im living with a man in an open relationship (one sided... he sleeps around and I am expected to be loyal) and has been like that from the start. He has not lied or made his intentions for being strictly non-monogamous hidden from the start. We are fine there...
When I hear or see that he will say/do the same compliments and gestures to strangers/new ladies as he does to me I feel disrespected, unappreciated, and disposable.
Why do men do this? Is this something I have overlooked when it comes to non-monogamous partnership? Does my subservient lifestyle choice come attached to a lack of importance in his (mens) mind or is this just him specifically abusing my effort towards him?
Does a sub have unique personal value to a dom man?