What can I do when I start talking to someone new and they ask about previous relationships?

[Krystal23]

When I am talking to someone new they always ask about previous relationships and now I have had shitty relationships but a guy I am speaking to has asked about them I’ve swerved the question but if he brings it up what can I say? I have had 0 relationships and I’m a virgin 😂 or I need something good to say so it does not look like I’m hiding anything from him guys and girls help a sis out please lol thank you xx

[caring__1]

Focus on what you've learned from your past experiences, how that impacted you and what changes you've made as a result of that acquired knowledge. You can also share what you've learned by observing others in relationships (friends, family, strangers, movies, books, etc.). Sharing details from your past will generally backfire, as it turns everything into a comparison rather than just seeing value in new experiences for what they are. You may also find your new partner may avoid taking you places where you've had a previous experience with another.

[ManOnFire]

Two ways you can handle this:

You can either be completely honest with him and say you really don't have a lot of dating experience.

Or, you can go hard and answer with something like: "I really haven't had much relationship experience to be honest. Are you going to judge me for that?"

Since a ton of guys love inexperienced women, you most likely won't have anything to worry about though.

[Krystal23]

Yeah that’s true I will just say I haven’t experienced dating much cause I can’t really be bothered with it? Which is the truth

[OlderAndWiser]

You could say "I've had dates and known some nice guys but none of them ever turned into anything that I would call a relationship. It's been a disappointment and something that I hope will eventually change."

[Krystal23]

Such an amazing answer 🙌🏾🙌🏾Thank you xx

[OlderAndWiser]

Good luck!

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Don't try to be cool so much to someone you like. That's short-term thinking. Be willing to lose them to honesty. Filter out the people who are the real keepers that you can say be as honest and unfiltered as you want about who you really are and they still stick around. Then you have found something very few people find in their lives.

[FilmGuy93]

You could just be honest? Just say you're a virgin, but don't give the usual stupid "I just haven't found anyone" excuse women like to give. Give a REAL reason. Say something like "I'm a virgin, but the reason is that I wasn't emotionally in a place to handle a relationship."

Because the problem with virgins isn't the lack of sexual experience. The problem is that virgins have no idea how to interact with men.

[bowenw]

I suggest telling them you are starting with a clean slate and want to get to know them rather than thinking about previous relationships that can't be changed.

[Krystal23]

Yeah this is true

[RHK36]

Honesty is the best policy. It's a red flag to lie about previous relationships. If he finds out that you lied, the normal reaction would be to avoid you for lying.

[Krystal23]

Thank you but the new city I have moved to which has been six years I haven’t really been with someone like that so I could pretty much say I have not dated about which is the truth?

[RHK36]

It's not the same at all lol. Your previous relationships are telling of a person. Then to on top of it lie about it, it's not the move. You do you tho lol

[Krystal23]

Hahaha 🤣🤣 yeah true I just think if you tell someone you’ve been treated shitty in the past they think it’s acceptable to treat you like that too

[RHK36]

Well if you keep dating the same guys you'll most likely end up with similar results

[serious]

What can you do?

Tell the truth simple. Don't hesitate or even hide the truth, say that you have always been single.

[Kryzo]

Tell the truth.

[LazerBean]

Just tell the truth.