my boyfriend said to me that I haven't been as active in the gym as I usually am. I haven't gone for a couple of months but I have been walking occasionally and I eat pretty clean.
He said that he would like it if I went more because he said that as a man physical attraction matters to him and he wants me to get to the best version of myself. He said on his end as a man he is doing his best to meet the needs I would want from him such as having vision , hard work.
He asked me if I would want him to stay in the same position he is in , with this career and financially and I said no, I would expect him to grow over time. He used this as a way to explain how he wouldn't want me to stay in the same place with my physical well being, with toning up and being more active.
I did not really take the conversation well, was his point valid?
I will be blunt and honest. I had this conversation before with my ex-wife. I tried to be really delicate about it, tried to be respectful and nice. Because I was having concerns, she was not physically able to keep up with me. She was complaining a lot about knee and back pain... and then using that as an excuse for other things. So I suggested that she work out more, not for any other reason other than for her own future health and well-being.
God honest truth... what I wasn't really saying was that she was getting fat. Like 20 plus pounds over heavy then the day I met her. And that all that knee and back pain was due to the weight gain. Well, she was upset with me, because she was no dummy, she knew what I was really thinking.
Then year after she lost like 50 pounds and got super fit... guess what she never complained about knee or back pain again... until she fell off the wagon and gained all the weight back. A few later we were divorced. Not because of her weight, but for many other reasons.
So yeah, you boyfriend is worried you are going to fat, don't be fooled. He wants someone that can keep up with him physically, and me might be one of those superficial types that just wants a sexy piece of arm candy. I don't know that is for you to figure out. But you start to let go in your mid to late 20's then how far out of whack will it be in your 40's or after childbirth?
For my ex-wife she was 50 pounds overweight, before she lost it all and got it back again. Now she lives with her dad.