It's just gonna be the 3rd day of class the next we meet and I want to get closer to him. I don't want to mess up another potential friend or boyfriend again :((
So, I apologize. I'm going to paste an answer I gave to this question ( What do guys like to talk about? ) last week. It was a good question -- and so is yours -- and my answer is good too. :) Well... I think it is. If this is terrible, please tell me and I'll come with something more tailored to you and your situation.
"I'll talk specific and then I'll talk general. And, yes, my profile age is correct so if you ask my sons, I'm an old man and don't know anything. But I'm not as dumb as they think I am. I think.
What I'm about to write covers lots of guys. But not all. I'll get to that point later. Guys like sports. Cars. School. Music. YouTube. TV. Movies. FOOD! Games. But most also like animals (cats, dogs, hamsters, etc.). Camping. Ice skating. American Football. Soccer. Others like drawing, theatre, or books. Still others are band/orchestra or chorus.
So, the key to talking to them is twofold: show them you're interested and ask them questions. People want other people to be interested in them. Always (that'll be true throughout life). Ask them questions. But don't make them "yes" or "no" questions. Make them ones that he can answer easily and build upon what he tells you. "What do you think of math?" "Math sucks!" "So what do you like?" "history?" "Do you read a lot?" "No, reading sucks too. I'd rather skateboard." "I've never done that. What's it like?" And go from there. You don't have to know all about the topics -- the goal is to build a connection. But if you do know, then all the better. Maybe you both go to church together or you both draw or whatever.
Another way/idea is to talk about you and make HIM ask questions. Make him want to learn about you. "I'm scared of sailing." "Why?" "When I was 8 my dad threw me off a dock to learn to swim." "So, like, are you scared of the water or something?" "I guess so. But it's more around boats." "Well, do you like to swim anyway?" "I do like to swim!" "Yeah, me too; I'm on the swim team." And then you're back to being able to ask him questions and make a connection.
The classic "What do you like" connected to anything is always a good conversation starter or rejuvenator.
"Have you seen this video?" is another and then show them whatever it is. The conversation will take off, generally, and follow down the rabbit hole of YouTube.
Bottom line, be interested (and interesting) and ask questions that require answers that aren't yes or no."
The first step is to be observant. Look for signs of whatever might interest him, and then ask him about that interest. Comment on answers he gives in class, especially if the answers help you think more deeply about the question or it gives you new insight. Ask him to explain something you're struggling with in the class. Guys tend to be more likely to appreciate getting positive strokes for what they say and do rather than how they look. In other words, focus on what is within his control rather than what isn't within his control.
Be curious but not nosy. Seek deeper understanding rather than overwhelm him with endless interrogating questions. You can ask "In what way?" "How might that impact the results?" "What was your most interesting experience in that area?" "How did you get interested in that hobby?" "How might we apply your experience to our present challenge?"
Say hey. Notice something cute about him snd tell him. If he does not run then you are good.
Just keep it simple and dhow some interest in how he's getting along. Like ask him how his weekend was and if he did anything interesting.
It's a bit too late to do that hun
give him a note to meat up after school
Be friendly, small talk
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