Was this whole relationship a big red flag?

[Anonymous]

Asking for a friend. I think it is but I want know if anyone else agrees.

One year into the relationship he cheats on her by having at least a minimum of a 3 month long affair with another woman, he breaks it off with his affair partner. 5 years into their relationship they have kid 1, a year later they get engaged, another year later they have kid 2, still no wedding date but he had bought her a big engagement ring and tells everyone that she's like his wife and refers to her as that, they end up being engaged for a total of 6 years. 3.8 years into their marriage he files for divorce. They tried marriage counseling but it just didn't work.

I personally think she's an idiot for staying with him after the affair thing. And seriously who thinks its normal to be engaged for 6 years. I really don't think he was ever in love with her, I think he just really liked her and she fit into his world and the image he was trying to maintain and got married for the sake of the kids and being with her for that long already.

[petitedollbabee]

After the affair, he should’ve been dumped. And being engaged for that long is very weird. She should’ve listened to her intuition and not had children with someone who doesn’t truly care about her.

[Asker]

Exactly. To me having an affair just proves you don't have respect for your partner and you don't truly love them because if you did, you wouldn't and you'd be completely against the idea of doing so and not find anything appealing about it. The cherry on top of it all is being engaged for 6 years. Over 2 years is pushing it, but 6? It's why I don't think he was ever truly in love with her. If one was sure about spending the rest of their lives with their partner, they wouldn't wait that long.

[DubiousIntentions]

Some people are looking for love in all the wrong places and wind up with nada.

[Danny_dan92]

Incredibly so.




Sounds like a similar situation that my last ex is dealing with.




Lmfao poor thing. Karma’s a bitch tho

[LazerBean]

I stopped reading after the third sentence. The answer is yes.

[Anonymous]

“Asking for a friend”, pfft, some friend you are. Berating her for her choices, calling her dumb as if you’re perfect. Then for you to come on here and invite strangers to cast judgment alongside you is just shameful. I feel truly bad that she confides in someone like you.

[Asker]

Asking for a friend who is friends with someone who is friends with her. Didn't specify because I thought it would complicate and confuse people but to clarify, no i'm not friends with her and don't know her personally. Hell ya i'm gonna say she must be an idiot, i never said i was perfect. i'm just giving my opinion and was asked to ask the internet to get other people's opinion. You act righteous as if you've never done something like that (think someone's an idiot or ask for opinions on a situation) when you probably have so buzz off.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm, I have a hard time believing that you’re being honest about this whole friend of friend of friend scenario vs trying to cover up for outing a friend who confided in you but hey, there’s no way to know if you’re being honest and I don’t care to find out. I never said I was righteous, but I’m not the one exposing someone else’s personal story and inviting strangers to pick it apart. I’ve got better things to do than spread gossip and talk smack on people as if I’ve done every single thing right in life. Like I said, it’s too bad that whoever confided in you doesn’t know you’re such a gossip.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure you’ll have some snappy retort but it doesn’t change anything so go off lol

[Asker]

didn't read what you said lol not worth my time. Good day

[Opinion Owner]

I’m certain you did but if saying you didn’t makes you feel good then by all means :)

[Asker]

If you believing with all your little heart can that i read it make you feel better and accomplished then ok do you lol. I'm not gonna read it and let some old immature woman annoy me lol. Not responding anymore, go find something to be mad about somewhere else bye.

[Opinion Owner]

Honey what’s to be mad about? I’m not the terrible friend throwing peoples business in the street for feedback, that’s you. If 30 is old then cool, I’ll be old and loyal to the people who trust me lol take care.

[Anonymous]

Yes, most definitely, and I agree with you.

[Kryzo]

Well duh.