We judge ourselves on our intentions and others on their actions?

[Anonymous]

The pastor at my local church said this today. Whether you are spiritual or not it definitely rang true.

When I had people say and do nasty things to me in the past I (as anyone) usually judged the incident at surface value. Few exceptions would be if I already knew the person very well and knew they weren’t being themselves but were being negatively influenced by an outside circumstance.

However there have been other incidents where I tried to give the person the benefit of the doubt. But later got it confirmed they really are a POS and everything they said/did really did intention. When people refuse to apologize and/or gaslight then you know the truth about them. When that happens I cut them off and never look back. My self respect is more important is more than any friendship or relationship in that case.

But how patient are you with judging people?

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[DaisyM23]

that's actually quite a hard hitting saying and i think it's true - i take it as meaning you think more highly of yourself compared to others, so if you do something bad with good intentions you can justify it but if someone else does that, then their bad actions determines them and we give no second chance aka we're hypocritical - but we also judge ourselves/others based on other things too obviously

how patient am i with judging people? not very, i can still be friends/friendly with someone I'm judging though because at the end of the day what they do is their choice, I can find it weird/annoying but it's whatever unless it's something harmful

[Asker]

If all comes down to knowing if someone respects you are not. Respect cuts through everything.

[Asker]

One thing I hate more than liars are hypocrites. But when we really look in the mirror and think hard about how we judge others do we ever step back to realize that our egos warp our own self judgment?

[es20490446e]

My problem is qualifying them, not expecting them to be different.

[Asker]

Good point

[es20490446e]

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