Anyone here thinks that he/she is hard to love?

Question

I guess there is nothing wrong if you are hard to love if that someone knows how to deal with you aside from expressing his/her love to you only. .. what do you think?

uncleBobbyb77 · Accepted Answer

This really depends on what you mean by hard to love. What makes you difficult to love and do people really know what love is? I believe love is a misunderstood gift by many. It's an active noun that requires only heart in its makeup and a gift is only a gift if it's free, given without expectation of a return, or trade, and free of conditions. This means only unconditional love is pure and true. Unconditional...
Unconditional acceptance of who someone is here and now.
Appreciation for who they are and what they do.
Respect for their abilities and potential.
Trust everyone but trust them to be who they are and do what they do. They can only be themselves and Noone can be who you think they are just as you cannot be whom others think you are. You are you no matter who others think you to be. Don't trust someone to change who they are because you are you. Sometimes people do change but not often in the fundamentals of who they are. A lifetime of programming is hard to overcome. If they do something unexpected then your understanding of who they are and what they do must change.
And last but not least this last of the 5 gifts of the heart I've identified is more for yourself than others because if you can give someone acceptance, appreciation, respect, and trust this last one, forgiveness, isn't really necessary for them. It's for you. Forgive yourself your flaws, your mistakes, your shadow, dark side, the things your not necessarily proud of. Nobody is perfect. Everyone has the potential for chaos and evil. To paraphrase an idea Dr Jordan Peterson shares "The virtue comes in knowing your a monster and keeping it in check." Life is quest of continuous self improvement and having someone to share the experiences and struggles with along the way is a divine gift to have. Together these five gifts comprise what I believe is our divine purpose. Unconditional Love is all Heart, no thought nor mind. However just like the giftwrap on a gift can change depending on the occasion in which its being gifted without changing the gift itself so too can the roles people play in our lives change without changing the love we have for them. That is the domain of the mind, where thought and logic should be applied. In the decisions pertaining to the roles someone fills in your life and you in theirs and how you will express the gifts you are giving them as your love is given to all if it is truly Unconditional. The expression of it will differ from person to person but love is something you do to have it and give it. It's a fundamental part of living the enlightened way of life. It's not easy but it is simple. The right choices and solutions are always simple but rarely are they ever easy. This means if someone is hard to love its because love is simply the right thing to do but it's not always an easy thing to do. At least not until you accept it as the domain and function of the Heart (spirit), and no thought should be put into the crafting of the love only in its expression.

Ευδεμονια · Accepted Answer

I honestly think I am. Due to my insecurities and lack of self esteem, I have difficulties in expressing sentiments and affection for various reasons, despite me being a sensible and romantic person, in reality.
I usually shield my true self behind masks and bronze face attitude, I tend to escape from sentiments, it makes me feel more secure and stable.
This is sure a big stop sign for everyone who tries to love me.

qupid911 · Accepted Answer

I feel like I’m too needy and always asking for reassurance. I enjoy quality time cause I never had it in my past relationships. Cuddling together and talking about random things. Of course my partner will be busy and not have time to talk so I’ll respect that. I admit I will get excited when playing a game or something so I may forget he’s on a run or exercising and just call him out the blue. I always feel bad when I do

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

No I would say it's pretty easy to love me but I do love hard, there is potential for something really serious and I guess that can be scary to some

Pinay_ako · Answer

I’m easy to love but hard to forget.

Theabcking · Answer

Most bitches don't have much of a personality. But the same is true for a lot of men. They just expect everything to happen and no work is required for them to do. They just expect love to find them and put 0 effort into their personality.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Im easy to love but hard to please

Blueeyes81 · Answer

I am. I'm pretty blunt without realizing it. I often only realize after the fact that my wording could have been better and not sl matter of fact. It has often caused hurt feelings. I'm also pretty distant and very rarely do I ever let someone get close to me. I have a wall and thats as far as they get and that can be frustrating for people.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not hard to love but my temper used to be hard to deal with.
I'm not a wife beater, but verbal and emotional abuse was a big part of my past that I'm glad I left behind.
Otherwise I would've lost the best thing that ever happened to me!
I still have a nasty and explosive temper, but I've learned to take it out on people who actually deserve it. Not my family or the love of my life

Guy13 · Answer

Nah…. I’m an easy love obviously. Don’t you see all the love I get here from my crimes against Humanity Abortionist and premeditated murderers, Crimes against Nature LGBT, and the Atheists…. I’m so loved 🥰…so very easy to love 💕. 💪

emmajoyforever · Answer

Yeah almost everyone I know hates me because of how honest I am.

zagor · Answer

I find it hard to even meet any women. I go out to places, it's 70% male or more. Not sure what to do other than start hanging out in nail salons.

Blackcosmo · Answer

I'm not sure. I'm usually very quiet so not much of my personality is seen unless you're very close to me.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the juice has to be worth the squeeze. I make time for people who make time for me. I don' "hate" anyone that doesn't. But those people find themselves outside my circle pretty quickly.

menina · Answer

I think I am. I'm not what most men look for in a woman.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I’ve been with my fair share of people but I’ve only had one girlfriend who loved me and that was 11 years ago. So I guess so 🤷‍♂️

Bob92220 · Answer

When I'm generous with a woman they find it easy to love me. However, if I desire equality they find it difficult to love me.

VanguardTitan · Answer

I'm impossible to love, accepted that a long time ago.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I definitely am and I prefer it that way. Or rather have come to accept it over the years

monkeynutts · Answer

Nope, I'm very impatient with others, so I don't show love or interest in others freely or easily.

JSmuve · Answer

Nah, I'm easy to love. But women just don't wanna try.

driven159 · Answer

I am easy to love but not easy to figure out very complex and thinker being easy to love is not a blessing sometimes women fall in love with me too easy

sheikalana · Answer

Not really. I think I'm pretty easy to love.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you mean is she hard to love. is it bc she's black?

one2many · Answer

Is take 2 two tango... Y does it always have to like that... hard, selfish... if u don't change... your ways.. You'll end alone...

NumberOneStunna · Answer

It’s all about being compatible and the right match

Light909090 · Answer

Nobody knows me not even my family.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

People keep telling me that but I think it's their problem

Twalli · Answer

I think it's relatively easy to love me as a person. Whether you actually want to get to know me is entirely different

Anonymous · Answer

When I am brutally honest with myself I know I got some weird personality quirks that turn off women quick.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I guess I am. No girl was really interested in me

Anonymous · Answer

I'm an ex sex worker... so yes. It was born out of being raped; but I doubt most men would have sympathy for that fact when looking for a wife.

Nahid1707 · Answer

Popular question and yes. i been told i am difficult to please by girls

anylolone · Answer

Technically you only need one person who you like.

OnlinePeanut22 · Answer

I think easy but can very hard to forget. Can somyi sometimes be strict.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I figure I must be because every girlfriend I ever had cheated on me...

Anonymous · Answer

I know I can be, but my girlfriend puts up with me.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. I don't know why, I just suck. I can't do anything good. I just try to compensate by being a pushover, and I can't even do that right.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

I am very loving, and caring person, soft tone, humorous

Rose_84 · Answer

This world finds it 'hard to love'.

Chrysantenum95 · Answer

Me. Maybe becoz never been into one.😒😒

Nikki1989 · Answer

I know I can be demanding. ☹️

DermalPunch · Answer

Nope I am very lovable. Hard to keep.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

No. I don't think I'm very hard to love

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

Yes I’m hard to love and I know it

Gavyn · Answer

I definitely am hard to love. I’m autistic lol

ODC2112 · Answer

Yes I have not enought defects.

IndyZee · Answer

He'll, I'm hard to like, let alone love...

jimmy2 · Answer

She would not be that way with me

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Definitely

boredgal · Answer

I’m hard to love

katestar · Answer

I agree with you

ZenJen444 · Answer

Nope 😆 lol

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