What are some tips if there is frequent arguing In your relationship?

[Anonymous]

I feel like sometimes it’s over small things but also I don’t want to make her feelings insignificant

[nspencer]

So the thing is though if it is a big thing for her and small for you you still need to address it and treat it as important cause if it’s repeated over and over again it will become a bigger issue. It’s all about expressing empathy for the other person and trying to understand where the other person is coming from. You don’t need to always agree with each other but at least hear each other out and respect how the other feels. I feel so many arguments come from the other not fully understanding and/or listening where the other is coming from.

[nspencer]

Oh and also if it’s just small things she could potentially resent you for something else and just arguing with you cause she doesn’t think she’s being heard in general. Some women and I’m guilty of this too also have a problem communicating what bothered us and hold it in. A really toxic and frustrating trait that should be worked I know lol 🤦🏼‍♀️ But maybe just ask her if anything else has been bothering her when she starts getting snippy over of small things.

[Emiliamazing]

Try and realize why the "small things" are adding up. The length of time you have spent together will also play a role. We all change over time, sometimes that is a source of frustration.
Calmly talk about what is causing the anger

[virginloserguy]

It is good it happens. It shows being her authentic self and not just being agreeable. Thank her for bringing the issue to your attention, and ask her what would she suggest you do.

Some times women are too passive just sit there and never tell you what is wrong, and you get the wrong idea about them. It is good to understand your incompatibilities now rather than when you are married. The honeymoon phase wears off, and you both start to hate each other.

[OlderAndWiser]

When couples have frequent arguments about things that are seemingly insignificant, it often means that there is a much deeper problem which is being ignored. It's not normal to sleep in separate bedrooms for even one night because someone ate the last of the potato chips.

[Pinay_ako]

Small things can turn big and ugly if ignored and unheard. Resort to solutions instead of adding to the problem. Listen 👂 and pay attention.

[Guy13]

Be quick to listen... slow to speak... slow to anger. Make sense? There are strategies...

[Chris_Morgan]

Pick your battles carefully and remember that arguing over small things daily can sometimes build resentment in the relationship and lead to bigger problems. It's hard to stay in love if you're both having arguments daily about relatives that get on your nerves or who cleans the house more etc. Some things are just not worth damaging the relationship over.

[RavVid]

I think every guy has a concept of how a good girlfriend acts and every girl has a concept of how a good boy friend acts.

This lies at the heart of relationship squabbles. It is not necessarily what is being argued about that is the core problem and that makes it difficult to resolve.

To illustrate, one of mine tended to be imperative. So it tended sound like orders. Arguments therefore tended to be about a task rather than the imperative tone which was the real problem.

[BJP21]

Fight fair, no physical altercations, the first to lose their temper loses, the one that gaslights already lost the argument, do not block paths if the person needs a mental break, give yourselves space away from one another to think, be accountable and acknowledge your own faults. Do not raise your voice under any circumstances.

[Bellona]

When any argument arises ask your partner do you want comfort or a solution, experts say it works all the time to maintain a healthy relationship. if that does not work maybe your partner is toxic and loves to argue.

[dustybiker]

People only argue when they aren’t being heard. If you want to be heard you have to prove you can first listen yourself. Relationships are give and receive, not take.

[petitedollbabee]

When the arguments are constant and never ending over small things, just break up. It’s normal for relationships to have arguments every now and then, but not constant bickering without compromises.

[D_Bone_Steak]

What are the arguments about... I mean texting an ex is different than always forgetting to put the toothpaste lid back on.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

[RiseofArtemis]

Whwn the Drama and Arguments constantly get started by one side its better to just leave. You can't fix an already broken product.

[AviatorTom]

Most arguments involve small things. Best way to deal with arguments in relationships is to have fantastic makeup sex.

[LazerBean]

If you're the problem, do better. If she's the problem, find a different person.

[red324]

easier in the long run

[red324]

I've argued for months with girls that I only went on a couple dates with. It's not worth the effort. Some girls like to argue as if it's a hobby.

[red324]

This one i'd schedule dates I'd never even plan to show up for. I'd invite her out on my boat and i'd be out at the offroad park somewhere because I knew she had no plans to show even though she agreed to go.

[LazerBean]

Yeah, you will definitely be better off

[Iron_Man]

Learn to compromise take her out to dinner plan a vacation somewhere