I believe that relationships are 50/50 especially these days since the cost of living has gone up and secondly relationships should always involve both partners treating each other equally and taking care of each other and treating each other. Also if a couple is living together married or cohabitating both partners should contribute and there’s a better chance for a relationship to succeed like that and there won’t be any financial strain or resentments between the partners…….. So why would my mom think or expect that my boyfriend always pays for me?
ps - my boyfriend is a total sweetheart and gentleman to me and he’s an honest guy
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I don’t know how old your Mom is but for the most part , her parents probably told her to find a man that can support her and take care of her cuz back then that’s how things were , Couples could live comfortably off of one income , So your Mom was probably raised thinking that way , There is nothing wrong with it but the reality of it is far fetched these days , To me, it’s better to find a partner that works together as a team over a partner relying on the other to pay for all the bills and all the expenses , the reason being is if something happened to one of you you both will be ok financially for the most part , I won’t date a girl that is relying on me to pay for everything, I rather be with a girl that is independent that can support herself if something happened to me , It doesn’t matter how much money she makes just as long as she has work ethic , Now if I landed a job making a shit ton of money enough to support
The both of us plus the kids , where we could live comfortably , then yes I rather her be at home taking care of the kids and the house , But realistically it’s better that she has a job as well and we work as a team , I dated mooches before and it got to a point where I was living paycheck to paycheck because she didn’t know how to budget money , Most girls have shopping spree built into them , where everything is on sale , shit we really didn’t need , to the point my stress level would go out the roof, to the point I could barely pay for the bills , I felt like I was working for nothing, cuz she would just buy dumb shit all the time to the point I had to put my foot down to her and
Tell her to stop going on shopping sprees , It always turns into a battle and butting heads over money, which to me is stupid as fuck cuz I am very content , I don’t need much to keep me comfortable as long as my bills are paid and I have a roof over my head and food inour mouths and clothes on my back and some beer on the weekends I am ok lol if she wants to go buy things for herself go for it just don’t screw us over , but when it gets to a point that we are scraping by I flip the fuck out lol I have always been a worker ever since I was a young kid I always had a job , My work ethic has gotten me to a comfortable level in life and everything I own is stuff I worked for so I don’t rely on anyone to take care of me
I am perfectly capable of Taking care of myself , when I meet a beautiful girl that is looking for a hand out I kick her to the curb where she belongs , just because she is attractive it doesn’t mean I want to take
Care of her ass if she isn’t bringing anything to the table she is worthless to me , Sadly so many girls today don’t want to work but the ones that do work are already taken or they are selling themselves like prostitution is legal all of a sudden or looking for Sugar Daddies and spreading their legs for any guy she feels she can gain something from , To the point morals is a thing from the past , After my divorce and entering the dating world has been a rollercoaster ride of craziness