How can I be less embarrassed and more confident when my boyfriend compliments me?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how to react to compliments, SPECIALLY over my body. I cringe at them, have no reaction at all or even deny it over and over. My boyfriend is the first person to compliment me a lot in my life. Whenever we’re intimidate or whenever he sees me nude, he calls me “perfect” and “a goddess” and claims that he’s “obsessed with me”. I always get embarrassed and look away when he do that. How can I become more confident and embrace the compliments? I always wonder if he’s just saying these stuff to not make me upset, even though I know he loves me very much.

[tenor55]

Men are visual!!! I still think my 66 year old wife is hot! I mean, 5’2, 100 lbs, long slender legs, perfect small breasts…oh, sorry. Where was I? Oh yes, men are visual. He sees your body completely differently than you do when you look in the mirror.


I think one thing is the constant unrealistic images of perfection that women see in the media. As hard as it is for you, believe him! He thinks you are hot. Try your best to accept it. We all look at our bodies with a microscope and others bodies with binoculars turned backwards.

[Asker]

Maybe I should start accepting it. Thank you sir for your words of encouragement!! Also, love the way you talk about your wife! Very sweet!

[Guy13]

I am with a woman right now whose favorite response is "not really"..."you keep showing me how badly you need glasses OR you don't really know me."

One thing i do know is that deep down she loves them... And flowers or actions are helpful and convincing. I assume that you are the same way... Somewhat startled and not sure what to do, in a world of hate, with an enamored admirer's positive affirmations. A smile would be good and soft eyes would be best.

[CubsterShura]

I always take a man's compliment on my body with a grain of salt lol, I realized to most men they mean nothing and they mainly say such stuff when they want something.

Neither getting flustered but not getting flattered is the best way to go in my opinion. Just don't give it any importance at all. You can smile and say thank you if you do appreciate the compliment and at first it feels fake but with time it will come naturally!

[OC1990]

This is tough but try to believe his words and not over think it. He’s attracted to you and you should think of it as he’s lucky to have you! We all have different body types and all find different one’s attractive. Is it about when he says it rather than what he is saying?

[coachTanthony]

Fake it until it you start feeling good about it.

[Blackmoonsns]

You have a self-esteem issue. You regard yourself in a very low quality. I would recommend seeing a therapist to get some counseling on how to increase your self-esteem if that's not your cup of tea I would recommend going to a gym or picking up a hobby or moving outside of your comfort zone put yourself in a better mental space.

[TrueConfection]

When my husband compliments my body, I'm always thinking, "What? Is he crazy? Maybe he has bad taste?" Then, I try to quiet those thoughts and climb on his lap and we make out. 😂

[Clairebear799]

You’re just humble but deep down you like it. Just complement him back

[Anonymous]

I say thank you and then instantly forget about it.

[Asker]

LOL maybe i should try doing that.

[AmeerX]

If he is too much obsessed with the body then you should be weary. He should start liking your personality too

[thegooglepixelfan]

I just say thanks you and it cam be bit anoying. Would prefer to about interest.

[TopTier]

Tell him to do something about how he feels.

No girl truly likes being hyped up

[Danny_dan92]

How is this even a thing?