My wife doesn't have trust or belief in me even though I have never let her down?

[Anonymous]

My wife doesn't seem to trust or believe in me even though I have never let her down. I have always gone above and behind. This is now starting to take its toll on me. The only time she will have any belief in me is after she has spoken to friends or read it on the internet. She causes delays and arguments nearly every other day.

[Anonymous]

If you’ve never in your whole relationship done anything and she doesn’t trust you then why did you get in a relationship with her? Why did you go deeper and marry her? Because to me it sounds like you knew what you were getting into, hoped she would change and she never has, now it’s starting to take a toll. You walked right into this on your own.

[Asker]

She wasn’t like it before it’s been the last three months

[Opinion Owner]

So she just randomly got overly suspicious and hasn’t trusted you in 3 months? She could be the one cheating.

[Asker]

In short yes. Even though I’ve done nothing and we are round eachother all the time. One other thing she has started to do is get very jealous and make accusations yet she will never open her phone in front of me either. The phone thing has never bothered me but it’s something that has come to mind thinking about it. Always on social media

[Opinion Owner]

That is such a big red flag. She has access to your things at any given time but you can’t see hers? Are you afraid to ask or what?

[Asker]

I have asked when she started to change but she accused me of not trusting her. She then locked herself in the bedroom. After she came out she said there you go have a look

[Opinion Owner]

I won’t lie, that’s definitely suspicious. The last thing I want to do is instill doubt in you, but the fact that she is so untrustworthy of you all of the sudden, and demands you give her peace of mind yet throws a tantrum if you ask her to reciprocate is just wrong. Locking herself away in the room like a child gives her more than enough time to clear her phone out, so she should show you before doing that. The things is though, you don’t want to run around in circles, pointing fingers at each other and never being able to trust. You should sit her down and have a serious conversation about either working through this issue together with therapy, or splitting up. Because this can’t go on.

[Asker]

I've tried the sitting down and talking and all I get is I'm tired, I dont know with you anymore or think what you like. I think its un recoverable.

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t blame you, there’s only so much of that a person can take. Sorry to hear it’s come to this but maybe you are better off apart so you can start having some peace.

[Asker]

I am seriously considering that. It has got to breaking point.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

If this is that big of an issue, I'd either get her to go to counseling with you, or hire a divorce attorney.

[Emanon25]

She probably saw something you did behind her back.

[Asker]

Nope she has full access to everything and is with me 24/7

[Emanon25]

Did you notice anything on her behavior?

[Asker]

Yes she like to accuse me of ignoring her, not caring even though I look after her daughter when she works away

[Emanon25]

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[Asker]

How do I do that?

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