If you have a problem in your relationship do you talk to your SO about it or keep quiet?

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Do you let it fester or come right out and lay your cards down so you can work it out, even when the other beats your hand?

DenizLikesTennis · Accepted Answer

Depends on the issue. If it was a mental health issue that is caused by my partner because ahe was doing things that it'd make me feel very uncomfortable and therefore I'd develop a mental health issue... then I'd be open and direct about it then I'd be open and direct. Otherwise seek a psychologist. I find it nothing to be ashamed of. The human can be sick mentally as well as physically. Just how you'd catch a cold.

If I have a cold or something disturbing then I'd keep it quiet and visit the doctor.

maximumpower · Accepted Answer

Tried to.
Nothing you can do about someone who won't talk.
Sound piece of advice - if you the indicators are there that there's a problem and your SO isn't admitting or opening up - make the first move and get out.
Don't wait for them to get the drop on you.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Talk talk talk and yet more talk... find solutions, but not to only compromise but to collaborate. I would rather have a partner in crime than someone I can compromise with where we get along but both are somewhat unhappy with the results.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

The thing with me is I don’t like to sweep things under the rug. I will definitely want to talk about it and idc if it results into a fight. Resolve it now or let it brew until it explodes… If it’s worth fighting for, it’s worth staying.

Kabluie · Answer

I used to joke some intimate things in our relationship were talked about at a Red Robin of all places, it was just a place we liked stopping by. I'm good at talking about things if it's on my mind. When you're chatty like me, you'll find a way.

2Wheels · Answer

I always try to bring it up as soon as possible in a gentle and calm manner. I don't like drama or conflict.

kylee2437 · Answer

Always speak your feelings because it tests to see if your partner is understanding and cares! If you stay quiet , nothing will change and you will be in for one unhappy relationship.

IAteTwoFullHams · Answer

I pick my battles, you know? There are small problems and big ones. There are ones that will go away on their own and ones that won't. There are decent monents to has things out and terrible ones.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

talk about it so i dont blow a gasket when i cannot take it any longer

Anonymous · Answer

I tend to keep quiet but I've learned over the years not to. I need to have grievances clear in my mind which can take a while, and believe I'm right. I will walk through the issue in my mind many times along with preparing my statement, explaining the problem, and potentially the solution.

EmmaMary · Answer

Communication ,  Communication  and more  COMMUNICATION .

petitedollbabee · Answer

Talk about it. Keeping it to yourself is stupid and pretty much asking for a fight or argument eventually.

Tiffany27 · Answer

Always talk about any issues or problems in a relationship. You can’t work through them if you stay silent. Nothing worse then shutting someone out.

KatherineJ · Answer

If my husband and I have a disagreement, I wait until I can talk to him like a rational human being.

Likes2drive · Answer

Usually try to work it out but they don’t want to hear at times and think it’s just complaining

sheikalana · Answer

I will absolutely sit and talk to them about it. Communication is key for an open relationship.

MTC29 · Answer

The SO keeping quiet? I am unfamiliar with that but intrigued by the thought.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

If I were in a relationship and had problems I would try to talk it over with her

more_than_a_guy · Answer

If you don't talk about these issues, your relationship is doomed, period.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I would communicate to my partner what the issue was.

Idkwtfimdoing96 · Answer

I would ideally like to talk about it but only if the other person is willing to

Guardian45 · Answer

Through experience, I have learned that it is better to talk than fester. Nothing good comes from festering.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll eventually talk about it with them. I wish I could hold myself back and just be grateful though.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

I’ll talk but if it goes in one ear and out the other as it usually does. Then I become silent about it. That’s when she needs to worry.

bigpauly · Answer

Tall about it. I’d rather get everything out there and hash it out or find out we aren’t going to make things work early on.

Twalli · Answer

We are very open. I was sad when my grandmother was sick and dying. My girlfriend knew immediately and helped me through it.

NathanDavis · Answer

I like healthier relationships...

Massageman · Answer

Both - I pick my battles.

JaxiCats · Answer

I’m trying to be open and honest

Gloree · Answer

I sulk but with his help, I'm learning to talk.

exitseven · Answer

most of the time I keep it to myself.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

Neither happens usually.

Mart10 · Answer

Of course talk about it

msc545 · Answer

Talk to her of course.

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