I'd argue its technically wrong anyone feels anyone else SHOULD be any particular way (within reason). But from a practical standpoint, her view isn't wrong or bad or immoral. People should do what they want, if a couple likes that, they should do it. If they don't, they don't need to.
That old "the man has to pay for everything" doesn't work in this economy compared to the old days where a man made enough in an economy that was affordable... back in the 1960s. Since minimum wage never adjusted for overall economic inflation, the affordability of a man being able to pay for everything has become more nonexistent and more of an idealism than reality.
If 50/50 is good for you, you do you. I personally want my man to pay for things like dates, when he takes me shopping, pays for my nails etc. Because I'd like to pay for home decor, appliances. I like to give expensive gifts so I'm gonna treat him with that. It's all about the two people and it's not other people's business really.
I agree with you. This is what I love most about this century. Relationships should stay 50/50. And now, there are grown men who relies on their woman to provide for them instead of the other way around.
My mom even has these thoughts, I guess because she doesn't take her salary from dad anyways. My dad is Managing director of our company and my mom is director. She takes no salary from him so it's that way for her.
Well our parents are stick with the old mentality, and never evolved from it. You are 1000% right! Your mom is completely wrong. She must of been treated like a princess \queen most of her life . So she is pretty spoiled, sorry to say.
I hate gold diggers and feminists who think that men should pay everything. I am a masculist aka mens rights supporter and equality supporter. So everyone should pay equally. This is the healthiest way.
You should contribute equally but it should be adjusted based on how much each makes. It should not be rigid but it should feel fair. If thing’s are not equal someone is going to feel resentment
in my opinion yes men should take care of their women and provide for them, women should not work if they do not want to a man should be able to look after his woman and be able to provide and take care of her needs
with my ex before i compute and we are just 50/50 ... but let's say my ex will have no job i will provide for him. before i even wanna but him car. that's what TRUE LOVE is. that is fuckinh something you don't command but given to yoy out of love
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Not sure your mom’s age, but that sounds like the old stereotype of the man paying for everything. She is likely passing on what she was taught. Today, things aren’t like when that idea was widely spread. Women do make up a lot of of better paid jobs, not just sitting home.
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No. Relationships are 100/100. And only be with someone giving 100% of what they're capable of. I know you didn't ask about marriage but that is why the vows say for better or worse. Because someone isn't always CAPABLE at the time of carrying thier end. But they should always be giving 100% of what they're capable of, regardless of gender.
Your mom is just old-fashioned. She comes from a different era. Yes, you are correct, and she is incorrect. That doesn't make her a bad person; she's just wrong, that's all.
I think the man should make more than you and be able to take care of you, but not that he has to always pay for you, since if you have your own money.
Well i thing relationship is actually 50/50 and your mom could not be totally wrong about it. see your mom would not be paying but i think in return her household contributions would be more and also there would have been less authority that she would have. Actually everyone have its own 50/50 version of relationship and there is always trade of of somethings. Like if you want to contribute by paying then your boyfriend would have to also contribute to household more to make it 50/50.
i don’t think relationships need to be so calculated and transactional. it can be casual. you can spot him or treat him to something whenever it feels right, and trust that he’ll do the same for you, not necessarily exactly half the time but enough that you’re both contributing similar amounts of energy and understanding.
Because that’s what she’s used to and values in a relationship.
People have different values and expectations. Not everyone likes 50/59 and not everyone likes it if one person pays.
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Interesting when these are the results but another pole reviled many men are not gonna wanna date a woman who makes more than them 😭 I don't know how these dudes always be wanting the best of traditional and modern in a woman but then wanna be the worst of both themselves it’s wild.
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I'd argue its technically wrong anyone feels anyone else SHOULD be any particular way (within reason). But from a practical standpoint, her view isn't wrong or bad or immoral. People should do what they want, if a couple likes that, they should do it. If they don't, they don't need to.
Your mother just has her opinion and that's okay.
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That old "the man has to pay for everything" doesn't work in this economy compared to the old days where a man made enough in an economy that was affordable... back in the 1960s. Since minimum wage never adjusted for overall economic inflation, the affordability of a man being able to pay for everything has become more nonexistent and more of an idealism than reality.
If 50/50 is good for you, you do you. I personally want my man to pay for things like dates, when he takes me shopping, pays for my nails etc. Because I'd like to pay for home decor, appliances. I like to give expensive gifts so I'm gonna treat him with that. It's all about the two people and it's not other people's business really.
Your mom seems to be a freeloader. Glad that your thoughts are different.👍
I agree with you. This is what I love most about this century. Relationships should stay 50/50. And now, there are grown men who relies on their woman to provide for them instead of the other way around.
You inspired me to ask this question.
True 50/50 in a relationship?
My mom even has these thoughts, I guess because she doesn't take her salary from dad anyways. My dad is Managing director of our company and my mom is director. She takes no salary from him so it's that way for her.
Well our parents are stick with the old mentality, and never evolved from it. You are 1000% right! Your mom is completely wrong. She must of been treated like a princess \queen most of her life . So she is pretty spoiled, sorry to say.
I hate gold diggers and feminists who think that men should pay everything. I am a masculist aka mens rights supporter and equality supporter. So everyone should pay equally. This is the healthiest way.
You should contribute equally but it should be adjusted based on how much each makes. It should not be rigid but it should feel fair. If thing’s are not equal someone is going to feel resentment
in my opinion yes men should take care of their women and provide for them, women should not work if they do not want to a man should be able to look after his woman and be able to provide and take care of her needs
with my ex before i compute and we are just 50/50 ... but let's say my ex will have no job i will provide for him. before i even wanna but him car. that's what TRUE LOVE is. that is fuckinh something you don't command but given to yoy out of love
Not sure your mom’s age, but that sounds like the old stereotype of the man paying for everything. She is likely passing on what she was taught. Today, things aren’t like when that idea was widely spread. Women do make up a lot of of better paid jobs, not just sitting home.
No. Relationships are 100/100. And only be with someone giving 100% of what they're capable of. I know you didn't ask about marriage but that is why the vows say for better or worse. Because someone isn't always CAPABLE at the time of carrying thier end. But they should always be giving 100% of what they're capable of, regardless of gender.
Your mom is just old-fashioned. She comes from a different era. Yes, you are correct, and she is incorrect. That doesn't make her a bad person; she's just wrong, that's all.
I think the man should make more than you and be able to take care of you, but not that he has to always pay for you, since if you have your own money.
Well i thing relationship is actually 50/50 and your mom could not be totally wrong about it. see your mom would not be paying but i think in return her household contributions would be more and also there would have been less authority that she would have. Actually everyone have its own 50/50 version of relationship and there is always trade of of somethings. Like if you want to contribute by paying then your boyfriend would have to also contribute to household more to make it 50/50.
i don’t think relationships need to be so calculated and transactional. it can be casual. you can spot him or treat him to something whenever it feels right, and trust that he’ll do the same for you, not necessarily exactly half the time but enough that you’re both contributing similar amounts of energy and understanding.
Because that’s what she’s used to and values in a relationship.
People have different values and expectations. Not everyone likes 50/59 and not everyone likes it if one person pays.
Interesting when these are the results but another pole reviled many men are not gonna wanna date a woman who makes more than them 😭 I don't know how these dudes always be wanting the best of traditional and modern in a woman but then wanna be the worst of both themselves it’s wild.