Ladies, would you want your man to be brutally honest with you or sugarcoat the truth to not hurt your feelings?
And why?
Here's the thing about that question this should be something that everybody should learn there's ways to be honest about things without hurting people it's unconditional love if you could speak the truth but when you tell the white lie that's going to hurt them even more if you could be 100% honest with yourself first of all then you can be 100% honest with other people just because somebody is fat doesn't mean that they're not beautiful just because we have this thoughts about fat people just because you can find something wrong with somebody doesn't mean that it's right that's only your opinion and your opinion doesn't count nobody's opinion counts when you become one with everybody you don't have an opinion you have love you don't judge people you have love you don't degrade people you have love so if somebody was to ask me my opinion on this I would have to do it in a way that is loving and caring for them to feel that instead of making them want to run and hide and become a different person if you want people to change if you want people to become better people if you want to help somebody you don't do it by degrading them or putting them down or even lying to them you're honest but you're honest with love so they can understand it and feel it
Great genes, that's it.
Would you say I'm 38?)))
@Pinay_ako
Lol to the question, As I used to have a girlfriend, I think 4 years ago, till I started working; I would always give her the honest truth.
Being honest is the better than lying and letting her know the truth the hard way by someone else.
For example, if you asked me, "If you look old enough to go to the club?" Imma be like "ohh hell no", because, you look like you could still be in high school. Just look at our pic, if you put "20" on your profile as your age. I wouldn't have ever question it lol.
If you ask me, you can make it as a cougar if you really wanted to lol.
That's what true honesty is @Pinay_ako.
Also, commenting on what you eat lol. I'm willing to bet there is some eternal youth nectar in you somewhere lol šÆ.
When it comes to health, You are clearly doing something right, that's for sure lol.
@HarryDallan
Lol yeah, I would say you are 38, kinda lol
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Lol sorry for not texting you sooner, I didn't want to leave you out of the conversation lol
Honesty is key, if he trusts me that I am capable of handling the truth he is treating me with respect and as an adult.
I have had this situation with my husband and I made it clear that I want the truth and need it, I want to look good not meh.
I love fashion if its off I would be pissed to get a dishonest answer.
I have asked him for his opinion and he tells me the truth. My shirt looks better this way, my blouse makes me look a bit big.
Some things I don't ask him, he doesn't have the best fashion sense so I only ask if I am unsure and really need a second opinion.
Honesty will be the best option because if I hear the truth else where I'll feel like he lied 2 me about more than just that and I might feel ugly
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u Women's dating profiles ALWAYS say that they are looking for a man who is honest but I suspect that statement is not 100% true. Answering this question honestly will reveal how she REALLY feels about honesty, and I always answer this question honestly. If she complains about my answer, I simply ask her if she would prefer for me to lie to her.
To be honest that is really a fucked up question to ask a guy!! I really hate it when girls ask me this question because it's a question which will always result in negativity unless I lie about it. The reason for that is that you girls only wanne hear that your not fat! You don't want to hear a honest answer to this question do you?
99 out of100 times this question results in drama when you tell her she is overweight
Thats why there are only these 2 scenario's for men what answer they can give to you:
1: Be honest and tell her that she is a overweight
Which will most definitly end up in negative feelings on her side. She probably is going to be either upset, become insecure or both. and she isn't gonna accept your honest answer without getting angry/sad or most likely both.
Definitly not a option for us men 😅
2: You gonna lie to her to keep her happy and prevent making her even more insecure then she already is. Altough lying is normally not okay there are few exeptions to that rule and this is obviously one of the exceptions. It's keeps the peace and prevents war 😂😂
"Or a girl OR a female?" That's an interesting way to put it... By "girl," you mean a transgendered "girl"?
I'd tell them the brutally honest truth. You see, once I realized that no women find me tall enough/attractive enough to date, I figured I had nothing to lose by being honest with them. You see, most men are soft with women. They treat women with kid gloves, because there's a chance they could sleep with/date the woman, or one of her friends. For me, that isn't possible. So I talk to women the same way I talk to men; most men don't do that.
So I would tell her the 100% honest truth. Then, she'd probably b*tch and complain and call me an "incel" for not lying to her or kissing her ass like most men do. Then I'd double down and start being needlessly mean, because she reacted immaturely. And repeat.
Guys who are looking to smash though? "Never tell a woman the truth. It'll always be lose-lose for you."
m I always go with truth and honesty, ALWAYS
but, I am not brutal or a troglodyte about it... lol
there's ways to be more thoughtful about it and without sugarcoating it either
these are very tricky questions whenever they're asked... so it also depends on the girl that's asking it and how close or not close you are with her
but, I do have experience with these things... it would not be the first time a girl throws me into the rodeo with that kind of bull to fight lmfao...
when I was way way younger... I used to go "hmmmmmm" with a certain tone, and then take too long to answer
that never went well, lmao
You can be truthful while still being respectful and without being an ass about it.
So yeah, I'll tell the truth respectfully.
Like, "I'm not a fan of poloshirts, but I love button up shirts on you" - instead if saying that they look like trash and that it's such a huge turn off when they wear polo shirts.
"Do I look fat to you?"
"Maybe you could lose a little, but I love you either way, and I love that ass of yours" *squeeze ass*
Something like that
i don't wanna hurt my own feelings 🤣🤣🤣 i will ask or not ask depending on the answer i'm expectinh. I don't know my ex maybe was just lyinh but he never made it an issue. i ask and he would just say it doesn't matter i have a very pretty face or it's better that i'm big because it means i am taken cared of him well. not once i remember it's an issue
we would go to a mall and see a celebrity he would say ahh you are prettier than that. so i already know his answer that's why i would ask
Give her the honest blunt truth and tell her to lose weight as being too much over your ideal weight is dangerous for your health. Someone who criticises you cares more about you then someone who always tells you that you are beautiful the way you are. Saying you look good when she's overweight harms her more then telling the truth and helping him or her is better. I'd say anything from 5kg over your ideal weight should be reason for concern.
I'm not slim myself and lost 7kg without doing much, just increasing the metabolism will already help you greatly.
It depends.
Real problems: Yeah, fight it out. Diabetes isn't great, and it affects you, the boyfriend, as well as your kids. You both have to be your best selves for each other, and that includes weight. it's not just about being a thin woman or whatever, just 'health'. If you're at a risk of diabetes (as an example), you don't just disrespect your own body, you don't care that I want you to live a healthy life. Being ugly on purpose is hateful.
Not a problem: Flattery/flirt/agree and amplify/whatever have fun with it.
I would tell them what I think. It may not necessarily be the factual truth, but it certainly wouldn't be a lie, either.
If I think she looks good, but she's carrying a couple extra pounds, for example, then I'll tell her she's beautiful. It would be the objective truth, as I see it.
If she's overweight, then I'd tactfully say that it doesn't matter what I, or anyone else, thinks. What matters is how she feels about herself.
My rule of thumb, is be honest but not an asshole.
Hey babe does this make my ass look big?
No, honey, it doesn't do your ass justice!
Does this outfit look good on me?
Babe, you could wear starlight for an outfit and it couldn't do you justice.
Etc
So āNo, itās all that lard on your hips making you look fatā wasnāt a good answer?
āYou look fat in everythingā probably does, too.
There's a default response from men if ever asked these questions. 'Yes babe you look gorgeous/no you aren't fat/you look beautiful in that'
At no time do you say the truth. You won't get laid for months, she won't talk to you, you run the risk of food poisoning lol
In spite of proper etiquette, right or wrong, donāt EVER
And I mean EVERā¦..
Suggest that she looks anything but beautiful, stunning, angelic, amazing and 10 pounds less than her sister who will be there also.
If you slip, even in the most unintended circumstance, you would pay for it for a very long time. Like Eric Clapton says, tell her she looked wonderful tonight, get home safely and fuck each otherās brains out. Best wishes
I would try to be somewhat honest but diplomatic. In other words, I would tell her what she wants to hear. Okay, it might be a white lie.
I certainly would not be brutally honest. I have seen blunt honesty end relationships. It may not be that important.
I hate to say it, but you may be in trouble no matter which you choose to do. Or, I guess, you could try and change the subject. But, like I said, it may be like a trick question, you may be in trouble no matter what you choose. To many of these ātestā type questions, and it may be a hint to yourself to move on.
I hate to say it, but too many of no win type questions is unfair to the person responding and it really may be an issue of major insecurity in the person asking them. That is not an adult to me. If this occurs to often, like I said, it may be a hint to just move on.
Iād look past the question and think about the reason behind the question, recognizing that itās not really an answer to her question she wants, but reassurance.
Then, Iāll give her reassurance. Letting her know that I love her and that sheāll always be beautiful to me and thereās nobody that Iām more attracted to compared to her. (Which is all actually true.)
Lies are lies. Thereās no such thing as āwhiteā lies or āniceā lies. Those are terms liars use to excuse shitty behavior. When the truth comes out, as it ALWAYS does, someone always gets hurt. So āwhiteā lies and āniceā lies are ways for selfish people to avoid the consequences of their own bullshit. Theyāre not saving the subject from anything at all. They just donāt want to be around when the shit hits the fan. I ALWAYS tell the truth. I will NEVER tell another lie as long as i live.
If it comes to my looks, then I think I would want him to be considerate while expressing himself as there are certain things I can't change. If however, there's something which is in my control and he feels talking about it might make him more attracted towards me then I would want him to be honest.
yeah i'm always 100% honest with this, which sometmes seems offensive to the person but i don't care. if they're asking for my opinion, they're gonna get it. sometimes if i know they won't like my opinion, i'll ask if they want me to sugar coat my opinion or if they want it straight up. i value telling the truth more than someones feelings.
Unless, the person is ultra delicate and sensitive, I give it to them straight. Sometimes the feelings get hurt, but I think at the end of the day they'll appreciate the fact that whenever they want an outside perspective they can count on me. Sure, there are people who seek false validation and lies, but I don't need them in my life anyway.
Just say you like her just the way she is if you want to stay out of the dog house. Everyone has some imperfections but why induce unnecessary insecurity in your lover if it is just minor flaws? On the other hand If you have to hold your nose while you make love to her what is the point in staying together so if it got THAT bad where she is a self induced gluttonous walkiny whale it is time to scoot.
Really depends on if I think she could handle the truth. Some say they can and then get mean and defensive if they don't like what you said. So if I think she can handle it I'll be completely honest. If I don't think she can then I will chose my words carefully and be as honest as I can be without ruining the rest of my day.
Iād probably be honest but Iād also see beyond the things that are not perfect and Iād be attracted to them so Iād probably say good things but Iād also feel the the way that Iām telling them I do. Like if she was overweight a little Iād probably tell her sheās perfect but Iād probably feel that way.
Don't ask me a question if you can't handle the truth.
Ya if that can be solve like face with some so as we can go to doctor if she is fat then also so to loose fat also you must also tell her that you should also tell me what should I do about my body fat if there is is isy beard ok do you like this tatoo
Be honest not brutal. In other words highlight their good points, i. e eyes, hair or figure perhaps and don't mention the less attractive parts.
Some years back I trained a driver who was born without a jawbone and she wasn't the most beautiful person to look at. One day she made quite a serious error and I just said, God gave you such beautiful eyes, use them. The difference it made to her confidence was unbelievable.
Avoid the question and grab her arse around the house. Make it your life relational mission that she has at least enough weekly orgasms to not have to play with Self. And, all those insecurities seem to vanishā¦. as do the ādawgsā.
I tend to be brutally honest. An opinion is an opinion, and if she asks she should be prepared for consequences. I donāt give around compliments, I prefer to be honest and tell things like they are in my opinion.
Hopefully you'll be able to tell where her head is at when she asks. No need to be brutal, bring along your best diplomacy... and if it's your girl maybe tell her in her ear about what it won't stop you wanting to do with her.
That's a question that has no right answer. No matter how we answer, she'll think we're lying ("I think I'm ugly and fat"). Best thing to do for us guys is not answer.
Thankfully my husband has always been completely open and honest, even if it is sometimes a little hurtful, I certainly wouldn't have it any other way.
White lie, because I'm not finna have them getting thier feelings hurt on my conscious if they wanted to know what I really thought.
You know how you look when you look in the mirror, you don't even need my opinion in the first place.
Tell them your honest opinion so that way y'all know each other and can either make the sacrifices and what ever else relationships require, I think honesty is number one in any relationship and without honesty everything becomes questionable.
I would never ask. And if I did just make me feel good about myself or my clothes unless the clothing is unintentionally showing something it shouldnāt or looks too tight. I want people to tell me if Iām wearing something embarrassing and I donāt realize it. But also donāt hurt my feelings about my self expression or my weight.
My honest feelings there is nothing to sugar coat they are very attractive and at a nice weight. Its not like they are super skinny but they are the perfect size and carry what weight they have really well.
For me, it's about how you say it more than what you say. Sometimes arguments happens between couples just simply because of misunderstanding brought by how things are delivered and said
Does it matter if she's my best friend or my girlfriend I see it as being her business if she wants to ask me if I think she's overweight I'll just tell her the truth and if I don't think she's overweight I'll just tell her
I want the truth, I personally find it so damn sexy if my man has the guts to look me in the eye and just say what he thinks... you can be thruthful, without being hurtful lol
I would prefer an honest opinion because you gotta love me for what i am and when i feel insecure it's better to say "yeah, even though you are feeling that you don't look pretty it's okay, cause i love you for who you are and you will always be beautiful in my eyes no matter what. But let's work together and make you feel better and not insecure of how you look."
Maybe that's what I would like to hear.
I would do a mixture of both. Be honest but put it in between two nice things. My creative writing teacher calls it the sandwich method of criticism.
It is highly unlikely, no extraordinarily unlikely, a billion to one that are a girl wants an honest opinion she is too fat. Maybe in some alternate time space continuum.
Love the meme
It depends on who is doing the asking, but in general, I would give my honest opinion. Although I may tone it down a bit so as to not come off totally rude.
I would tell them the truth because I am a conservative. People donāt like to hear the truth. Leftists and women tell lies. Theyād rather give false information to protect a persons feelings which will come to bite them in the ass in the end.
I want the truth but it should be said politely. I wouldn't ask a guy friend to comment about my appearance anyway.
I think people always say they want the truth but I don't think they really do. If it was my girl I would tell her the truth but if she was not my committed girl then no I would lie.
If I had a boyfriend/husband, I would want him to tell me the truth politely not in a harsh way. When someone is overly aggressive it is not taken seriously by me as people say crazy things when they're angry.
Always be honest n yet think about what words to say n in what tone of voice
I would say donāt be ashamed of who you are, you sexy goddess!
I'd want him to be honest with me but not say it in a way that comes off rude or mean.
Diplomatic truth. 50 percent true. 50 percent false.
I love to fuck with her so Iām always brutally honest
I'll tell the truth if they ask for my opinion.
Unfortunately yes I will give an honest answer.. I won't be mean of course...
Absolutely not.. you look amazing
Absolutely!!! I seen lots of your profile pics..
sometimes people ask for honesty but all they want is comfort
I am Aquarius I almost never lie
Belive it or not it's your choice
I'm not a total rookie. When a woman asks for your opinion about this kind of stuff she actually just wants validation, which I'm happy to provide.
@Juxtapose Just feminine logic.
I'm a person who tells Truth. If you DONT want to or CAN'T hear the Truth then DONT ask me.
But I'm NOT cruel either, so I would NEVER intentionally hurt a Lady.
I would want anyone to be honest with me no matter how brutal it really is.
Tricky. I would try to figure out whether they wanted reassurance or an honest opinion.
I prefer you'd tell me the truth than feeling okay when its not.
If we're married total honestly. If I'm trying to get her to date me the white lies would come more into it.
Sine Iām going out with the girl, I must like every part of her. So if she asked, I would be truthful with her and then fuck her to show how much I liked her.
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