My uni best mate got into a relationship with this girl about 6 months ago. I quite liked this girl at first, and we all got along. But after they got more serious, she began isolating my friend from his friends. She apparently started making up lies about me and our group of mates (things like: they hate me, they are horrible people etc.) and manipulating my best friend to feed into that lie and alienate him from us. We stopped seeing our friend after about a month, as he "didn't want to make her upset."
I had never said anything to her, and had only been polite to her. But she started making up rumours about all of us to turn him against the whole group. Now our friend has cut us off after she gave him an ultimatum (us or her.) She also said I'm a "c***" and he should stay away from me. So now he won't speak to me after being best mates for years.
I've tried to get him to realise that she is not a nice person and is abusive; everyone else says she is a "bully", girls I know have said she has bullied them. However, my friend refuses to see it because he is so infatuated with her, and because she manipulates him against others and lies all the time. She beat him up apparently in the last month, and he hit her back in defence and spent the night in jail because of it.
How do I get it through to my mate that this girl is toxic and abusive? She has managed to change the narrative that I am just "jealous" of their relationship, when it's only because I see him changing into her and being abused. Now my friend also believes I'm "jealous" and he is basically turning into her and has fed into her lies.
How do I help my mate out?
