From a man who works at walmart to a man who has a trade or career that has a monetary livable wage that can support a family while the girlfriend or wife can take care of the baby. How important is money in the overall apealness when women are looking to date men? I'm not talking about gold diggers because they usually go for men who are millions in the bank etc... I'm talking about modest hard working well paying wages.
Very important. If you're not the bread winner, women see you as useless.
It's funny how the world works, but that's reality. It's a hard pill to swallow for many, but if you know female nature then you can't really blame them for it. It's the survival instincts.
Nobody expects you to be a millionaire, but you need to be self-sufficient. Women in the west have unrealistic expectations because they are living life with abundance of resources while other women have to rely on their men because life is not as easy in other parts of the world. You as a western man will have to overperform to meet some of their expectations (yes it's not all women but definitely a noticeable group) so they can see you in the same way that other women look at their men, that's IF they do. (You can't change bad habits easily, so even though they say they will change if a man makes more money, that's probably unlikely to happen).
Make no mistake, a man MUST be a provider, that's not negotiable. The question is about how much more should you have after you cover all the basic necessities? That depends on the woman. Some women are OK living a relatively modest life where their basic needs are met without additional requirements, while other women want to live a certain lifestyle of traveling and added luxuries. How she reacts to your income isn't something you can control, but what you can control is the vetting process (remove anyone who doesn't appreciate you for what you have) and to a degree your income as well (although how much you make is determined by various other factors).
Moral of the story is this: if you don't live the most glamorous life, that's OK. Don't feel like you've failed your job as a man if you have a median salary because it's not YOU who has to change, it's their appreciation of life that has to change. They need to be more grateful. All you have to do is find someone who is going to be grateful and that's about it. If it doesn't work for you here, you can always look elsewhere.
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In our unconventional current times, young people don't see the problem.
The reality is that a woman will eventually judge her mate. She doesn't lose respect with him overnight. But if she makes more money, she will eventually lose respect.
Once that respect is gone, she will keep an eye out for better. This is normal female nature. She is biologically designed to build a nest and prepare for offspring. Even if she is not into having kids. Her urges are to maintain the best nest.
At some point, she will see others get better, and when she realizes her mate is slowing her down, from what is important, the relationship's days are numbered. This is not even contraversial.
I just want to marry the man I love and that we can be financially stable to have a good life and our children. We both would work since it's what's normal now, but I think I'll try to leave my job for a while to spend time with our children and raise them well, just like my mom did.
i don't know what kinda world you live in where you think its common for men to still be sole breadwinners. classic misygonist.
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Male as family breadwinner is useless unless he is the spiritual leader of the home. The spiritual leader, In and Through Christ Jesus is what is necessary.
There’s lots of divorced former bread winners. Life at the Flesh level will never be fulfilling or eternally successful whether rich or poor.It’s not. If it is. She’s a gold digger
Accumulated resources and/or the ability to accumulate resources is second only to physical attractiveness as the primary characteristics women seek. It’s such a close second that a tie is arguable. Both are rooted in evolutionary biology. So anyone who suggests otherwise is grossly ignorant or full of malarkey. We are dozens if not hundreds of generations away from those traits not being first and foremost to women with their full faculties. It may never happen.
Also, gold diggers come at every level of financial success, not just millionaires.I seriously don't think that's important about who makes more or less money in a relationship.
If that relationship or potential relationship is founded on such BS then that relationship is shallow, immature and weak to begin with.
The reality money is a means to survive and meet your needs, not to inflate your silly and fragile ego.
Breadwinners are nice. Attractive wives are nice. But at the end of the day, neither are deal breakers.
My husband is currently injured and I'm thinking about taking on a second job.
He's still my breadwinner to me <3
- In this day and age unless you have that $25-$30 and hour job or own a successful business chain it is common for both you and your woman to be working because the price of life is too high yes it’s important you’re financially stable and also if you plan to have kids you should already be stocking up on diapers and anything important but not all at once just here and there honestly though good luck
I think that my wife could have made more money than me when we first got married and when we had our first son. Still, she stayed home with the baby and I worked a crappy sales job.
My girlfriend makes more than I do. Do I get jealous sometimes? Of course, that's normal. But at the end of the day, who makes more is irrelevant, because it's not about money
My step mother was a Professional Wife and Home maker.
I mean as long as we have enough money when I’m on maternity leave then I don’t care who has more earnings. It’s our money not mine and his
My wife makes the money in our household, doesn't bother me at all. I have a full time job as well and I help contribute. It's all good as long as each other is happy.
Not at all. As long as there is respect and she doesn't start to hold a grudge against me for not being the breadwinner.
People who say it's not important ignore the realities of human psychology (both men's AND women's).
It's only important if you're worried about his fragile make ego
As long as you can provide all is fine. You don't have to be the main provider.
Not as much these days as it use to be.
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