I'm addicted to cheating on my fiancé and I really need to stop?

[sugrouse]

There's two guys in particular that I'm having a really hard time giving up. It sounds horrible but I've realized that I've normalized cheating with them, it's purely physical, the sex is just so amazing. I love my fiancé to death, but he's just not the same in bed, he's lacking something. Anybody else been in the same situation?

[Glenn_lawrence]

let me give my advice. Your fiancé is not the guy for you. I am sure your fiancé checks off all the provisioning factors you desire. he has a good job and can provide a lifestyle you like. He is sweet and understanding. He always makes you feel safe and is soo romantic. did I do a good enough job describing your fiancé? the problem you will always have if you marry him is that as perfect as he may be on paper your fiancé is not your best sexual experience and that will always be a problem for you. Its important in my opinion that a woman's husband be her best sexual experience that way she doesn't find herself in the situation you are in.
look you may love your fiancé and that's great but you see men value respect over love. Most of everyone's most painful experiences came by the actions of someone who LOVES them. But when you respect someone and value them you go out of your way to avoid doing anything that could be considered disrespectful... so trust me you will continue to cheat on him and it will make you feel like shit when you see his world collapse when he finds out... do yourself a favor and break up and save both of you the future hearache

[VikingWarLord]

I've cheated a lot, especially when I was younger. Let me give you a story and then... give you my advice.

I dated a lot and have banged over 500+ and even done some P0RN. I realized that if she is average with small tits, I'm gonna end up cheating, knowing I can get hotter, slim, sexy and big tits (at least a full C cup). Why would I downgrade when I can get hotter like that? I got addicted to cheating on average chics with small tits, after one of them caught me cheating, and it's a long story, but even though she was mad at me at first, she eventually came back around and admitted she knew I would cheat because I was hot with a big c0ck and she had seen some of my exes too, they all had bigger tits than her and better face.

She became my BDSM submissive S! ave and started letting me do things in the sack she didn't do when we were dating. She was 5'1 and 105 lbs with A cups, single mom, 30s, smoker, etc.. She hated anal but after she caught me cheating, she let me fuuck her in the azz too. I started showing her the biitches I was cheating on her with, hotter, bigger tiits, etc.. and she let me and stopped complaining about it. I told her she would have to just settle for me only and no other dudes. She could only play with the other hot women I found and she obeyed that too.

My advice is to get your fiancee' to open the relationship. You clearly see him as a CUCKOLD, and I've been the BULL for many cuck relationships and marriages. If you see your dude as BETA he will probably go along with it.

[JessJJ]

Yes. I've cheated on all my boyfriends including my current one. It is just a physical thing only, I do actually love him, but I love lots of different sex with lots of different people. You can't and shouldn't change who you are or what makes you happy. Carry on darling.

[miadee]

Girl you're a kid. You should keep fucking around, You cannot change yourself but you have to be with people who are on the same page with you. You shouldn't have a boyfriend at first place.

[Shamalien]

“Do what makes you happy” is literal trash as far as life philosophy goes. So betray and deceive your loved ones because that makes you happy? How about not hurting people? Does it make you happy to hurt people? Fucking sick slut

[dustybiker]

If you love him tell your fiancé. He deserves to know. Then you are free to live your life free of guilt and as you choose.

[CarrieWilson4567]

He'll kick her ass to the curb if he's smart. She's done enough damage.

[242plusInfinity]

@sugrouse It's good that you realize you are in the wrong and need to make a change or figure out a solution.

Unless you can get your fiancé to agree to an open relationship or some cuck type thing then you need to make a choice. You also need to tell your fiancé he isn't getting the job done. He can get better but you have to be honest with him. If you cannot talk to him about changes... You should not marry.

Sit down and think about what you really want. Do you want him or the sex? You may get him to have an open relationship or you may find another guy who you can marry and have great sex with.

[CarrieWilson4567]

Why are you Simping so hard to this cheater?
She needs to leave her fiance, she doesn't deserve him. She sucks!

[Anonymous]

Please do not say that you "love" your fiancé, because in all honesty, you really don't.

That would be like saying "I love my kids, but I prefer playing with other people's kids, because mine are lacking something."

The sex is amazing because it's with men that you don't care about. Perhaps this is so you can focus on fulfilling *your own* sexual fantasies without judgement, which means you and your husband don't communicate very well or very often. If that's the case, then you're going to continue to have problems with the next person you get "engaged" with. Even if that person is the very f*ck boy that you love having sex with so much... because sex, like marriage, can lose its *magic* over time.

Do not get married.
Because marriage is a lifetime commitment (at least it's supposed to be), and believe me, you won't be having sex forever.

[Kylal412]

Don’t do that to your fiancé, what would you do if he found out and secondly how much do you think it would hurt him. He asked you to be his wife and you’re 100% not ready. Stop thinking of your own needs and think of your fiancés because he deserves better. If you’re not feeling it you need to tell him before someone else does and it’s better coming from you than an outside person plus it will hurt him more and fuck him up in the head.

[Pegases]

Women now cheat more than men. Gentlemen, if you haven't been redpilled yet, it is imperative that you take the time to do so. Otherwise, you are almost guaranteed in the modern day to end up like this girl fiance. Can you imagine buying a girl a ring that's cheating on you? Stay woke fellas. We've got to do a better job of weeding out these women.

[caring__1]

If you are using the excuse it is out of your control, are you willing to accept the same excuse from others? If you're not satisfied with your fiance, you can either teach him or move on. Carrying on behind his back will always backfire. Before you say or do anything, ask yourself whether you'd appreciate (not just tolerate) being on the receiving end of the same. If not, come up with an alternative.

[DrewJohnson]

Life is about choices and consequences. I'm not here to judge you. You're not the first to cheat, you won't be the last. Many find it fun and fulfilling. Living a double life is likely to affect your relationship. Many men and women have done it. You just have to be prepared for the potential outcome of your choices. That said, I think it's great that you're enjoying your sexuality.

[CarrieWilson4567]

Wow congratulations, you're a piece of shit.

[242plusInfinity]

2 wrongs don't make a right.

[CarrieWilson4567]

@242plusInfinity
She's just doing her fiance completely wrong and being totally selfish. She only cares about herself.
Her biggest concern is having to miss out on her fuck buddies, she says she lives her fiance, but she obviously doesn't have a clue that you don't cheat on somebody if you really love them. You don't ever do that.

[242plusInfinity]

You're 100% right. However, if one is going to make the world a better place, it must be done with love. What good is advice or telling someone they are wrong if the listener becomes unreceptive to the message because it came with hate.

Also, sex can be a very powerful thing. There are even sex addicts. However, that doesn't excuse her.

Anyway the lesson I'm trying to say is to be careful justifying actions that don't align with a nice/good person. She did something low but saying mean things to her is also in alignment with a mean person. What credit is it to you to love your neighbor when they are good but hate them when they are bad. Anyone can do such thing. Even criminals can do that.

[CarrieWilson4567]

@242plusInfinity
Stop enabling her, she needs to hear the truth from somebody for once.
She honestly doesn't empathize with her fiance, her victim one bit.
You kissing her butt isn't helping. She needs a kick in the ass.

[Pegases]

@242plusInfinity man shut up. The problem with our society today, is no one is ever willing to call shitty behavior shitty behaivor when it's a woman, so most women today think shitty behaivor is ok. Deosnt matter who it is, if it's shitty behaivor, you call it out. You enable people when you beat around the bush. She's shitty. Period.

[Sandeeppingping]

Yea you're a bitch that's all I have to say, if you want actual advice tell him the truth and break it off

[miadee]

Leave your fiancé alone and don't fuck his life

[kylee2437]

That’s called lack of self control and only you can be discipline yourself.

[CarrieWilson4567]

She should also lose her fiance and hopefully someone will cheat on her one day too.
That's how she'll learn what it feels like and why she doesn't deserve anyone until she betters herself.

[kylee2437]

@carriewilson4567 I completely agree although some people don’t know when to let go of people. All comes down to discipline

[CarrieWilson4567]

That heartless, entitled woman just needs to lose everything in life so she learns what's valuable. Her cheating is spoiled brat behaviour, and she has no regard for the feelings of others.

[Avicenna]

You might want to see a psychologist about bipolar disorder

[FilmGuy93]

Why the hell are you marrying someone who doesn't sexually satisfy you?

[Fryday_Knight]

All you have to do is confess to him. That is, if you REALLY need it to stop. If you refuse in any way, your question title is nothing but a lie.

[Shamalien]

We must have different opinions on love, shit I wouldn’t treat anyone this bad let alone my love

[Jamie05rhs]

Get rid of your toxic friends. Go to a church. Seek God.

[Anonymous]

That’s a clear sign you are not into him or attracted to him. You just like the idea that someone wants to settle down with you. This is a recipe for a miserable relationship.

[Hanrej]

It's not uncommon that men will actually allow it so long as it's purly physical. Some are even to a degree turned on by a cheating so.

[Anonymous]

You're a terrible person and deserve none of these men.

I'd suggest you move away and sort yourself out.

[Anonymous]

You need to let your fiancé go. You are not wife material. Disgusting!

[AsaKyo]

You don't love your fiance

[Ryan1979]

Why is he your fiancé.

[panamared1]

Maybe you need to be in an open relationship

[Anonymous]

Enjoy the karma unfaithful whore

[JohnK123]

That’s tough