Is my boyfriend married?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been together for 3 years and I have yet to know where he lives or have met his family. I googled his name and he’s address pops up but also says a woman name with his last name. I go on Facebook and look her up and it hasn’t been active for almost 5 years, but she has his mom as her mother in law and he his sister as his sister in law. I went through her pictures and there’s on once picture of them together and that was from 2013.

so a few weeks ago he buys me a gift and gives me the receipt in case I want to exchange it and I see her name for the credit card number. I confront him later and he says he was given the wrong receipt and saying he’s not married. I ask who she is and he said he didn’t know. I never told him about the her Facebook that I found.

I feel sad 😞 every day because I know he’s lying to me and I don’t know how to confront him.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm guessing you already checked all the people on her friends list...

I remember my step-kid's Dad was obviously cheating. He was married to some new woman and to establish communication that was "safe" he gave a Facebook profile that was literally him pretending to be some woman. Obviously, he was doing this behind his wife's back because... he's already been caught before. He never stopped and he just got better at it. My wife knew it, I knew it... but he really thought he was smart.

Anyways, the dude started a practice of picking up the kid for father-son time... He's be back in 5 minutes and drop the kid off with some McDonald's. Then it stopped. Pretty easy to figure out what he was doing.

He would tell his wife that he's going to spend time with his kid... pick him up, drive through McDonald's, drop him back off with me... and then he most likely went to spend hours with his side chick. He must've pushed it too far and got caught... the visiting suddenly stopped. He was never again allowed to see his kid without his wife in the passenger seat.

With that big long story out of the way... you need to think about this. You're probably the side chick in that story or I should say your story... plus or minus a kid lolz. Eventually, it's going to end anyway... when it does...

He's going to be up and gone... and I'm guessing so because he hiding her from you and not telling you how much he hates her and wants to leave her for you. He gets caught, he's going to be on COVID lockdown X10... I bet he tells the wife he has to pay some debts, so that he can buy you some gifts by the way. In the end though, he's her bitch.

I'm a dude, so my advice and perceptions on what I would do in your shoes... not sure you would relate... us dudes wanting more vagina, because what's better than a vagina? More vaginas! You on the other hand are probably thinking about feelings, those gifts, was probably dreaming about a possible future because he seems financially set... he might of "sold you the dream and kept you hoping," which is a saying you'd understand if you listen to the lyrics of gangsta rap.

I'll end with this, If I was in that situation and figured out the chick was two-timing me and her main dude like that... I'd keep banging her if the pussy was good, but I'd also be looking for a replacement at the same time... and as soon as I found it... dropping her trifling ass ASAP and moving on to something with more promise for an 'actual' future.

I'd also like to add, I think he's fucked up. My side-chicks always knew everything and were always not lied to at all. One was cheating herself and hiding it from her man... which I didn't agree with because she was just using him. Using me too... but for my dick, but using him and taking all his cash and buying me shit all the time. Why did I have side chicks? My main chick cheated... I was faithful before that. She's the one that begged me to stay, so I'm just trying to convince her to let me leave! Obviously, I never ran into a side chick that held more promise to up and leave... because they were cheaters themselves.

With that said... maybe you shouldn't take my advice... that, and the world is fucked up, so don't let it get to you. Good luck to you and try to figure it out.

[SnowedIn]

Just leave. You don't have to confront him or anything. Just don't do anything else. Be done.

By the way, in answer to your question of whether or not he's married: irrelevant. Be done.

[Changiis07]

Just confront it. Tell him what you saw on facebook and that you would like an explanation

[Asker]

Im a little scared because I don’t know how to bring it up

[Changiis07]

you shouldn't be scared I mean I would be fuming!! The fact that there's so much evidence and you saw photos of them unless he has a twin that he never knew about but if he is for you he should be understanding of where you are coming from

[Sparkie460]

It's been 3 years and you never met his family or been to his house? Do a drive by and see what activity is going on at his house.

[In_Trance]

wdym you've been together for 3 years and don't know basic details? What have you been doing all this time?

[Luckycharms12]

Confront don't have to just walk away and never look back

[Cheerfull009]

What a fuck,? a person fucking you for 3 years, and you don't know his family background

[Wise4myage]

Too many red flags in my opinion.