I was never really looking for a relationship for some reason, until now and I’m 30. I’m curious about the men and women out there 🤔? And what made you want a relationship in the first place?
I think I was around 14-15 when I developed the need to have a relationship of my own. Around that time, all of my classmates including myself were undergoing the phases of puberty and developing into adulthood. Girls were less gross to look at, started developing breasts, wider hips and looked overall more attractive to us. As for us guys, we gained growth spurts, started developing body and facial hair, our voices started to crack and get deeper, and we all started to get random outbreaks of acne. But most of all, it was the time when I realized that my dick wasn't there just for peeing lol.
That all being said, majority of my classmates started getting in relationships of their own. The hot, popular girls started dating the bigger more jock-like bullies who'd previously bully them a few years ago, and the struggle to become popular and be seen by the opposite sex became more and more competitive. Naturally, I wanted to be in a relationship myself and see what it felt like to kiss a girl and maybe even get physical on a more intimate level.
I always want a boyfriend when I was in Middle School but I didn't really understand what a boyfriend was, I kind of thought a boyfriend like somebody that you flirt with and that's kind of it (no strong feeling to it).
I had some feelings to like one or two boys when I was in Middle School like a crush but I never really wanted to be my boyfriend like that like that.
as I get older I started actually wanting to get into an actual relationship with just any guy (loneness came in) not like sexually just how they look and how they talked to me.
Now that am a little bit older and started learning from my mistakes in the past of my relationships I started to learn how relationships are supposed to work. There's some things that I was doing that was toxic and I either knew it or I didn't know it was 98% of the time where I didn't know and the rest of those percentages like that 2%, I did know.
I am wiser and I am much more mature than when I was 16 and I am grateful and highly favored and blessed to have got showed by God what a red flags in guys that I date so I'm able to include what I learned so when it happens again I would know. when I start to date again with guys but I'm going to only date Christian men only. God thank you for being my light went it's dark. in Jesus name Amen!😇 Have a blessed day everyone and God loves you all!!!👋🏽👋🏽👋🏽
20-25, I thought I'd get a guy but then college and other shit was at the forefront. And guys that age (especially at that time in the 2000's) was rather immature!
After 25, I started feeling badly that I was still single and so yeah... I became curious an horny with you know what!
29/30, I thought I'd be settling down but it was not to be.
32, I thought I met him but he wasn't healthy. But I did love him a lot.
38, he came back to me but he was STILL not healthy! In fact, I think he was worse sadly!
I liked girls for as long as I remember. I recall a teacher giving me shit because we held hands in like gr 1. The first girl I really liked was in gr 7-8. I used to buy her gifts & draw pictures until one day her friend said she actually hated me but liked the gifts. That was only reason she was nice to me. Lesson learned there
I had various short term relationships until gr 10. I started dating a gr 9 we dated for probably a year or so. We split amicably and kept hooking up afterwards.
Once again various flings nothing serious until gr 12 I started dating a gr 11 girl. We dated for a couple years. It was great we never fought ever she literally wanted sex anytime anywhere. I sorta felt she was the one and I could’ve went away to school but didn’t to stay close to her
Unfortunately she went away to school and that was it. Rough break up primarily because anytime she came home she’d cry and carry on saying she loved me. But at school she had a boyfriend there.
After that I took a break for a number of years from like mid 20 to 30 and basically gave in to full fledged debauchery. Until I met my wife & now I’m a good boy 😈
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I was a bit of a late bloomer in terms of dating and liking guys.
I didn't even have my first real crush on a guy until I was 17 years old and a senior in high school!
My mom embedded in me at an early age to focus on school and getting a good job and education over dating, so guys weren't exactly high priority to me. At least until I got to college, was in a different scene, away from my family, and was around guys more... it didn't help that most of the girls I was around or friends with had boyfriends, or were pursuing relationships, so "monkey see, monkey do!"
So I'd say around my late teens, early 20s is when I wanted a relationship.
I was 14 at that time. He was 17. He was a varsity basketball player… It was nice to have an older popular boyfriend and I was a sophomore. Cheering for him from the sidelines and getting a 🫶 from him while on the court made a lot of senior girls mad 😠 and jealous and idc! Good times 💕 We lasted for almost a year. He had to go to college far away. I didn’t want an LDR. He still came back to visit.
25 to 30. I lived where hookers were legal and cheap, so I had no desire to deal with women beyond banging a couple of different girls before I went to bed. Thanks to America pushing the rest of the world to comply with it's ideals, it became illegal and that's when I began to maintain LTR's with two girls... and whatever girl I could pick up in a bar here and there. When I moved to America my sexual market value plummeted. The choice in women was worse as well... too many fat women. I ended up getting married and have been for over 10 years.
If I still had access to vagina on tap, I don't think I'd bother with relationships. It's too bothersome
I think it's interesting how some people NEED a relationship... I've been in and out of relationships and dynamics since I was 12, been some busy streaks and some. dry spells, but I've never once NEEDED a relationship or my SO... And make that very clear, often telling the outright that I'm with them because I WANT to be with THEM, not because I NEED to be with SOMEONE, and that they are very special because that means I picked them, they're not just a placeholder for something more interesting.
First time I started crushing seriously on anyone was probably at age 11 or 12. I got really serious about it at 15. Had almost zero real luck until I was about 25 or 26, and those didn't last long. Didn't get physically lucky until about 31. Again, it didn't last long. The maddest in-love I've ever been with anyone, didn't happen until about 34. Then Hong Kong got attacked, and everything went to Hell everywhere.
It's been very hard to move on since.
When I was 12 and my little brother was 8, we had a baby sitter (for my little brother) when my parents went out. The baby sitter was 16 and I was in love with her. I tried to get her to have sex with me but she wouldn't because I was only 12. I did ask her to show me her tits and she pulled up her t-shirt and unhooked her bra. She asked me to jerk off in front of her which I did. I came all over her perfect tits. I don't know why she would do that but not have sex.
14 was my first relationship. After kisses, hand holding and external touchy stuff that happens when two people like each other, combined with puberty, it came together. It was natural too, partners sitting next to each other on the bus or walking home, at lunch, writing letters to each other in-class kind of things. Classmates were certainly hooking up.
Maybe 5, if not sooner. There was this girl that used to babysit me, her name was Cherry and I had a crush on her. Then it was a girl ii Kindergarten as well as my teacher. Then it was various other girls I knew in school until I met Emily Swank. I was madly in love with her fr 13 years, until I met my first girlfriend. Last I heard from Emily was about a year before that.
I was a teenager when I started really started desiring a meaningful relationship and by my early 20s I was perfectly open to the idea of settling down with someone I really cared about. Simply wanting something doesn't make getting it any easier though 😅
For me, only form of relationship possible that I believe in was marriage and I deleyed it as much as it could in the 20s. Then a time comes when you start getting lonely with all your friends getting married and getting lost in their own family lives. At that point, you start giving in to parents' wishes.
I started thinking about relationships with like 18/19ish and had my first experiences from 20 up but I will say, just since last year I'm ready ready for a serious relationship tho
I daydreamed a bit when I was a teenager. I had my first relationship when I was 16. I don’t recall wanting a relationship because I wasn’t allowed anyway. I just had crushes and daydreams.
As a kid it was around 11-12. I think I was it was because I was probably influenced by watching shows like The Wonder Years and Saved By The Bell at the time.
I started desiring a relationship when I had to college. Went through a couple of boyfriends until I met my husband when I was doing graduate work.
Even if it was just high school sweethearts I was looking for a relationship at 15 or 16. Now if you're talking serious long-term. I really wasn't looking until 20 or 21
u I first had a girlfriend at age 16... and even then, I didn't want it much, lol
still happened, no regrets of course
Seventh grade and it lasted until 9th grade...
I first wanted and was in my first relationship at 15 years of age. Ever since then, ut has been the norm for me. I only do relationships. No flings
My first was at 15. I don't regret it, but I just think I wasn't ready for it and I'd rather have had my first after the age of 20.
It lasted 3 years.
I was in second grade so maybe 7.. I wanted a relationship because I was lonely and wanted a best friend.
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