Okay the guy I’m seeing he’s really non-chalant. I kinda knew this before I met him since I know people who know him and he’s just a really chilled out guy. He’s had bad experiences with women though and I feel as though he’s wary of me because of this. He’s just so non chalant like when he’s busy he doesn’t speak to me and he will even take a whole day to reply and just be so relaxed and chilled about it. He does smoke a lot of weed so I feel like that might be a factor. He’s been really busy this past week in honesty he did message me a paragraph saying he’s had a busy week which I believe as I’ve seen his posts but isn’t this signs he’s to busy for a relationship?
Im very like not high matience but I do like attention from the man I’m seeing and I expect like going out and stuff every week but he just dosent seem to do that? We will go cinema maybe once every while but not much. I’m a very like anxious type of attachment style and my triggers are not at all his fault that’s my responsibility but he can go 2 days without speaking to me but then again we aren’t exclusive?
Am i over reacting here for being annoyed at this? It’s only been a month and we aren’t exactly exclusive so I don’t really know if I’m expecting too much to soon here?
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Before you ask yourself whether someone is right for you or not, always ask yourself first whether you can contribute to his life in a meaningful way. That means you have to know his life, goals, where he wants to go and what he wants to do. Can you help him get there quicker?
Too many times. Especially amongst women, it's about "me, me, me" and I hear that subtle nuance in your tone. You already judged him, exposed that he smokes weed, something that I'm sure is personal too him. This level of betrayal to a man of substance is unforgivable.
I think you need to get your head right before dating and maybe ask yourself whether you're mature enough to be taken seriously by a man. Otherwise your heart is at steak if everything goes south and no man wants damaged goods.
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DoctorSex