Been with her for 6 years now, proposed to her earlier this year to which she happily said yes. I love this girl to death, I'm very excited to marry her. However, lately I feel like my needs aren't getting met in our relationship. Our relationship has had its ups and downs, for all I know this is probably just a "down" period, but what's weighing on me is that this is has been going on ever since we've been getting engaged.
We do split chores 50/50. I make more money and do take on more expenses (she does contribute as well). Overall sex is still happening regularly, although it has dwindled somewhat over the past few weeks, and we're still affectionate with each other. However, she's been very stressed out lately, partly about saving for our wedding, but also because she's feeling stressed about a few recent situations with her friends and family. I won't go into that, but long story short it's nothing directly involving her, but rather she's on the sidelines. She's also frustrated with her body at the moment, even though I think she looks fucking amazing and her hard work in the gym is really starting to pay off.
With that being said, when she gets stressed out she has a tendency to just shut off and neglect putting in effort into the relationship from her end beyond the bare minimum. The problem is there's ALWAYS something that's stressing her out. I have been putting efforts from my end beyond the bare minimum, but it feels like I'm putting 80% to get less than 20% back. This is not the first time this has happened. I do tell her if certain needs aren't getting met, and she does acknowledge it but I feel like she just "forgets" about it, or it falls on deaf ears.
Part of me is beginning to feel like she just wants to get away with doing "just enough" to keep me locked in, but not go above and beyond. It feels very frustrating when I go above and beyond for her.
Any advice is appreciated, thank you!
