hey everyone. i’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 years. i stopped my whole life to make him my whole world. i stopped hanging out with my friends, i stopped doing my hobbies all to give him 100% attention when he asked me to go over. eventually over the years i lost myself. i’m not the sweet girl i used to be, i gained weight, i’m not always happy, i look at myself in the mirror and i don’t recognize myself. we have been arguing real mad for months now. two days ago i told him that i think we should take a break. just so i can find myself again and be the best version of myself i can be. however, i miss talking to him. i miss being happy with him, but i also understand the heartache someone goes through when the person is always so unhappy with themselves (me). i always complained that we didn’t go out anywhere, how he followed bunch of bikini girls on instagram and liked their picture, how he choose beer over me countless of times and how he would call me drunk and said horrible things to me. since December 31 2022 he decided to change the way he was, not for me, for himself. he didn’t like the way his life was going so he’s changing. i prayed for years for this man, but now that he is here, I don't know how to handle it. i’m so used to the man i knew for 8 years. i’m also so unhappy with who i am. i stopped being myself for him and that’s my fault. i don’t want to lose him forever, i want to be happy with him and i know he wants the same. what can i do in this situation?
What do I do in this situation?
