We live in the same city with my boyfriend but we haven't seen each other approximately for 6 months. Is it normal?

[passenger]

We haven't seen each other approximately for 6 months. Is this normal? We are constantly busy with our working life...

[EmyyWolf]

NOPE! That relationship is over lol 😂.

Sweetheart. Don’t you know how a man’s sex drive works. Okay? He’s not gonna go past 3 weeks without some action. I know because I used to work with all men in certain military jobs. ALL MEN. Sometimes there would only be one other woman around, and she would almost always be a lesbian.

I’m gonna tell you this now, so you can wake up. Be aware.

That man is definitely cheating on you. Someone is giving him better “AZZZ”. Someone else is his girlfriend as well.

Most men I was friends with, they wanted to cheat on their girlfriend, wife, or they were plain single and having fun. One of them even used to brag that he’s cheating on his wife. And some men were jealous of the single men who had options.

you're saying you haven’t seen him for “6 MONTHS?” Ok…. That’s half a year. You know that right?

That sh-T is over. That guy ain’t even worried about you. He ain’t even thinking about you.
6 MONTHS? This means that it turned into winter, or that it turned into Fall , and he was nowhere to be seen during that time 😂.

I don’t know if you’re slow or d—mb, but honestly if a guy flakes on me, cancels on me, or just doesn’t show up within 1 month? I personally know that this ShT is over.

You’re 35 you should know how males operate, how their sex drive works. You should know that they don’t wait long. You should already know that they view sex and relationships completely different.

There’s no way the two of you can be “constantly busy”. There are days off, you have time to shower, and you have time were you go home and sleep. That’s BS. I’ve heard that from a man before. That’s no excuse. If he says that.. it means you are option number 4 or 5. That means there’s an option 1 & 2. You’re in the back pages. Specially if he hasn’t seen you for 6 months. A man who doesn’t see you for OVER 2 MONTHS… that man has no feelings for you.

Thats obvious!! That’s a no-shT type answer. What is wrong w/h you?

[EmyyWolf]

@passenger

[BigWhiteWolf87]

@passenger - in comparison my boyfriend & I live almost 2 hours apart and every weekend are together. We both have VERY busy careers. He's an ER doctor, newly graduated, and I happen to also work in medical / pharmacy last year I was doing the work of 3-4 people (my boss had to hire that many people when I quit).

I & my boyfriend care for each other. We WANT to be together. We don't see each other as a convience or causal friends with benefits or something that we think about every once in a while and say "oh maybe I should visit them".

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You guys on the other hand are NOT boyfriend & girlfriend. It's NOT normal behavior.

You're assoicates that get together likely whenever there's a "itch to scratch" and don't really care for one another beyond causal sexual relationships. You're friends with benefits and even calling you that's a scretch.

[SteveSmith1985]

I mean... no. That's super not-normal. That is very very abnormal. I've never even heard of something like that before.

It says something if you can both be in the same city for that long... and neither of you found it important enough to see the other. I don't care if you're literally the busiest two people on the planet. Nobody is too busy to see their partner for 6 months... when they live in the same city.

It sounds like "extereme mutual indifference" to actually seeing each other. Otherwise... you could've absolutely figured something out.

I guess if neither of you finds it unacceptable to not see each other for so long... then... I guess you're all-good. But... I donno... If you were a friend of mind, I'd have many more questions for you about what's going on in your relationship. It's not just being really busy. Busy people can find time to meet... sometime over 6 months.

This... genuinely threw-me-off. I'm not even sure how to react here. It's so hard for me to imagine myself ever being in that situation. If I cared about someone enough to want to be in a relationship with them... I'd definitely want/need to see them. Somehow, I'd make it happen. I don't quite understand how/why you two aren't (making it happen)

[Gibbons44]

I don't really know what it is about people's belief in punishment above all else (vs reward above all else).

It takes 20 hours (less than one full day-night cycle) to become comfortable with a new person (by that time a friend) or a new skill. It takes 100h to feel proficient, 200h to feel like 'this could be it, I'm getting the hang of it' and 1000h to master a skill - or to really know a person.

At 10000h (similar to pilot 'hours of flight') one is 'true and tested' - got to see/navigate and witness the rare/edgy situations as well.

1000h = 50 days or so. If done in continuity. No trying of anything is required.

[David_Kek]

And 1000 hours taken in a 9 to 5 work week is about 6 months, so that's interesting when you look at it that way.

[Gibbons44]

@David_Kek ha. A very good point. Coincides with employment contract becoming open-ended. Wish I never got injured by a female in intimacy so that I could agree this quickly with a female. But that's a really long story of guild of someone else being scapegoated onto me (she got pregnant, they declared me guilty of impregnating her - when I was 2 years old)

[Guy13]

No this is not normal and you are likely not boyfriend girlfriend whether you realize it or not. No guy is going that long if he is use to getting it.

[Anonymous]

yikes... that is NOT a relationship. you are technically already broken up. do you two even talk? constantly busy and don't even try to make effort to see each other? lunch break? like... i don't understand that. when i was in my early 20's a dude did this to me. of course i thought we were dating, but we technically weren't. he would never put in the effort to make plans. all we would do is flirt over text. it was stupid as fuck. it was absolute bullshit. and of course i was too young to understand back then. after all of that, he decided to "want to stay friends and go back to his ex" which was a lie. this was like a year... stop wasting your time! and if you're too busy with work then you should take a break from trying to be in a relationship.

[integrale77]

6 months is a long time apart you really need to find a way of meeting up.

I hope you have been keeping in touch even if not meeting up.

If it's work getting in the way it probably time to book some days off together for the sake of the relationship otherwise someone is going to get bored and stray because they think it's over!

[cryscrys1]

No matter how busy you guys are you can go and stay at his place for a night or he can do so at least once during those 6 months. Or during those 6 months 1 must have sacrificed to meet you for 1 hour at Starbucks or highway I don't know somewhere in the middle where both of you can go back home easily after.
That’s not even abnormal let alone normal.. this is a case to be seen by CIA.
Any person at GAG who deals with national intelligence might help you

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. @cryscrys1 Don't tell her to spend the night with him. They need to be doing more than just having sex.

[cryscrys1]

I meant spend the -night- because they can leave during the day it’s their supposed ‘ busy days ‘ full of work hours ! At night they can sacrifice their sleep so they can talk and during the day back to being busy..

[cryscrys1]

Can’t *

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm; okay.

[Sorrento-Sun]

It's not normal.

It's unhealthy not to spend quality time together for 6 months. It's also unhealthy for your wellbeing to be that busy.

It's important to find a life and work balance. Life is too short not to spend it with people you care about as much as possible. I believe in the phrase ' you should work to live, not live to work'.

Over time, you'll both drift apart if you don't make time for each other.

[TruthBringer]

You lost me at the part where you claimed to be in a relationship. The fact you call this a relationship is already an issue in itself. Haven't seen "your" man in 6 months while he is in the same city is far from normal, and a clear indicator that you're not in a real relationship. Maybe texting pen pals at best, but not actual partners.

[KittyKat90210]

No, it's not normal to not see each other for half a year when you're in the same city. Even busy people make time for each other. It doesn't have to be long get-togethers but it's important for the relationship to be with each other. Do you at least talk often? If so, you should be able to consolidate the time from a couple of calls and use that time to see each other.

[xoxosilentgirl]

6 months and you live in same city? Omg is this relationship or nemesis? No its not normal, its fine if you guys live miles apart, but same city? how you have no desire to at least spend 1 hour with your partner? how busy you are, at least make time for them. I know meet too frequent will make you guys easily bored with each other, but at least once every 2 weeks, or if both super busy spending once a month enough.

[28ouc]

This seems like you's are no longer boyfriend/girlfriend. 6 months is not normal. Even if one or the other or both are busy if the relationship meant anything to either of you then you's would make time to be togeather. I would not be with someone that could not make time for me more than once or twice a year.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Who is constantly busy with the working life? You or him? Because if neither of you puts in the effort, then neither of you really wants it. If just one of you won't put in the effort, then just one of you doesn't really want it. Don't give me this, "ZOMG I'M SOOOOOOO BUSY" BS. If you wanted it, you'd make time for it. One of you isn't feeling it. Or both.

[Anonymous]

I have a full time job, run livestock, am building a house (actually building it, not hiring it out) and work weekends at a dance club and I STILL have time to see BOTH of my girlfriends, who lice an hour and a half away in opposite directions at least twice a month...

It's all about making an effort.

[Adam1978]

You are clearly not a couple. You are at best a side chick among many, since he hasn't bothered with you for 6 month. You must be very low on his list.

[SnowedIn]

Very not normal. That's not busy it's something else. You may call each other boyfriend/girlfriend, but that's not a relationship.

[sheikalana]

Not normal at all. I have the busiest schedule I'm constantly travelling and I always make time for my partner.

[SphynxUK]

A boyfriend you haven’t seen in 6 months? I hate to bring it to your attention, but this isn’t a relationship!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s not normal… That’s not a relationship.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I get shocked every-time reading this question. Doesn’t sound like he thinks you are his girlfriend.

[Razp_Sorbet]

I thought that said ex boyfriend at first. No that isn't normal. You make time for eachother even if it's just for an hour.

[Jemini_Crocket]

It's not normal by any means. No guy who is in love would leave you alone for this long.

[Nikki1989]

It is not even a relationship at this point.

[RockyHammock]

I've heard of marriages being like this, but y'all are not even engaged. You positive you're still dating?