How do you build trust and everything else after your partner cheated on you?

[countrygirl8754]

He said he was at the bar he got drunk and a girl walk up to him they shook hands. And they kissed


I told him I need time to heal. . and I'm still beyond damn angry and pissed that had happened. And upset.

[fiveinthemorning]

Put it this way. Let’s say he makes it up to you by being nice and truthful, loving and everything you can imagine. You get over it.


Will you trust him when he goes out?
Will you be “checking” up on him every time he goes out?
Will you be able to stop thinking “what if he’s “ when he’s not next to you?
Will you be able to block out negative thoughts?
Will you staying with him change your loving or caring nature and turn it into bitterness and regret?
Will you feel little and incomplete if you forgive him and he enjoys life as if nothing happened?


I would forgive but I couldn’t forget.
Sh*t is too risky


+ Plus a women who respects herself & knows what she deserves is hell of a lot sexier.
His lost.

[countrygirl8754]

Thank u

[Moose304]

There are two basic rules of thought on this. First, it is possible to forgive and reconcile and rebuild trust. Then you have the thought once they cross that boundary it's too easy to cross it again given the same set of circumstances. I tend to lean toward the last thought. IF I were in an exclusive relationship and found out she cheated, she is OUT OF MY LIFE, forever, NO 2nd chances! These kinds of betrayals can be one of the vilest things a human can do to another. I feel this way because over my lifetime as an adult I have seen time and time again that once a cheater that cheating weakness is present! Male or female, I don't care. If I know you are a cheater I would even allow you in my home! I will also NOT break bread with you!

[Moose304]

That last part should be worded this way! " If I know you are a cheater I would NOT even allow you in my home! I will also NOT break bread with you!"

[Pinay_ako]

He actually confessed? Wow. At least he’s being honest but the fact that he still cheated is going to change things from now on. If he did it once, he might do it again and blame it on the other person and his drinking. Sorry

[courtney06]

There is no rebuilding trust after that. The relationship would be over for me. Cheating is s deal breaker.

[Chazmatazz269]

I don’t. You shouldn’t either. Relationships that survive cheating are very rarely mutually satisfying indefinitely. There will almost certainly be resentment on at least one side, and likely both. Cheaters are selfish and inconsiderate, and that never changes. Just get out.

[Whatever2929292]

Yea I understand that. Emotional cheating if he willingly kissed her. If she kissed him against his wishes then that is her problem. But I would be angry over this too.

Couples counseling or breaking up

[spartan55]

If you stay he will do it again, or at the very least you won't be able to trust him.
There has to be more to his story though. Women don't just walk up to dudes and kiss them.

[libsaretards]

You don't. You value yourself and leave the cheating loser instead of devaluing yourself by staying with a cheating scumbag. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

[FlowerChild94]

Ummm I really don’t know all I can say is make his pockets hurt BAD LOL

[DermalPunch]

Build what. A bridge for him to cross and me to burn. Naaaw B..

[DermalPunch]

Oh wait, he confessed to kissing. So he probably got at least a BJ.

[bamesjond0069]

Honestly you aren't that crazy about him. Women usually care little for a mans fidelity if he's awesome. This is the reason why kings could have harems. So clearly your man isn't a prize to you.

[monkeynutts]

Most reliable guys would not be going and getting drunk without their partners. The answer is you ain't really going to trust that guy ever again.

[litty]

It's extremely difficult. Trust has to be earned, not given.

[Adronicus]

Just my opinion so take it with a grain of salt.
You don't, you leave & find someone else.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Your relationship is over. A cheater poses the risk of bringing an STI to you as well. It's over

[driven159]

once trust is broken it can never be the same just the facts

[Bratsondanielle]

My x did that. That's how he becomes my x

[scott04sa22]

Sometimes it’s impossible to rebuild

[JohnK123]

Just be with that person more

[Twalli]

If all they did was kiss, that's pretty minor

[noohair]

What is the legal status of the relationship?

[In_Trance]

I don't think you can