What do you do when you like someone off a different religion?

[Anonymous]

This has happened to me all my life. I am a traditional roman catholic, and never in my life have I met or seen any other catholics (other than my family of course). It seems like finding a catholic is as rare as finding a unicorn.

All the people I've liked had either been atheists, protestant (modern christian) or like agnostic. I hate it because I know that evem if they liked me back I woulsn't be able to get with them.

Honestly it feels like I'll never find love. For a few reasons.

1: No guys are interested in me in the first place. No guy really finds me physically attractive.

2.: I have a super beautiful sister who steals my crushes heart and attention and makes me invisible.

3: I am super awkward and shy, with a very terrible personality.

4: I try too hard to please people.

5: I'm mentally unstable and have a lot of insecurities that basically controls my life.

6: Traditional roman catholic men are unicorns. You can't find them.

So yes, I've been feeling very hopeless and sad for the past few years. Extra now since I feel like I'm running out of time to find someone. I'm craving that love you find in a relationship. Affection, hugs, cuddles, communication, conversations, a best friend, a deep connection, happiness, sadness, anger, love and all that stuff. I want to experience it. I want to get married and have children. But no, I guess maybe God doesn't want me to find someone, but it hurts a lot since it's the thing I've been wanting since I was a little girl.

Man, life is hard. Especially for religious people like me with a religion basically no one follows.

[Curmudgeon]

Interesting. Because it seems to me that Catholic men, formerly "Catholic Boys" are legion. Then again, if you mean committed old school pre-Vatican II traditionalists, Latin Mass and all, then perhaps you are right. Most and perhaps nearly all are "Cafeteria Catholics" or post Vatican II at best.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SfMzgglJhJ8

"I was born in a pool, they made my mother stand
And I spat on that surgeon and his trembling hand
When I felt the light, I was worse than bored
I stole the doctor's scalpel and I slit the cord

I was a Catholic boy - I was redeemed through pain - Not through joy

I was two months early, they put me under glass
I screamed and cursed at children when the nurses passed
Was convicted of theft when I slipped from the womb
They led me straight from my mother to a cell in "the Tombs"

I was a Catholic boy - I was redeemed through pain - Not through joy

They starved me for weeks, they thought they'd teach me fear
I fed on cell mates' dreams, it gave me fine ideas
When they cut me loose, internment served me well
I made allies in heaven, I made comrades in hell

I was a Catholic child - The blood ran red - The blood ran wild

I make angels dance and drop to their knees
When I enter a church, the feet of statues bleed
I understand the fate of all my enemies
Just like Christ in the Garden of Gethsemane

I was a Catholic boy - Redeemed through pain - Not through joy

I watched the sweetest psalm stolen by our choir
I dreamed of martyrs' bones hanging from a wire
I make a contribution, I get absolution
I make a resolution to purify my soul

Cause I'm a Catholic boy - Redeemed through pain - Not through joy

They can't touch me now! I got every sacrament behind me! I got baptism! I got communion!
I got penance! I got extreme unction! I've got confirmation!

'Cause I was a Catholic child
When the blood ran red - The blood ran wild
And now - Now I'm a Catholic man
I put my tongue to the rail whenever I can!"

[Curmudgeon]

Or the original:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tHLeVtE-wjI

[NamerOfStars]

"At best"? You can be Catholic or not be Catholic, but rejecting the authority of the Pope puts you firmly in the latter camp. Those incapable of admitting the mistakes of the past and moving on from them hardly count as Christian, let alone Catholic.

[NamerOfStars]

You are part of the single largest religious denomination in human history; if Catholics are rare, then what isn't?

[Asker]

You don't understand, there's different cults of Catholicism. The one I follow is extremely rare nowadays.

[Curmudgeon]

Which offshoot? Traditional Latin Mass? Opus Dei?

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Reasons 2-5 are enough to convince me that you’re not ready for a relationship. Your insecurities are holding you back, not the idea that Catholics are rare (which they are not). If your age is accurate, and you are under 18, there’s no need for you to be worried about whether or not God wants you to be married right now. Different people get married at different times in life; some at 18, some in their 20s and 30s, some in their 40s and beyond.

Your single years are also nothing to be unhappy about. They are a gift from God too. This is the time for you to have adventures, make friends, try new things, and grow into the kind of person you want to be.

[Asker]

Well there's different cults of Catholic men, and the religion I follow is not the same they follow.
Maybe that's right, I am incredibly insecure.
It's just that I'm in my "best years". I'm in my "prime" and still can't find someone and it's stressing me out.

Thank you though:)

[SaoirseS]

The negative picture you paint of yourself seems to be more the reason for your woes, not the perception that Catholic guys are rare (because they are not). You're under 18, work on yourself first.

[Asker]

Okay, how do I stop becoming so insecure?

[Jamie05rhs]

I just want to say that I understand how you feel, but don't give up. Hold on to hope. I believe there are good things in your future.

Also, my personal opinion is we shouldn't worry so much about someone's religious beliefs as where their heart is. (But it's okay if you disagree.)