Is it better to be in a casual relationship or try for a committed relationship? (Page 2)
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Depends on your needs. If you know you won't be comfortable with something casual, I don't recommend it. Stay single until you find a good person.
Good point. When I was hooking up a lot in college that was fun but then I had experience having a girlfriend who cared for me and it’s like I don’t wanna backslide yk
Understandable
A committed takes effort and skill. Not for the faint of heart.
True. I’ve had 3 committed relationships and all required work.
It will always be part of fitting two completely different people together.
people may say dating seriously is better or is the right thing to do, but you open yourself to potentially a lot more heartaches, it’s actually quite serious, casual can be good too…
So casual is less painful?
Just protect your heart, with anyone and in any circumstances. Guys forget sometimes that because they think they just want sex (some anyway). Now I would only want to enter a relationship if I was extremely serious about it. If not I would keep it light and fun, and keep enjoying life and exploring, until the big one comes :) but would also keep my boundaries, no need to have one more entangled relationship leading nowhere…
It really depends on everyone's situation. As long as everyone is honest and communicates, and everyone is looking for the same thing, then your good.
Problem most people have, though, is they have to be honest with themselves first
I agree that communication and honesty are important. Like recently I asked someone out and she agreed. Then a few days later she said she would rather just come to my house and fool around. To me that seemed dishonest
I am honest with myself that I want to be married and want to build a relationship. But do you think more people just want hookups these days?
There is definitely a movement of people who avoid marriage... It really means very little with the prevalence of divorce, it's not a permanent thing like it once was, so depending on your financial situation, being in a committed LTR is sometimes a better option.
Furthermore, many of us grew up in homes where one parent took advantage of the others love and the one who was taken advantage of felt miserable and trapped because divorce wasn't an option for either financial, social, or religious reasons.
For some, they are committed to a noncommitted relationship... For others we are committed to a "House" so we are committed to more than one person... There are a range of options, and people are realizing that.
Do what you want.
Some people are just not built for a committed relationship, others can't exist without it.
Thanks. I’ve done both and I’m a better version of myself when I’ve got someone to commit to and live up to
As a man, don't let women determine who you are, what you allow, or what you settle for. Check out my mytakes if you want to be a traditional dude.
I would opt for committed relationship because you will be sure of the outcome in the future
And whether someone loves you and what they actually think about you
Good point. So you wouldn’t want casual because there is not a future to build with someone. How can you be sure of the future?
Obviously am not sure about the future but Hoping for it better besides casual relationship leads to some unwanted problems, I think
Oh ok hope is powerful indeed., what problems are unwanted in casual?
I think unwanted pregnancies, and some people in casual relationship tend to spoil future relationship by reappearing and of course mentally I guess
Def problems should be avoided I agree. Mentally you are right
Stop searching. Just go out and have fun. If it’s meant to be then it will happen.
I’m leaning that way. You think that would make me a fuckboi? Or is there a difference?
Who cares. Just follow your heart.
Prefer to be in committed relationships. They have pros and cons. Same with casual relationships that come with pros and cons.
Have you had both?
Nope I don't see the point of having sex with stranger and catches a std.
Doesn’t have to be a stranger. Many people have sex with a friend or have a casual relationship after getting to know someone. Think it’s safe to say in both types of relationships being safe is key
I don't even have real friends since bad experience and as well with bad experience with some relationships.
That’s no bueno. Hope you get friends soon
I don't really see point of having friends.
casual relationship could lead to serious relationship, since you don't want committed relationship,. better stay as a friend or leave that person alone
Which is confusing because isn’t the point of being casual to not fall in love?
If you're looking for matrimony, committed.
Otherwise, casual - and casual only.
What’s the middle ground?
There is none.
You're either looking to get married or you're not.
I would judge people who had too much casual sex because of mono. :)
it is better to stay at home and do your taxes when they are due, derek
I don't see the point of a casual relationship.
In short it's a yes.
Gotcha. Any reason why?
Coz human will change. I just realized I like guys with beard.
A committed one, no brainer
I should have made a poll for the question. Seems like some want commitment and others not.
I'll try to be in a relationship.
Casual?
Yes. This will be my first time to be in a relationship with my guy friend.
Then gl. You don’t want to be romantic?
I'm a romantic. I want a casual relationship.
Ok then I’m confused
I don't want to be romantic. I just want a casual relationship.
Casual is better for me
Why is that
@BarryLiverstone Don’t want to commit
Comitted is always the best
Why is that?
Cause A casual relationship means when its over nobody should care so it kinda isn't a relationship
Depends on what you want in life.
In my life I have many goals and getting married and raising a family is one of them. However does that mean I stick to only long term relationships or do I just have fun rn and let love find me?
Honestly, I believe you can't force a long term, and that you'll find the long term relationship by starting out with a casual one, and let it develop into something more stable and long term, which is what I did and I'll be getting married in December.