Can a person change their minds and realise that they love someone from a different socioeconomic background?

[HappyWoman34]

Someone from a privileged upper class background, the heir to a fortune, fairly new money, realising or thinking that they’re in love with a person from a middle class or working class background? If someone says that’s the case, is it true, or can they just not find anyone else, so they’re settling for that person? Say you met through mutual friends, shared common interests and mutual chemistry. This isn’t an emotive question. It’s just a question as I feel bored and I’m curious for the views of others.

[caring__1]

People choose partners for various reasons... most being very superficial. The best partners are those that have a special connection. When money, sex, hobbies, lifestyles, escapes or other things become the priority, the result is generally disappointment. Prioritizing clear, open honest communication, being considerate and respectful of the other, seeking no more than you bring to the relationship and making sure both always feel safe, secure and special have more to do with the success of a relationship.

People who prioritize matching socioeconomically may have some things in common, but they're not necessarily going to find they are more compatible as partners. When people choose to match socioeconomically, their general priority is usually to either increase and/or protect their financial well-being. There are more important aspects of a relationship than finances. Finances can make some things easier, but can also complicate other things. Once a person's preferences have been established, it is unlikely for others to change that person's mind about those preferences.

[Guy13]

Yes that happens although the differences in worldview can cause issues. I do not know any couples that are still together. At some point in the relationships, the ethnicities and attached cultural differences are too great. It can be very messy as the. Experiential extremes present themselves.

[HappyWoman34]

That’s interesting. I had a situation where an upperclass man thought he loved me and said he’s waiting for me and keeps showing up where I am, in middle class areas. To try to prove he’s not from my view, judgmental of poorer people. But I had your feeling, that it wouldn’t work out.

[HappyWoman34]

It’s not the money, it’s the different values, it seemed. Not worth it for either of us.

[Guy13]

Sounds about right….

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Isn't this the plot of a lot of romance movies? And I know there are plenty of women who were born middle class who would go out of their way to get into higher class situations so they could find someone rich to marry. Whether that's for love or for security is debatable.

[HappyWoman34]

To me, it depends on whether they know each other well.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I agree, relationships should be established on chemistry and how well you mesh together, but it's not like there wasn't a time where financial security was one of the biggest reasons women married someone, too.

[Guardian45]

Of course people can change their minds!

[Anonymous]

What in the korean drama crap is this