Is it cheating if you're getting even?

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Give me your opinion below!

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. Depends on the circumstances. Its not the same for each sex so its not a 1 to 1 thing. If the girl cheats and the man wants to fuck 1 2 3 4 women to accept it then thats reasonable. If a man cheated and the woman wants to get even the relationship is over.

This is because for men sexual fidelity is usually number 1 importance. For women, a mans fidelity is more closely ranked to about 10 on the list of things women want. So for the man the woman is ruined and worthless if she steps out or damn close. For the women, lets just look at real life, women usually stay no matter how much men cheat PROVIDING he is exceptional at the things the girl values more than fidelity.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I mean if you she cheated on you I don't understand how it could be considered cheating because you would have already broken up with her right?

Unless you told her that you cheated on me so I am cheating on you and I want a free pass... I mean at that point the whole purpose is that you're going to cheat with the purpose that knows you are or did right?

Honestly, for me if she cheated I would break up with her then find someone else... but I am not into revenge crap... its not good for the sole. If I was dating have having sex with her before, then I would probably keep screwing her until i found something better. But it would change the nature of the relationship for sure.

hIopinionated_ · Accepted Answer

Personally I would get even, tell him, rub it in his face for a little, then dump that pos as I just can’t see myself being a pushover to a cheater

As I had no intentions of staying with him. Staying with him for a little while was just to hurt him

Eye for an eye and all

Sour-rose · Accepted Answer

If that's what you need to tell yourself. Buut if you plan to cheat just to hurt the other, it's not going to end well. I don't see it's worth it just for that, y'all both just get hurt. Ooor your relationship gets stronger. :)

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you use someone's else's behavior to justify lowering your moral standards for yourself, then you need to admit that you actually have no moral standards and your behavior can sink as low as the person who you choose to be with.

Pinay_ako · Answer

🤣 me getting even is walking away from the relationship after the cheating. Cut my losses and move on.

BullShark · Answer

I'll go with the most voted answer and call you a sicko.

Just because your S/O cheated on you, doesn't justify you to cheat on them with someone as well. You're not only stooping to their level, but you're also using someone else as a sex object. Why? Because you want your partner to catch you cheating and make them jealous. It's just petty behavior.

And from what I've heard from some of my ex friends who may have cheated in the past, it only ruins the relationship even further and the cycle never stops. You continue to cheat and remain unfaithful, so you're not only playing your S/O and with the feelings of the person you're cheating with, but you're making yourself look like a clown too.

Cheating is inexcusable and unforgivable in my eyes, regardless who does it and the reasons involved. Nobody cheats on accident. You can't "accidentally" kiss someone or f*ck them, and being drunk while you did it isn't an excuse either. If you knew you were a lightweight and someone who goes crazy when they're drunk, you shouldn't have been drinking anyways, and if your friends forced you and weren't there to hold you back from doing the deed, then they aren't your real friends either. Make the mature decision and just break up with them and move on. Nobody deserves the disrespect, least of all you. And besides, if they've cheated on you once or twice already, chances are it's a habit of their's and they'll likely cheat again.

Lynn2001 · Answer

I voted b. It’s still cheating but its understandable and it’s no where near as bad as the person who cheats first. It doesn’t count entirely and it for sure in hell doesn’t count as being the cheating type. They already fucked up the relationship and they were the ones who betrayed their loyalty and they’re clearly not as effected as the other person, considering they did it in the first place. Now the right thing to do is leave but that same applies to any situation of being done wrong, it’s nothing to bash on.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

It is only cheating IF the person has to hide it from their SO.

Doesn't matter what you do, if they are okay with it, then not cheating... so if they got caught and they say, okay lets balance things out to be fair. Not cheating, however if you just suspect someone (or maybe really got caught) and secretly go out and do it, you are no better than they are.

MrOracle · Answer

Yes, cheating is always cheating, and there is NEVER a justification for it. Period. Full Stop.

If you aren't satisfied with what you've got, then be an adult and END that relationship before you try to seek happiness elsewhere. But be forewarned: you won't be able to go back, and no matter what it seems like at first, the grass is rarely greener on the other side of the fence.

ohsheeT · Answer

So you want to be angry at the person that hurts you for doing what they did so in return you want to do the same thing why not just walk away it's done it's over it happened move on you don't need to intentionally hurt or make somebody feel the same thing that you felt I mean if you have to get even then there's so many other things in life that you have to do and that's just wrong you're the same as that person doesn't really matter what you do once you do

grapefruit11 · Answer

It’s still cheating unless you guys agreed you’d get to sleep with someone else to make things even. That’s just by definition lol. I think the best thing to do if you’ve been cheated on is to leave that person.

litty · Answer

Assuming the couple stayed together after the cheating, then yeah it would be cheating if the person who got cheated on slept with someone else without the partner's approval.

If a break up happened, then the person who got cheated on has no obligation to be faithful to the cheater and can sex whomever they want, also known as a rebound.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Yes... If you're in a relationship it's still cheating doesn't matter if they did it first you should have left

victoriaxoxo · Answer

The times I've revenge cheated I got to regret it every time. It's just childish and it gives the person who hurt you a right to now say that you're the bad guy.

DoctorSex · Answer

The best way to get even is to walk away. my attempts to "hurt the other person", will ultimately end up hurting yourself in ways you're scarcely aware of consciously. Kind regards, DoctorSex

boredgal · Answer

yes. just because someone hurt you it doesn't mean you have to hurt them too. just my opinion, we have different personalities. do what makes you feel better.

jazque · Answer

Um... yes!!! The fact you think that is a sitiuation to get "even" on.  That makes you no better than them. Actually makes you worse. Say "fuck you. Your loss !" And walk away

Sarahr123 · Answer

Well umm basically do it and then break up with them. No point staying with them if they cheated on you obviously the relationship has run its course.

JRGaide01 · Answer

If you have yo ask, you probably know the answer. Cheating doesn’t even the score. It’s game over. The relationship is toast! It can go on possibly for a while but the affection will be gone and you’ll be left with an empty feeling. Look in the mirror and you’ll detest the person you see. Cheat and the person isn’t worth it. Ironically, that makes it not cheating because there is nothing there anyway. Good luck. Find one someone you can trust.

Bmories99 · Answer

While it could be considered a gray area. Yes it's still cheating. Just a thought but you are now doing the same thing that you are upset with your SO for. In my relatively short life unless it's math 2 negatives don't usually make a positive.

Marshymallow · Answer

It’s kinda fair but still gross and weird. Like if it’s not an open relationship then why do you stay together and cheat? What is the point of the relationship if you both are cheaters.

Kabluie · Answer

If you don't have permission, it's basically cheating.  Plenty of relationships have permission to sleep with other people, whether solo or together. It's all about what is agreed upon and boundaries.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I voted for the last option. I wouldn’t even say that revenge cheating is “wrong” but it’s weird.
like just break up with them and move on like an
adult lol
I think it’s immature high school shit.

KAT247 · Answer

Getting even is toxic. If someone decides to cheat on their partner, it’s best to just end it instead of trying to get even. Not worth it

godfatherfan · Answer

Cheating is cheating. period. Just because she is a cunt doesn't mean you need to be one also.

Yu-Mi · Answer

You don't need to be like him to prove your point or make him suffer, i wish many people can understand this.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

If you consider sexual relations outsude of your relationship then it does not matter if you have sexual relations with someone outside of your relationship first or in so called revenge it is called cheating.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i believe in Lord Jesus Christ and so i end up things and do not cheat

lovedejj_xo · Answer

It’s wrong. My ex in college cheated on me and I cheated back on him to get “even” but still felt like complete shit so who really wins here? It was pointless of me to stoop to his level. But I was 18 either way don’t do that it’s wrong!!!

Moonshae · Answer

it is cheating. you want to get even then break up.

Diamold · Answer

Cheating is still cheating even if your partner cheated on you first. You're just lowering yourself to the same scum level.

Just end the relationship and move on. After that, you're free to do whatever you want.

AviatorTom · Answer

Cheating is cheating, regardless of your attempted justification.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Two wrongs don't make a right. If you can't handle thier cheating then leave. Cheating back dosen't resolve anything

RACSKC0B · Answer

Killing, cheating, lying it is what it is, doesn't matter if it's for duty, profit, or fun.

Luopio27 · Answer

Two wrongs doesn't make a right. If someone cheats on you, then doing nothing is not right either. Leaving her is better than using an innocent woman as a tool of revenge, to get back at the cheater.

t_time · Answer

It's playing games. Someone cheats once there totally out of my life. I don't stand for cheaters

driven159 · Answer

cheating is cheating and for getting even makes you even worse because you cheated and did it for revenge tit for tat is still cheating and makes you just as bad if not worse

qwert1234 · Answer

Yes. An eye for an eye makes the world go blind.

zagor · Answer

Don't get even, get gone. Unless you don't mind the cheating, in which case there is no point in getting even.

RationalMale · Answer

If the person cheated and you're doing the same level (you can't hookup with someone if your partner merely sexted for ex) it's fair.

H8INCHES · Answer

There is no excuss to cheat. You will be the asshole who cheated no matter why. Walk away and hold your head up. That person isn't worth another second of your life.

Chaser3232 · Answer

Don’t get even, get focused! Revenge is never good. Get to stepping, self care!

EarthRealm · Answer

No It’s not.  As the saying goes  Cheating Is only bad if you believe The Bible.

wouterv · Answer

Cheating is cheating also you should 't be able to cheat back you should break up if someone cheats on you

Zolly99999 · Answer

Unfortunately yes but i have done it many times too in the past.. i always went with double the number i knew about to get even

Anonymous · Answer

Mean spirited and you lose the high ground moral advantage. Better to criticise their poor morals until the end of time.

GreatnessBack · Answer

Yes, and your also a cunt.  Just leave them where they are.

baserunner611 · Answer

It hard to say very hard to say. But if the person cheating fall in love you major problem

Lycanthropic · Answer

Yes, because you decided to stay with that person instead of dumping them.

Valso · Answer

Your what is getting even? I need some clarification bc that question makes no sense.

Anonymous · Answer

Is it murder if you're gettin' even? Two wrongs never make a right. A cheater is a cheater no matter why they choose to cheat.

MisLed0ne · Answer

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Let karma handle it.

enocheli · Answer

not so much getting even just want something back

normalice · Answer

all cheating is getting even.

Sarahplus2 · Answer

It's being childish and a douche

VikingWarLord · Answer

You're***  Several times there pal

Freyke · Answer

Yes, but more childish.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Two wrongs don't make a right, you donut.

idkwhatishere · Answer

No it's not. It's getting even.

Wise4myage · Answer

Of course its still cheating.

msc545 · Answer

still cheating.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I guess not

countrygirl8754 · Answer

Yes it is tbh

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