What y’all think about long distance relationship? 🥺?

[Turean]

Yes

No

[Texaskid1]

How will it work if you are too far away?

You will need actually physical intimacy to cement the relationship and also you need to have face to face time with the person to see how they look like and how they are when not in front of a computer screen.

Let's say you develop some feelings for some person you met online ; you have never met them in real life. What if they are much uglier in real life? What if they have bad body odor / hygiene? What if they have a SO that they have not told you about? Also, there will be elements of their personality that you will not be able to pick up behind a computer screen.

I have a buddy who met some girl in real life while he was on some internship (out of state) He was from one part of the country and she was from the opposite coast. During the internship they had some face to face time ( a few weeks) and they hit it off. The internship ends and they go back to their respective cities. They continue to talk to eachother via Skype for about 6 months. They figure that they are in love so my friend moves across the country to move in with her. He soon realizes that she is bat shit out of her fucking mind crazy. Still , he marries her thinking things will smooth out over time.

Nope.

She continues with the insanity. He tells me the horror stories. They would have screaming matches several times a week. She kicked him out of the house and he slept on the streets for several days. She would accuse him of cheating - she was also insanely jealous ; I recall we all went out to eat together and after the waitress refills his drinks he says "thank you" to the waitress and smiles at her. His wife shoots him the death glance over a thank you and a polite smile and as they are driving me back home to drop me off they get into a shouting match in front of me and another friend of mine who was with us.

All this over a smile and a thank you. ( there are other similar instances) . Anyways, he filed for divorce about a year later. I recall him telling me that that marrying her was the worst decision he ever made.

Yes , there are some long distance relationships that last and work out but it is very , very risky.

[MrOracle]

Absolutely NOT! You will regret it, it will waste your precious time that you will never get back, and the chances of it failing within the first year are above 95%. It's a singularly awful idea, especially to START a LDR.

You need to delete your dating apps and your social media, get off your phone, and go OUTSIDE into the world and meet LOCAL men and date THEM. Men who live close enough to you that you can see them 3-5 days a week, on a continuing basis. THAT is what a relationship is - not texting and sending selfies on a smartphone.

[1GoldTwins]

Yes! But I'm too scared of it, I don't think it's for me.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Why not

[1GoldTwins]

@Bklynbadboy12 What if I fall out of love? What if he falls out of love? So many people are closer by, it's more convenient

[Bklynbadboy12]

That can happen in a regular relationship as well but that love everytime you fall for someone your exposed and there's always a chance you can get hurt but trust me it's worth it

[Wubs3000]

No go. I thought they were possible but since I've actually had a relationship I can't imagine it. There is no physical intimacy's and you can't substitute real in person feelings and experiences with some texts and calls. Online relationships where you don't meet up semi often are probably doomed to fail 99.9% of the time (ofc there are exceptions.)

Relationships where you meet in real life and then someone moves midway through the relationship probably won't work out either most of the time.

[Stevepro68]

Doooomed doomed unless it is not education related, and short and defined. If you are both in school it will just not work out.

[JakeS00]

Not my thing anymore unless it actually is going to go somewhere other than online. Even that is a waste of time. In person is better.

[exitseven]

I had one for 3 years. I was miserable the whole time.

[Shadow_Monarch]

Takes a lot of effort to maintain, but usually ends in failure.

[In_Trance]

Lame

[Turean]

Lol🤣🤣🤣

[Bklynbadboy12]

I think long distance relationships are what you make them

[Anonymous]

Short term with a known timeline by both parties once the relationship has been established it is okay. Anything else is destined for failure.

[Guy13]

Impossible to succeed

[RuthlessAggression]

for fuckin retards

[Passing_by]

Highly inadvisable

[animesenpai]

They dont work