If a woman wants me to change why does she not motivate me?

[Anonymous]

Shower me in love and I will change. I have nothing to gain from changing if a woman is nagging me about stuff all the time and not helping me.

If you’re not going to help me. Shut your mouth. If you’re going to leave me and can’t accept me for who I am. By all means. Leave… I will find someone better and hopefully you can find someone who better suits you.

If you want me to change love me and work with me or just shut up and stop being a burden on me. Especially if you contribute nothing and expect me to do more yourself.

[shanshu]

She wants you to change to a guy of her image so to speak so fk her.

The thing we guys will agree on with women is we will only change for the right woman, not with her asking us but us wanting to change just for her.

[Asker]

Right but many of those same women also if you say something about them well…. You’re bad you’re controlling you’re abusive. You don’t accept me for who I am

[shanshu]

Exactly, double doing standards

[Anonymous]

She want's you to find the motivation, but I get what you are saying. She could help.

[Asker]

Yeah but really people like that just further drain people

[Asker]

There is men who do this to women too.

[Anonymous]

What does she want you to change? If your whoring about you can't expect her to shower you in love

[Asker]

This isn’t wrong. If a man is a whore she needs to leave him.

[Asker]

But I’m not talking about that. I mean she doesn’t like something about him that doesn’t make him a bad person. But she (and guys do this too sometimes some guys) want to change who someone is.

But not all women are like this

[Asker]

Now some women seem drawn to guys with mental problems because they have good hearts that want to help.

Some men they can help if they also have professional help some don’t want the help

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I see well yeah if it is something like that then yeah I would probably just let them leave me.

[MCheetah]

Sounds like she's just selfish and demanding, so you're better off without people like that in your life.

[cheetocandle]

You better change for yourself. We tend to build a bear our men and it's unhealthy.

[Asker]

I notice it with a lot of men and women. They want to change who someone is instead of just realizing it’s not the person for them

[bamesjond0069]

You're missing the logic of women. If she has to help you it doesn't count. She wants you to change in the face of adversity on your own. Either that or nagging just means you're a bitch. Not necessarily what she's nagging about.

[lalaloveee]

You want a lover, a babysitter, a motivator for losers, and a life coach. No one want be an multipurpose girlfriend. Learn to take responsibility.

[Asker]

Never said she had to be. But nagging isn’t going to fix anything it’s only going to make it worse

[Asker]

And a lot of women seem to want that in a boyfriend as well