doubt they were really bad. Our opinions on things change over time. Don't let your past enjoyments bother you now. And she might even be into kinkier things that you don't know about.

[USLegionary]

Your jealous and possessive. Your thinking why is it working with her and not you. of maybe you want him back.
Women are funny creatures they often only find value in a man who's dating a friend or a really gorgeous girl

[JakeS00]

I guess all you can do is accept it. It's probably bugging you because you're close with her and he's with her.

[H8INCHES]

There's a chance your friend is much more slutty than you. And probably likes thise things you no longer do.
Their sex life is none of your business.

[TallAnon]

Have a chat with your sister. Obviously it's awkward. You're not the first though, seen it happen before.

[dazzafromoz]

Who cares what you think or feel you don't own him or her.

[smilelots]

you should not feel anything its over and done with for you and her or she right.. move on..

[GreatnessBack]

You shouldn't feel anything. You are not dating either of them, so they do what they want.

[Wise4myage]

That's not cool. She should have had the common sense to at least mention it to you.

[Xtendable]

He’s your ex though. Do you think he’s going to be comparing notes?

[Becky316]

Probably

[Xtendable]

You can’t regulate his thoughts and feelings. Does your friend seem happy with him?

[Becky316]

He was/is a great guy. We broke up cause of covid.

[Xtendable]

Okay - so do you feel that as far as you’re concerned, things with him are unresolved?

[Xtendable]

Just read your update - makes sense now, the possible disclosure of private matters between him and yourself

[swettannie]

well, it's not your business anymore, let them be

[vald9inches]

Why would you be ashamed of it?

[Becky316]

No I wouldn't

[vald9inches]

What kind of things did you do with him? You can dm if you don't wanna say here 😊

[Becky316]

She's younger and less experienced, I don't want her to make the same intakes I did

[motownplayer2000]

Only you can answer that question

[noohair]

Close friend and not a sister. Such is life.

[IsoUser]

Ahh I am assuming extremely awkward

[bootieclapper9000]

thats not your friend lol

[tafarrier]

My Daughters Girlfriend Banged me

[lickysplit]

He is an ex, should not be an issue

[jahaims]

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