Is it a red flag if a woman wants too many pets?

[Anonymous]

So, I'm talking with a woman who I seem to be on the same page with about so many things. Our personalities, what brings us peace, what we're looking for, whether to have kids, etc.; we agree on lots of important things. I enjoy talking with her a great deal. She is my dream girl in so many ways. We agree on so much that I'm actually somewhat concerned that she might just be telling me what she thinks I want to hear.

One thing we don't agree about though, is pets. She's told me that she wants a lot of fur babies. She wants 2 purebred dogs, an exotic cat, and 2 exotic birds. She's listed particular species, but I don't want to include those to keep things somewhat private if she were to read this.

She doesn't have much experience with pet ownership, so I'm concerned that she'll buy these animals (which cost a fair bit of money) and then either lose interest in them or the responsibility of taking care of them will be passed on to me.

I don't want to be hyperbolic, but I feel like her wanting a lot of pets might be a bit of a redflag to me. Am I being stupid or is this a legitimate concern?

That's a red flag to me too.

I can see why you're concerned; you should talk with her

I can see why you're concerned, but it's not a big deal

That's not a red flag, my friend; you're color blind.

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I have experience with pet ownership myself, so that's a bit of my concern.

[h3llfireclub]

I know several people who had a childhood dream of owning several pets. Most of them made it happen and are very happy with them, and their pets are well taken care of.

Unless there are red flags (like wanting to buy them when she isn't financially well off enough to afford to keep them, or a history of not treating pets well/shrinking responsibility) I wouldn't worry about it too much.

[Asker]

Gotcha, okay. Thank you for sharing your experience!

[CallMeDave]

I understand your concern, but if you're a good match in other ways, I wouldn't consider it a deal breaker. Maybe you can convince her to only add one pet at a time to see how that goes and not jump right into that many at once. Maybe either she'll realize that what she wants is too much or maybe you'll see that she can really handle all of that without any significant negative impact on you.