Are you a high maintenance or an easy to please kind of partner?

[Pinay_ako]

[CrazyGirl2]

I guess it depends entirely on what the guy is expecting. If he thinks he’s getting laid after a first date… think again, and if he pushes it to the point where, he starts acting entitled to my body… I can become extremely unpleasant! For everyone else though.. If he asked me out, but cannot afford an expensive restaurant, THAT’s absolutely FINE! I’ve had plenty of dates where a guy took me to a movie (which, by the way, is a terrible 1st date idea, b/c you cannot talk or get to know each other!) but we ended up at Denny’s after that, which was nice! We got to know each other, and it resulted in a second date..

In a relationship, I don’t think that I am high maintenance at all, neither am I a “high maintenance girlfriend”, but to be fair that is more likely going to be something only my ex-boyfriend can answer! However… I never want, ask for, or expect gifts…ESPECIALLY JEWELRY! I’m not the ‘moody’ type, I don’t get PMSey, except maybe the day before I get my period. And although I enjoy listening to what my partner thinks or feels, and his hopes and dreams, I understand that not everyone will be completely comfortable talking about such things, so especially on dates in the early stages of a relationship, I try not to ask what someone is thinking. My logic being if he wanted me to know what he was thinking, he would have just said it out loud!

I actively encourage boyfriends, and even guys I’m dating to spend time w/ their friends and not just spend every free waking moment w/ me! I understand how important friends and friendships are. I appreciate every minute I get to spend with MY friends, I would NEVER deny that important time to anyone especially not a man I care about!

Lastly, I’m very easy going. I understand that things come-up, family emergencies happen, cars break down, and bosses can call at the last minute to demand you come to work b/c something is going around, and he has nobody to staff the store, office, restaurant, whatever! What I NEVER do, is get mad at them because of unavoidable circumstances! That’s completely unfair!

The only thing I have ever demanded from any man in a relationship, at any stage of that relationship is honesty! Don’t lie to me, EVER! I will not tolerate liars. It’s almost as bad of a betrayal as infidelity, and while I don’t think I’m all that, I don’t care what anyone looks like… we ALL deserve better than to be cheated on and/or lied to… about anything!

[Manab]

Wow you sound too good to be true 😮

[CrazyGirl2]

@Manab That’s very kind of you! I assure you that I’m real, I think that my healthy attitude towards relationships just came from watching my parents interact. How, although they’ve been married for 28yrs, they are still like newlyweds… and best friends! Watching my mom respect my father, never speak ill of him to her friends, especially after they’d had an argument. But also, given that I spent so much time w/ dad in my teens helping Jim restore cars, his friends were around so I got to watch how he spoke of her, and I’ve never once heard him speak disrespectfully about my mom to his friends. They are a wonderful example of what a couple should be.

[Manab]

That's great , and generally expected from someone of your background. But time has changed a lot and you are still very young. You haven't seen much of life yet , or been betrayed or perhaps nothing bad happened to you (emotionally). Not all people are same background as you. Even good people change over time. Innocent little girls change and become different (men too). You can just hope for the best but will not know what lies in future.

[CrazyGirl2]

*** Helping HIM restore cars *** (def not “Jim”) lol 😂

[CrazyGirl2]

@Manab Obviously nobody could possibly know the future, and you are right to point that out. However you have NO right to assume that I, or anyone who you know NOTHING about has had ANY kind of life, just because they are young, pretty, female, male, poor, or wealthy! All you know is where they are today, and what they have chosen to tell you. You certainly have no right to assume anything like: “You haven't seen much of life yet , or been betrayed or perhaps nothing bad happened to you (emotionally)” Because on my 13th birthday I was raped by my uncle! Something he continued doing every weekday for three months, until he got me pregnant, and I needed emergency surgery to remove the fetus, because given my tiny size, carrying a baby to term could have very easily killed me! As for being betrayed… it took years for me to be able to trust a man, and after two years I began dating my FIRST real boyfriend, Mike. Mike waited patiently for me to be ready for sex which took me a year and on our on year anniversary, we had sex. Two days later I discovered that he had been cheating on me for a while! So do not pretend you know someone JUST because they are wealthy, or pretty or young! It’s arrogant and condescending and you seem like you are a decent guy, I'm sure you don’t want people to think that you are arrogant or condescending! Maybe… actually get to know someone first, BEFORE you tell them about their own life. Thank you for your understanding.

[Manab]

It's very unfortunate, what happened to you. Yes, you can't assume about people but this is an online forum and people assume about each other from the replies and conversations. Earlier you have mentioned only happy stuff about yourself and if you don't know the other people personally, it happens. People make assumptions about others, that's very common everywhere. Teachers assume students are dumb, parents assume kids are dumb, and old people assume the young generation is worthless.
However too much positive outlook on life can be problematic, it clouds our judgment towards people. Then you can't differentiate between wrong and right guys. People with too much positive attitude sometimes run toward bad people trying to change their life which actually can never happen. See what happened to Jesus, they hanged him at such a young age. Just be careful about that. Why did he cheat? if true, you sound like a wonderful girl, pretty good-looking too.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Manab Well first, there’s a huge difference between general assumptions about a generation because they are different to how you remember being at that age, or making assumptions about students (mostly for the same reason), but that is the wrong thing to do. Second, No parent thinks their children are dumb! Parents are constantly bragging about their kids, it’s all they do! As for me, OF COURSE I only spoke of positive things! How would you have me answer a question about whether I consider myself “High maintenance”? Just say, “Well my uncle raped me, then my first boyfriend cheated on me, so that really hurt, but I’m not high maintenance, honestly!”. As for this being an online forum, THEREFORE everybody assumes. Nobody should ever assume anything about someone when answering a question. All we can do (if they ask for help) is look at the facts, apply our OWN experiences, and basically just say what WE would do in that case, and hope it works. Making assumptions about strangers is never good, and should never be accepted. Think about it, racism is really just people making assumptions about strangers, so is sexism! I understand that sometimes questions are so vague, that you have to make SOME assumptions, but assuming something as specific as “ You haven't seen much of life yet , or been betrayed… perhaps nothing bad happened to you” is a pretty huge assumption to make about someone. I guess I'm saying that you seem like a nice person, you don’t come across as a guy who doesn't care. I'm so used to people making assumptions about me, that it doesn’t hurt that much when people assume that my life has been nothing but rainbows and unicorns and happiness, just because I’m pretty, and I have friends, and I have fun. But I’ve already been to hell, I deserve a little happiness right now. Also, thank you for being so courteous, my experience on GaG isn’t always this pleasant, so I appreciate when someone makes this a pleasure.
Sincerely, Laura.

[Manab]

Parents are always proud? Well, perhaps you haven't met enough Asian parents. Secondly, it's totally okay to be high maintenance as long as you are earning it. What's the definition of high maintenance, someone who likes expensive stuff, like clothes, jewels, gadgets, cars, or lifestyle? People assume being high maintenance bad as very often money corrupts morality and they turn out to be rude, offensive, and arrogant. If someone's earning their own money to support their high-class lifestyle and still good at nature, that's totally ok. But somehow that's not the most cases, cause it's not the money earned by them but their daddies' or partners' money or often money earned from illegal practices. You can be good and be high maintenance and can have the same expectations from your partners. I have seen both, high maintenance good girl and low maintainance but a still crappy girl.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Manab I suppose I just go with the standard definition of high maintenance…. As in something (or someone) that or who needs more attention than the average equivalent relationship or product. Just like a car that needs to go to the dealership every 3 weeks for service is a high maintenance car, a romantic partner who requires considerably more of your attention than the average romantic partner would be considered “high maintenance”!

[Manab]

That's the emotional side of maintenance, but there's a physical side too, expensive grooming and acceseries. Anyways can we talk in chat?

[CrazyGirl2]

@Manab No thank you, I prefer all communication regarding a forum question, to take place IN the forum where the question was asked. If nothing else, at least other’s will possibly benefit from the discussion.

[Manab]

Sure but I was inferring to more general conversations apart from this. You seems nice to talk to. If that isn't your intent , fine...

[CrazyGirl2]

@Manab Thanks, but I really don’t have too much to say in private to someone who makes THAT many assumptions about my life based on nothing more than my age, and that I’m pretty.

[Manab]

You got me wrong in that, it was not much intended to personally hurt you and I said sorry, yet you are still hanging upon the earlier comment. Anyways as you wish.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Manab Wait, I’m “still hanging on to the earlier comment” This comment, do you mean the one from YESTERDAY? Im curious how much experience you have living with a lover, girlfriend, or wife if you are shocked that we can still be upset by something you said or did that upset us YESTERDAY?
You just wrote “…was not much intended to personally hurt you and I said sorry, yet you are still hanging upon the earlier comment”. Could you PLEASE show me where you said (or wrote) that you were sorry to me for your comments that hurt me? I have read, re-read, and re-re-read, but I cannot find where you wrote that you were sorry! Im sure that I merely overlooked it, so if you could simply copy and paste where you apologized, and include which paragraph it is in, I would VERY much appreciate it.

[Manab]

The "it's very unfortunate" , comment was kinda an apology and you could have seen it if it was a face to face conversation.
I don't have much experience talking with the opposite gender. So if I was not clear earlier , I am truly sorry if I said something that have hurt your personally without knowing you. Knowing people and getting to know about the opposite gender are the reason , I am here.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Manab Okay, I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt, and assume that you meant “I’m sorry THAT I hurt you” and not what you wrote which was “I’m sorry IF I hurt you”, because I was definitely hurt by the comments. But thank you for the apology, believe me when I say, I REALLY appreciate it.

[LogicalGal123]

I would considered myself high maintenance🤷🏻‍♀️ I think because I like certain things and do certain things but I work my ass off to get what I want. My boyfriend, however thinks differently because he said I'm not high maintenance because I don't expect nor ask anything from him. He said I'm easy🤷🏻‍♀️ whatever that means but it's whatever.

[DannyUk2017]

High Maintenance is Stupid, not saying is not good, but is stupid... He/She gets Used to it, and when like (usa) tornado hits their "wealth", they start crying couse they have to start OVER!, Thats why you have to be Grateful of what you have, Grateful that you have Food on the table, Grateful that u wake up every morning, u can walk, talk, think, cycle, ride the buss, etc... etc...
You have to LOWER ur maintenance, And build Your thing that you want in life, and that has to go BOTH ways.
So the Lower the Maintenance, the Better chances of finding the so much Wanted Partner!.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

A medium maintenance on my own. An easy to please person for my partner.
Her efforts alone are enough for me.

[Apple1996]

Extremely low maintenance and easy to please like just leave me alone most days and I'll be happy

[caring__1]

The more we rely on handouts and external validation, the lower our self-esteem becomes. Only by challenging ourselves and gaining a sense of accomplishment can our self-esteem grow. High maintenance people expect others to do all the work to make them feel worthwhile, yet, deep down, high maintenance people will never feel more than momentary true happiness and fulfillment. They might wear a facade of happiness, but constant striving for others to do for them will never truly take them where they want to go.

[melanieeeB]

Uhm I got told that I'm easy and like no drama and shit but I do have standards and I do expect stuff from others, not materialistic stuff but more from their behavior they do have to act up kinda thing and I don't tolerate disrespectful behavior or I don't tolerate people trying to play games or whatever!
I immediately call them out and shit

[savagewolf22]

But how did you know they are playing games? You only knows once you get played. No?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I'm pretty easy but I do have expectations that I expect to have met.

It's not your or my responsibility to maintain somebody else. You're dating me, not my money, not my status, not a personal assistant or some other shit.

I expect you to communicate clearly and like an adult because if a woman starts trying to "test" me, I'm not going to entertain it.

If the purpose of dating to you isn't to start a family and grow together, I'm not interested in you.

[hIopinionated_]

People may believe I’m high maintenance but honestly all I want is a guy who’s overall isn’t sexist: is loyal, loving, respectful, and honest. These are literally bare minimum things but many men act as if it’s impossible to not believe a woman’s place is in the kitchen and not voting or being attentive to YOUR partner is hard you have to cheat or lying or being considerate isn’t ‘manly’


These aren’t hard things

[D_Bone_Steak]

Considering I'm just fine and dandy by myself and it's usually other people that fuck up my day... I think of myself as very low maintenance as far as needs. I think needy people view me as a problem though because I try to make myself as useless as possible so they can't try to use me.

[midnightmoon05]

I need the bare minimum. 😊❤️. I deserve nothing but the best! 🥰. That’s my philosophy 🤣…

When I travel, I pack light. Anything I forgot, I get by… if I must need something. I buy it.

I get ready in 5-10. I don’t like to waste time.
I love my partner. Give me a hug, a kiss, respect me, love me. I give back more.

[Adam1978]

Well it really depends, I do have expectations but they are all free. I will not take any effort if you are the right person to begin with. Ie loyalty, consideration, respect, no nagging. I don't understand why people try to add things to thst list, it just creates a lot of extra work and effort. Your life would be so much more peaceful and frictionless if they didn't. It's like they want relationship to fail.

[DermalPunch]

Do exactly as I say, and no one gets hurt. LOL

But seriously, I don't ask for much but I want what I ask for and I believe in compromise. I have to see effort and a willingness to cater to me since I absolutely give more than I get. I don't have an issue with that. I am a doter. But I need respect, appreciation, acknowledgement and HONESTY!!!

[qwert1234]

Super low maintenance and easy to please.

I don't "demand" anything than the basics of human-relationship acts - like respect, honesty and the likes.

Well, there is one exception - my partner needs to either have a legal job or has a business. Practically, she should be earning her own - or is actively looking for job.

[BurntKeyboard]

I tried to be low maintenance with my last, and only, boyfriend. I have a problem with always wanting physical contact though. Not even sexual, just like I have to be holding hands for several hours straight or I feel weird. I don't know what that is. On everything else though, I guess I'm low maintenance

[Finchie40]

Easy , I am very content and happy with what I achieved and worked for

[Pinay_ako]

In relationships

[Finchie40]

Relationships I take seriously considering I been burned before , so all I really expect is for her to stay loyal to me and make me feel wanted and valued and respect me the same way I will do to her , remove selfishness for each other and make each other number 1 priority , if she can’t do that then I won’t be committed to her , what would really be the point? The way I look at it is , I really don’t need anyone , I am perfectly capable of supporting myself so for me to be committed to someone I have to feel we are a team that has each other’s backs, It’s her and I Vs. The world , if a problem arises we fix it instead of running to someone else , also sex and affection shouldn’t be an issue with us , when that becomes an issue then so does the relationship is the way I look at it. Making each other a number 1 priority will make love grow , When you wear your partners shoes like they should be wearing yours before making decisions , Just because something seems alright for you it doesn’t mean it will be alright to your partner , Most people don’t grasp that concept and wonder why they end up single or cheated on. You font’s get committed to be single if you do you are just wasting your time

[Autember]

I think I'm high maintenance.. emotionally. I need to feel that you care. As long as I feel that then we are good. I am pretty independent otherwise but I need that connection.

[Still-alive]

Damn im pretty much the same there. I gotta feel that you care

[BullShark]

If her efforts are genuine and from the heart, I'll still be pleased with whatever she does no matter what. I'm a firm believer in the quote "it's the thought that counts".

[letuswaltzforthedead]

I would say low maintenance materially but high maintenance emotionally, so I guess a little bit of both? I can't have any sort of relationship if we're not talking. Same goes for friends.

[WhiteSteve]

Easy to please for sure. Just don’t give me shit about how I go about my business and we’re cool. I can’t even imagine instigating a fight in a relationship.

[BadRepresentative]

High maintenance. I don't think I want a lot, but I need a lot, and any potential partner might have to deal with meltdowns, odd obsessions, insecurities and a complete lack of self-care.

[NZGirl07]

I'd say high maintenance emotionally. I like to have a lot of quality time, support, reassurance and such things. But I don't need a guy to pay for me or my nails, hair or buy me designer bags.

[Kaneki05]

I would say nah, though one could say so because I do love my cuddles and I do not cope well been away from the person.

[ChiTown33]

I think I'm very easy going. But like the Pic says, " that doesn't mean I deserve the bare minimum. I guess I just require her to show an equal amount of commitment to me. If I get that I'm happy.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I’m very easy to please. I don’t like a lot of materialistic things and grand gestures personally. I enjoy the simple life

[HaveNoName]

Haha. Normally that goes for ladies but there is one thing that annoys my wife. I have so many clothes. I am a clothes collector. And she says she wishes she could use much of the wardrobe spaces that I occupy. Yikes...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Very easy. I don't ask for hardly nothing nor expect nothing much.

All I ask for is my respect and amazing sex that puts my butt to sleep.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yet you’re still single

[Kori1236]

Mix of both, just depends on the situation. In general though I’m easy to please

[JaxiCats]

I don’t know anymore usually I’m low maintenance but recently my mood and stuff has been shit so I require more than I usually would.

[NathanDavis]

I just asked and waited for feedback...

feedback: "easy AF"

[Jamie05rhs]

I expect respect at the bare minimum. If I feel like you don't give a shit about me, then I won't want to be in a relationship with you and I won't even try.

[TacosRAwesome]

Quite easy to please. Don't get in the way of my dinner and don't be an ass.

[RavVid]

Easy to please. You just have to be nice is all.

[Redstang88]

Some common interests, put out, and don’t be completely crazy. Doesn’t sound like much but seems to be a big ask now

[CuriousMufuxka]

Ridiculously high maintenance. I am a brat that will use any tactic and/or technique at my disposal to get what I want. And what I want may change upon my mood :)

[Phoenix98]

I'm very simple and easy to please and I'm not at all high maintenance.

[Kabluie]

I'm easy, I can do a lot of things on my own.

[TheBigGuy9]

A little of both. Some things you get simple pleasures from. Some things take a little more effort to get pleasure from. Like someone that is loyal.

[Still-alive]

Well im definitely not high maintenance at all lol. so scratch that one. just buy me video games and im all yours lol.

jk

[Emilyis]

I'm not high maintence but I do have a nice makeup kit and I buy my clothes off the forsale rack.

[Pinay_ako]

Is about relationships

[Emilyis]

I'm sorry, apparently I only read part of it.

[Pinay_ako]

How about in relationships

[jengeorge26]

I am easily pleased, but not everyone will agree?

[GlassTop]

Only thing I need is a girl who is loyal and is down for anal.

[Twalli]

I'm not high maintenance, and neither is my girlfriend. I don't think I could be with someone who was highg maintenance.

[Beardedman1996]

Easy to please, to high expectations ruin relationships, especially when your trying to be happy not content

[red324]

I don't expect much but it seems like even that is too much to ask these days

[red324]

All I ask is to show up when scheduled for a date and and consider me a little more of a priority than just another option.

[Sparkie460]

I am easy to please. I don't need a lot of material things. Simple things make me happy.

[Philyouup]

easy to please as
long as there is mutual respect

[RealDaveThomas]

I have no idea but I'm probably high maintenance

[KrakenAttackin]

Most men ask for very, very, little in a relationship.

[Nigjt]

Easy to please when it comes to materialistic things.
God Bless

[TallAnon]

That depends whether they also have a high sex drive or not.

[Silver158]

Easy going but because of that I expect people to take me seriously when I have an issue

[Jltakk]

Easy to please. Just genuinely want to spend time with me.

[Con29]

People say I am high maintenance but my ex was high maintenance.

[Marshymallow]

I may seem high maintenance but I don’t think I am. Just a little in between

[KrakenAttackin]

No woman actually realizes they are high maintenance.

[Blackcosmo]

I've always been low maintenance.

[2Wheels]

I'm definitely easy to please.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Nope I'm most likely never gonna ask for anything

[JoyGirl]

I am in the middle.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Easy to please kind of guy

[Andres77]

Easy to please

[Wise4myage]

I consider myself a low maintenance man.

[Andro36]

Im totally easy to please

[Kkoalalita]

I’m pretty easy to please