It will be 2 years together, I (27M) work almost all day, even weekends, so my girlfriend (27F) plays with her friends most of the time since she's unemployed right now.
I found this (portraying her and her friends) and some other things that makes me feel uneasy. She has changed all her social media pictures in which we were together and don't leave me alone for more than 3 minutes with her PC or phone.
Now she's thinking of bringing her computer to my house (we date long distance) in the festive season, in which she will stay for no longer than 2 weeks.
She says she's faithful and that she puts a strong line between her friends, but seeing this even though it's a game, makes me feel uneasy
I don't know what you mean by "playing" with her friends. Do you mean a game online or something? I also have no clue what that image you posted is. Looks strange to me. Maybe use the update box and update the question with some info about that so we can give a better answer.
As far as not leaving you alone with her PC or phone, that is her property. It sounds as if you do not have trust. That is a huge problem if that is the case. While I can understand you are wary of her behaviour, it sounds more to me it is because you do not trust her.
Is there a reason for this? Has she done something to make you not trust her? Trust, along with respect and communication, are huge things in any relationship. Without those things, you are going to fail.
You need to identify why you have a trust issue and talk to her about it (communication). That is the very least you can do (respect) rather than having this attitude that she is up to something.
She plays games like survival, First Person Shooter. The image is from a game she's playing a lot, it's a survival game. Yes it's her property, but I don't even have a habit of checking her phone or checking her things, it's just I noticed something strange was happening.
Some guy started flirting with her and I happened to see, she wasn't putting a line and was kinda reciprocal. She stopped talking with this guy a few months ago, but ever since, my trust on her hasn't been the same.
I'm not having an attitude, but my instinct is telling me that something is wrong. I will talk to her but first I want to know if I'm wrong to even point these to a discussion.
You should be able to trust your partner what ever there doing there
Regadless virtual friends even if doing sexual things should not effect RL stuff, its far and diffrent from each outher
I dont think you should be too worried, but you can ask her to clear some time for you without PC or phone, just both of you, if she can't do it and it dose bother you, maybe your not a good fit
It means she really try avoiding phones and stuff in that time
Yes I trusted her a lot, but now some things she does in which goes against what SHE believes, and if "I" was the one doing these, she would have a tantrum for days.
Would you allow your SO to do sexual things on a game with his "girl friends"?
Then maybe our way of thinking seems way too different.
For sure I would and I do dislike these as a matter of "respect". How would these friends of her see me as when she does these things?
I don't know bro, you work a lot and I understand how that goes when you just wanna make sure you're all set, but this shit is long distance. Hard to make time for each other when there's sooooooo much distance in-between. She can bring her computer since she'll be in the house bored and you'll be at work most likely. You can express your concerns but you also have to tend to your woman now. She'll be in your space and wants you to love her down.
When you get into a relationship, it is your responsibility to tend to your partners intimate needs and my brother you have clearly been lacking. Work is important, but also make time for the peace you have in life. She wants to be with you.
We date long distance, we talk normally during the day and do stuff, but I can't always have time for the gaming stuff she likes, and can only watch a few episodes on netflix.
I’m wondering why you two are even in this relationship. It’s not a comment on either of you as people, but I just don’t see what either of you gets out of this.
I would never date long distance, but that's just me. Sounds like you are having trust concerns. You need to deal with this as soon as possible. Explain it to her. If she gets hostile, dump her.
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Is that an online game? What kind of loser shit is that?
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