Do you censor what you say to family and friends?

[jennifer_bloom]

My cousin has never discussed her relationship problems with me unless it’s a minor problem that is socially acceptable such as the guy getting angry at her for wearing ugly clothes to a social event. Either she has never had a bad relationship or she hides her drama cause it makes her look bad. I have never had an abusive partner but that is because I’m super slow about getting into a relationship with a guy. I am happy being single so I do not have strong incentive to seek out a guy.

[Moose304]

As a general rule, I don't. I have two older sisters along with aunts, uncles, and cousins all over the US that I am not really close to. I am hyper-selective about who I call a friend. So when I am with friends we speak the truth to each other. If I think a friend is acting like an ass I will tell them. What makes them good friends is I know they will do the same back to me. The truth hurts sometimes. It's wrong to censor the truth in almost all cases.

[Avicenna]

I do not tell my family every little thing I tell my friends

[7Phoenix7]

I think it depends on the relationship. Some people are extremely close and comfortable with family or friends and don't feel the need to censor anything. Others don't feel comfortable sharing everything with family or certain friends. And if they do share, it'll be a watered down version of what really happened or of what they really want to say.

[BlueScorpio]

Yes, most people don't speak or act the same way in front of family like they speak with friends.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I definitely hide another side (not necessarily a "dark side") of myself from my parents (especially my mom) and my siblings.

I'm a quick thinker and have no worries about me "slipping" during conversations with them.

My husband is also on the same boat and we are so well-coordinated with our secrets.

[menina]

Yes, there are things that I say to my friends but I don't say to my "family". I feel more comfortable around them than around my "family".

[Anonymous]

I have special people I deeply trust in, they're the ones that get to know whatever they want from me, or whatever I wanna tell them; whether is a plan I have, a problem or just the need to vent.

When I'm with certain part of my family/group of friends I don't always say everything as I would with the one's I trust the most, just to keep things nice. For example, I'm not woke, I prefer not to talk with regular friends about certain topics because of that.

[AmeerX]

What happens in the family stays in the family. If you bad mouth your spouse then later you might forget it but your parents or siblings will keep it in there heart that so and so time she or he did this to my brother or sister or son ot daughter. So, things can get easily out of control

[Shiface92]

Yes,

1. they like to gossip

2. they are too judgmental

[DesiUwU]

lately, i've been having issues that i wish i had a friend to tell, but i can't seem to make or find a friend.

[FreyaRed]

Yes. I don't want to bother them with my problems. It's more attractive for others to be problem solver than problem bringer

[dragoblack]

Yep. I choose not to be a core for drama and fights.

[Friendlybro79]

If you mean do I think before I talk to friends and family yes. I don't have to always say what I'm feeling if I don't feel like opening a can of worms or potentially an argument. I think most people do this every so often.

[SpokenTruth]

Exactly.

[Friendlybro79]

@SpokenTruth Thanks! Lol. Also, A good question to ask ourselves is should we say whatever we want to friends and family because we technically can? Not for me to answer for anyone else but for me the answer is no.

[Agape93]

Nope. I respect my friends enough to give full honesty, and I despise my family enough to make them uncomfortable with what I have to say.

[CoolCatMar1]

I don't like swearing in front of my mom. But when i am with my boyfriend or his friends and my friends I am very very different

[libsaretards]

Nope. I am who I am to both family and friends. If someone cannot handle me unfiltered then they do not have a place in my life.

[Likes2drive]

I’m sure everyone holds back a certain amount of details they rather not discuss because of embarrassment or feelings of failure, it depends who I’m talking to

[SpokenTruth]

I would say yes not that I want to hide anything from them but some things aren't for conversation such as things that could be controversial cause jealously or even raise suspicions.

[Chazmatazz269]

I consider and choose my words carefully, but i do not censor myself at all.

[Candyterry]

I won’t share anything even with my brother. I used to be more open about my experiences with my family and people around me but as time passed I see that those “secrets” were used against me. So no, better to keep it for yourself.

[elizamichale1]

no not so much coz my family is pretty open and supportive

[Jccowen77]

Just my mother. She's a straight laced Catholic, so out of respect for her being my mother, I keep it clean.

[Whatisthatname]

Sometimes I don't say exactly what's on my mind. It can be good to protect yourself and protect them.

[Anonymous]

i mask all of the time, sometimes it's hard to turn it off. so yes, i have a filter.

[Opinion Owner]

as for the cousin hiding her drama thing, it's best she does. she knows thats her issues and doesn't need to air out to the world. some things are just better left to people in the relationship.