I need help is a rough situation. Any advice pls?

[Anonymous]

I met a girl and I've been talking with her for sometime now. I'm attracted to her and I grew to love her, however she has a boyfriend (continue reading pls, allow me to explain). She trusts me and she told me that her boyfriend cheat on her, and since then her relationship has been toxic. I told her that she should break up but she still loves him and she thinks he is all she has. During her childhood her parents were awful and when she had the chance to leave her house she moved with her boyfriend when she was 17 year old. She attempted to kill herself when her boyfriend cheat on her, and she is very depressed. I really want to help her and I love her. I even offered her to move to my place if she leaves her boyfriend and she's been considering to break up in the recent days but she is hesitant. I don't know what else to do. She was really in need of help, she even said that if her boyfriend left her she would kill herself this time, but it seems I convinced her that suicide is never the solution. So I would like some advice on this pls, I don't know what else to do

[exitseven]

It does not sound like she has much of a relationship and you could maybe wait it out but she might kill herself. I would sit her down and confess how you feel. You don't have to be creepy about it. Just don't do it after she has a fight with this guy or tells you she is going to end it all.

[Asker]

I already told her that I love her and I wish she was my girlfriend, but she is very attached to her boyfriend. She considers me her best friend and the only one that truly understands her but she is going through a lot of feelings in her heart and she is insecure on what to do

[Sandeeppingping]

I don't know what it is but I have a feeling this is somehow going to blow up in your face

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Selene1600000]

This is a serious mental health situation, not something you can safely “fix” alone or by being her emotional support partner.
The most important step is to encourage her to reach real support like a therapist, crisis hotline, or trusted family or friends, especially since she has a history of suicide attempts.
You also need to set boundaries and avoid becoming her only support, because that can overwhelm you and still not be enough to keep her safe.

[noohair]

This is a job for a medical professional. I did learn one thing over the course of my life. People do what they want and don't listen to advice.

[Asker]

She is happy that I'm there to listen to her, the problem is she depends of her boyfriend. She doesn't have money and doesn't have a job, so paying a therapist is not possible for her

[In_Trance]

You lost me at "has a boyfriend"

[maximumpower]

Keep your distance until she figures her shit out.
It may never happen.

[Asker]

That's what I'm scared of. That it never happens or that she kills herself. I love her and I wish to make her happy

[maximumpower]

Are you a professional in the specific area in which she so badly needs help?
If not, get her in touch with one, lest you do more harm that good.
If it sounds like I'm being unfeeling, I'm being REALISTIC.
I've been there.
Results weren't pretty.
Be there for her but - above all else - get her the help that she needs.

[Asker]

Yeah I offered her to move at my place if she leaves her boyfriend and to help her get therapy. Sadly it costs and she can't afford it

[Guy13]

Are you friend zoned?

[Guy13]

What about a counselor?

[Guy13]

What do her parents say?

[Asker]

Well for now I'm friend zoned yes, mainly because she still has feelings for her boyfriend. She is demisexual so she takes time to fall in love. And her parents don't care about her. That's why she think her boyfriend is all she has and she thought on killing herself if her boyfriend cheats on her again or leaves her

[Guy13]

Wow !!! Is there any chance of getting her to a counselor? There are free suicide counselor. In fact there are telephone hot lines where she can talk to someone used to this kind of thing.

[Asker]

I'll mention this to her. Thankfully she said that she is scared of dying after all and she only thinks on this in her moments of desperation

[Guy13]

Okay man... find a suicide hotline. You are a very good friend. Professional help is needed. Hope weekend goes well. :-)

[Asker]

Yeah I'll definitely check it out. I also offered her to stay at my place because she has nowhere to go. I just hope she breaks up with her boyfriend in tgis toxic relationship abd accepts my help