Are lingerie, bikinis, and cosplay good gifts for a new girlfriend?

[Weapon77]

If so, what kind are best? Would any of these be good?

[FinalFantasyBro]

You should at least ask her first because each women is different.

Some women would find it as a nice present because she enjoys being sexy for her man and appreciate that you went out of your way to find lingerie and other sexy clothing for her.

While other women would be insulted and offended because truth be told lingerie are usually designed for women to be sexually alluring for men so she might think you brought a gift which would mainly be beneficial to you as a guy instead of her personally. If I were in your shoes I actually ask her if she wants lingerie and sexy cosplay as Christmas gifts and listen to her actually if she actually into it than yes but it if she doesn't enjoy those than find a much more appropriate gift for her.

[SnowedIn]

No. No. No. and No. Even if your intentions are genuine and heartfelt, all those items (with one exception) are going to scream "I just want to have sex with you" or "I see you as sex". Which probably isn't what you want. (The one exception would be that if she is a HUGE cosplay person and there's a sword or a whatever that she wants and you get that.) But, that leads into what you should get her: pay attention to what she likes and doesn't like and get that. If she's churchy, get her a Bible. If she likes to read, get her a book. Movies, get her a movie. Etc. Bottle of wine. NO gift cards. Get her something that not only shows you care enough to get a gift, but that shows you've been listening to her and paying attention to who she is.

[Weapon77]

Fair enough!

[Lowiu]

If she is into cosplay and building her own stuff then it might be a good idea but I dislike lingerie as like a present for myself because I think lingerie is at least half also a present to him

My boyfriend does gift me some often but like in addition to my normal present as lingerie is often something he wants

[Weapon77]

Of course! Makes sense that it'd be more a gift to myself, so I'd probably rather avoid anything like that!

[Anonymous]

Depends.

Some women may be insulted and see this as you wishing she looked like someone else you found attractive in this clothing (ie. Pornstar, actress, character, ex girlfriend).

Some may love it because it means you find her body attractive and want to show it off.

😝

[Weapon77]

Makes sense!

[Guy13]

Yeah, if you want to make her an X-Girlfriend and be the NOT Centerpiece on her Instagram

[Weapon77]

I'd rather not appear on her Instagram or any social media whatseover lmao

But message received. The question is: why not?

[jshm2]

Sure, if it's her vibe.

Best ask her first though.

[soe11]

• Absolutely yes.
• I give my girlfriend too.
• Since then every year birthday gift for her.

[WonderingManII]

For a new girlfriend? I'd be scared to buy those for a new girlfriend.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Yes, but ask her lingerie choice and size before purchasing them for her.

[NathanDavis]

have you tried it before? how did it go?

[Weapon77]

Nope, only had one girlfriend, and I was always too afraid to try it. Otherwise I wouldn't post this question lmao

[NathanDavis]

it is a terrible idea, and here is why...

especially if she is a new girlfriend and you do not know her well

first of all, you might not even know if she likes lingerie, bikinis or cosplay, and even if she does... you might not know her sizes nor the right fit, she might be one of those that need a very particular measure that is not easy to find... but even if you had that data, what about her personal style and preferences, you might not know of this yet

and maybe it is obvious and you can make a good guess but... what if for some reasons, she is a bit wary of how she looks, what if she has had some bad experiences before... how would you know of all this?

but even if you knew all of this already and you can get it all right... there is the truth. and the truth is that with these kind of gifts, you are thinking of two things, and two things only and we all know that, you are thinking about sex... and you're thinking of yourself, your pleasure

this gift is not about hers nor for her... and THAT is the absolute worst you could do with your NEW girlfriend

[Weapon77]

Makes sense!

[BJP21]

If she's into it, sure.