Do men like/love women who clearly and calmly state their needs in a relationship?

Question

For example your partner said why something you did had a positive effect, the reason it's important to them then asked you to keep doing it and explained the reason why.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

My question is why do women not just do this? Are they afraid do they think we won't like them?

I'll put it like this, I kind of expect women to be unclear about stuff like that, but I look for ones who are honest and open and I think those ones are like diamonds in a coal mine.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Yes, clear, open, honest communication is a major asset in a healthy relationship. Otherwise, people tend to be constantly on-guard. Knowing where your partner stands, in all areas, makes for a more comfortable relationship, allowing us to be more creative and playful.

Summeroflove · Answer

absolutely. There is a LOT of people who sit around and expect someone to read their minds in a relationship when in reality. The other person doesn’t know what you want unless you tell them.

Many times one just gets angry at the other and for no apparent reason. They don’t know why the other is angry. They just are.

If you can’t communicate. It won’t go very far

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I believe men want woman who can speak in a personal voice and tone when they are dating. Formalities are for outsiders and those you do not yet know well.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Of course, who wouldn't?

DaySpring · Answer

In my opinion, this should be happening in every relationship; not in that exact way but it should be happening.

I believe both parties should sit down and write out a joint, definite vision for the relationship.
That is basically what your hinting at but in a smaller smaller way @DermalPunch

I have found most problems spring from not creating a joint vision.
Almost all problems.

OpenClose · Answer

Yes yes yes!

I love this sort of clarity. Even if it's something that might be blunt, or too soon, or something where you might feel people would judge you.

I would prefer to know where we stand, how you feel, and what you like, and then work with that, rather than appeal to an image of someone who isn't you and realize I had been making you unhappy the whole time.

MrOracle · Answer

That's ideal for me. I'm a big believer of open, honest, straightforward, calm conversation, and I would much rather have the information, good or bad, because I can't address issues that I'm not aware of. Life is going to throw problems and challenges at you, and it does no good to keep them a secret in a relationship.

I appreciate positive feedback and I can take negative feedback - I'm a grown man, and I can deal with it.

DrBanana · Answer

I can only speak for myself but others may agree.

I would like a woman like clear communication not wishy washy games.

If she does not know what she wants strait away that’s ok as long as we both know.

I want a partner not some one I’m competing to “control the relationship” with or feel the need to be “top dog”

If it’s a fling then ok thanks for letting me know and I’d expect the same from myself and other good guys I know as a sign of good internal character.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Oh my god yes. That is one of the sexiest things you could possibly do. Just stating your intentions.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

It doesn't have to be as methodical as you put it, but in general, yes it's always a good sign when a woman can communicate her needs in a relationship in a healthy way.

NathanDavis · Answer

yes, of course I do... and absolutely love it when they communicate that in a more passionate way, as well... lol all these can be very great bonding moments and essential reassurance...

Emiliamazing · Answer

For those individuals who are consciously thinking about how to continuously improve their relationship, I think this is wonderful :-).

Anonymous · Answer

Yes... They love honest girls... But do they really wanna hear the truth? Can u help me?

Sixgun77 · Answer

Some men, including me, do. When my wife and I started dating we talked about important long term stuff very early on, and we both feel that those conversations were a key factor in us staying together and getting did.

nolabels · Answer

Wouldn't that be wonderful. In both directions. Hope springs eternal!

boggboss · Answer

Yes I dont know why so many women think guys prefer signals over clear communication

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes, and its best if she is blunt/direct about it, even if it;s weird or perverted or needy or clingy.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Yes of course. Tell us directly. Some women think we're going to read their minds... It's ridiculous

dragoblack · Answer

Absolutely. No guy wants to play the " guess what im thinking. What do you mean you're not psychic?" Game and getting yelled at. We men are simple and just want to know exactly what is going on.

melanieeeB · Answer

Who cares if they like it, you should always speak up and say your needs and set boundaries... just out of self respect.

Anonymous · Answer

What you give positive feedback I only get told what not to do I need to raise my standards

Subarugirl · Answer

Good men will appreciate that yes, some just call it nagging.

suzzieQ · Answer

Some do yeah, others just call it nagging...

sixsixsix · Answer

I'm gonna have to say yes because the we wouldn't be having to try and guess that shit therfore we could get it right for once.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Way better than those who expect us to be mind readers maybe for attention.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes. We like plain explanations. Not guessing games.

Guanfei · Answer

Yes. Because it helps to know what she wants, and if I'm ok with it.

Anonymous · Answer

I WISH some men were actually being honest here. Some of us are clear with our intentions and most of y’all lead us on thinking we’re dating.

GirlwithaQ · Answer

I don’t think this is criteria for falling inlove or not falling inlove - this is merely an adult way of communicating and if he is mature, you stating your needs won’t be problematic to him?

archnightt · Answer

Definitely yes, I wouldn't want anyone who expects me to read their mind.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Yes, I definitely love it when a woman describes her ideal slave.

OddBeMe · Answer

Uh yeah…that’s a lot more productive than “You know what you did!”

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. Too bad those women don't really exist. 🤣🤣🤣

Jamie05rhs · Answer

YESSSSSSSSSSSS!!! 👍👍👍👍👍🙏

msc545 · Answer

More likely she just complains.

krin_m · Answer

I truly appreciate the clarity like that!

Jennz6 · Answer

Absolutely not, they don’t care

Pohjolan · Answer

Yes.

Pterodon · Answer

I prefer it

ElvenMr · Answer

Yes, i do.

EaterPeter · Answer

I am sure it helps

Wubs3000 · Answer

YES YES YES

ZenJen444 · Answer

Depends on the man

Do men like/love women who clearly and calmly state their needs in a relationship?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Do men like/love women who clearly and calmly state their needs in a relationship?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.