More people want the easy way out, one foot out the door any time. They only want the good parts of a relationship, they want an extended infatuation period, the physical connection, the love declarations but no responsibilities, working on the bad days, accepting the person's flaws, accepting everything is not ''and they live happily ever after, argument free''.
The key problem is people's reluctance to paint a clear picture of who they are, what they bring to the relationship and what they expect of a partner. Not wanting to miss out on opportunities, people often present what they believe the other wants to see, rather than what truly exists. Though we can be on our best behavior when seeing someone on occasion, it is pretty much impossible to keep all this hidden when we are living 24/7 with someone. It is much easier to determine compatibility when people are clear, open and honest with each other. It's the deception that leads to the demise of many relationships.
As far as why people live together, there are many reasons people choose that option. People may need a place to live, or they may find living together is more cost effective, or they're looking for something they believe they can't get on their own, or they may want to see whether the person will follow through on promises, or they may just see it as a convenient thing to do. The quality of a relationship isn't determined by whether people cohabitate or not. A relationship is based on the quality of connection two people choose to create and nurture. If they don't choose to create and nurture something special, then living together is like putting lipstick on a pig.
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Honestly I don't think you really should until marriage. Tbe attraction you have for him will likely fall for multiple reasons when living together.
Also, it's to the womans benefit for him not to if I'm being honest. It's the woman's job to get the ring, and if you on top of each other before he proposed, you just making it far less likely
Exactly, there’s not point and that’s why I stopped dated several years ago and have no plans to ever do t again. I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than again be involved in something that isn’t going to last our whole lives. It’s a complete waste of time and emotion.
Most of the problems that cause people to breakup are solved by not being easy and using your brain instead of your genitals to pick your partner.
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You have better chance of being together married than SO or live in or partner or whatever you call it.
All you say is 100% correct , and these are the risks of life , real life is tough , people are scared , sometimes " reality bites " , So what can you do? Well its risk v reward isn't it..
Taking the chance , that this one , is the one -- difficult agreed , if I can the answer to this I'd be on the speaking tour.
That's as daft as saying "why bother living, if you're just going to die?"
There is a lot more going on in life, kiddo. You need to touch grass and stop pontificating.
Life is full of risks. Why get out of bed if you're just going to die anyway? That's pretty much this line of thinking.
Because some want to get married so they live together while engaged.
To see if there's a future there
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