I made plans for my boyfriend’s birthday but he already has plans with his friends. Are my feelings valid?

[Anonymous]

I told my boyfriend I made plans for him on his actual birthday but he told me he already made plans with his friends. I told him that it’s fine and I’ll reschedule it for the day after. But I’m not gonna lie, I’m disappointed. But I didn’t make a huge deal out of it cause it can be rescheduled. Am I wrong for feeling disappointed? Am I being unreasonable

[Daniela1982]

Don't tell someone it's fine unless it is. It only spawns / ferments resentment. I can understand your feeling. Maybe you should have been asked to be included too. Maybe you are not as close as you think. Obviously he just wanted to hang out with the guys - which could certainly have been done any other time - so it can possibly be that they are going to a strip club to celebrate?

[Boogie_01]

Lmao I agreed with you all the way up until the strip club part. Stop being messy.

[Daniela1982]

@Boogie_01 Why do you think it's not within the realm of possibility? It's better than your answer. *rolls eyes*

[Boogie_01]

😂😂

[bstayl]

Are you not included in those plans with his friends? Is there not enough time in the day for him to enjoy plans with his friends and then plans with you? I would definitely want to spend time with my significant other on their birthday.

[Mart10]

He should've changed the plans with his friends and be with you. I'm sorry but you have problem in your relationship. He is not giving you importance how much he should.

[Boogie_01]

Tell him how you feel asap because all you’re doing is holding in emotions and feeling resentment.

[Guy13]

Two week notice on all holiday events. two months from Halloween till Valentine's Day...

[In_Trance]

I don't see what the big deal is

[LazerBean]

Yes you are wrong.

[Asker]

Okay and why is that? I’d like to hear your perspective.

[LazerBean]

Because cancelling one someone for another person is rude and would speak very poorly of his character.