Is it right that my mom thinks my boyfriend should always be paying for me and sharing everything with me? (Page 2)

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I believe that relationships are 50/50 especially these days since the cost of living has gone up and secondly relationships should always involve both partners treating each other equally and taking care of each other and treating each other. Also if a couple is living together married or cohabitating both partners should contribute and there’s a better chance for a relationship to succeed like that and there won’t be any financial strain or resentments between the partners…….. So why would my mom think or expect that my boyfriend always pays for me? ps - my boyfriend is a total sweetheart and gentleman to me and he’s an honest guy

Anonymous · Answer

I definitely think both people in the relationship should contribute but I do think it should be relative to their earnings.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

In the ideal world a man should be the care giver. That said this economy is far from ideal and in a few years if things continue like this people will just give up dating entirely.

jshm2 · Answer

You're both stupid.

Your mom for not understanding that you're not married, and not a gold digger. You for not understanding that whatever he does for you is reciprocity. He could kick you out tomorrow with little recourse.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

By feeling: YOUR arrangements with YOUR boyfriend is not your Mom's business :)

John_Doesnt · Answer

The man should only be the caregiver and provider if the woman is willing to be the homemaker. That would be equal 50/50. But if she just wants to sit around all day spending his money then that's not equal.

Likes2drive · Answer

That’s old school thinking, like back when she was dating it was affordable for the man to always pay, now it’s nice to help at times

LittleSally · Answer

50/50 is fair. Your mom's point of view is outdated, but that is the era she has grown up in...

ChooChooHaha · Answer

It's between you and him. Who cares what your mom thinks? If you and he agree it's 50/50 and back it up (on both ends), your mom can shut it.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I've said fit a hundred times - everything should be 50/50 when dating. When you get a ring, then you can gouge him. 🤣😂

StormChaser838 · Answer

yes, boys should always pay. As a girl you should always offer to pay and insist till you know him very, very well.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Relationships are 50/50. (Not in every every activity/chore/etc, but overall). It’s a team…. everyone do what they are good at, share the things you both dislike and spoil each other. The recipe for success.

AydenHazor · Answer

Your mom sounds very traditional, but relationships tend to be healthier when both parties contribute to them equally. I wouldn't be strict about everything having to be exactly 50/50 but I think both parties contributing is definitely the way to go

WhitneySnow · Answer

I agree with you. Do what you and your boyfriend mutually agree feels comfortable for you both.

mattc007007 · Answer

100% 50/50 or depending on the income of the partners it could differ. It depends though; if a dude makes serious $ they should contribute more, but the women should still contribute.

DarkLegacy · Answer

The poll results should tell you everything. Your mum is wrong. Relationships like that are a thing of the past, that was when women were expected to stay at home and not work.

the_sinner · Answer

It’s not entirely right. Sharing and caring for each other is what keeps a relationship alive in these times.

Razzmatazz101 · Answer

Let him take care of you most of the time especially if you guys are having sex. There's nothing wrong with you hopping in and paying from time to time just to show you enjoy the occasional hard penis lol

Raaj4you · Answer

No, my mom said, spend money only on food and commute. Don't buy expensive things for your girlfriend. First test her if she is a gold digger or not? Buy expensive things only after the wedding.

krin_m · Answer

I voted 50/50 but in reality it is your and his decision together and none of your mom's or anybody else's business!

Drdeeznuts1132 · Answer

I think it depends on how close you two are and what kind of personalities and all that bs. Happy for your man though.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I hate when women never pay. Your mom is wrong. Maybe not 50/50 if the guy does well but personally done w broke girls that can't contribute.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

Your mum sounds like a gold digger. Do your thing your way

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

50–50, but whoever makes gelt the fastest and spends on other things less should pay more. It could be either. Also, whoever invites the other to the date should pay, but both is ideal.

Softlife808 · Answer

The man should provide and will for a woman he desires. If he's not fully paying for you then you're not his dream girl. You're being used as a stepping stone for the woman he truly desires

David6668 · Answer

Sorry for breaking your heart that's not the right question you should ask I am a men and I know both of your aspects totally fine. If you don't got my opinion dm me for further explanation

admles · Answer

Tell your mum it's 2023, not the 1950s, the world (thankfully) doesn't work that way anymore.

najekim · Answer

Now days everything needs to be about 50/50 partnership to make it as a household. Besides, more often than not one makes more money than the other but it all goes to the household.

alice55 · Answer

he man should be the caregiver and provider but personally I'm a traditional

Fes13 · Answer

Because that way both feel like contributing to each other... otherwise one carries tab... when married ok.

Angelbug119 · Answer

Relationships are given and take and as long as he makes you happy and treats you right that's all that matters love does not equal money.

Gibbons44 · Answer

Maybe your mom would like to share a boyfriend/husband with you? Are you and her physically close/comfortable with each other?

annabananna · Answer

She has her opinion and it’s a big old school but at the end of the day it’s up to you the kind of relationship that you want.

Djaay · Answer

50/50 NOPE 🚩. YOU PAY YOUR WAY AND SO DOES HE. Someone here in 50/50 is NOT paying an actually 50 % whereas the other must put in more % to accommodate..

ProteinBro · Answer

It is natural masculine traits like the desire to hunt, to fight and protect his family are hand in hand with the desire to provide resources like food, water, and shelter. Men are masculine. Maybe your asking about boys?

Anonymous · Answer

At the end of the day its not her relationship so she shouldn't be in your business

Sunflowersofi · Answer

I agree with both you and your mom, I think that 50/50 is the way to go, but also your boyfriend should be paying for things maybe a bit more since he is the man in the relationship. That's just my take on this though.

Dargil · Answer

Update. That's what you should do, then. Others' opinions don't matter.

Jay3344 · Answer

In date nights sure, if he wants to really try and treat you then yea he can pay. In real life though it’s ok to split the bill

Mangospacho · Answer

I’m surprised your mom is that invested in your relationship with your boyfriend (not even your husband) at the age of 30-35.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

You're both right. It's a set of different values. She's of the traditional, you're of the more modern arrangement.

Freyke · Answer

She is oldschool. She is not up to date with the times.

Marked_Man · Answer

I'm old fashioned and feel good when I pay.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well I will not vote, and believe that if you really think it's 50/50, than go and pay half the time.

Anonymous · Answer

probably because your mom is a boomer... just saying...

MountAverage · Answer

Why do you even need to ask? I mean, isn't the answer obvious?

boobliker · Answer

no but not 50 50 but always help with the costs and if it just for you then may be 90 by you

PointTaken · Answer

Mostly depends on the couple. If you want 50/50, then do it.

clampfan101 · Answer

50/50. Relationships are supposed to be partnerships.

Vick2828 · Answer

Relationships are 50/50. You both should take care of each other.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I think the relationship is 50/50 so end of story

lazermazer · Answer

She is basically telling you, it is not going to last.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

It depends upon the culture and religion , in Islam, husband to provide every necessity of life to wife

Sabretooth · Answer

Real life requires 50/50 and sometimes more. Men are machine gods.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, that wouldn't be fair.

Anonymous · Answer

No he should pay. Well it’s the one that initiates the date

Phoenix98 · Answer

That's between you and your partner.

Anonymous · Answer

your mom is not from the era when woman makes money as much as man do and having a child is not so much contribute the world population.

Anonymous · Answer

Until there is a blood relation with a child it should never be 50 50

ThomasDavid1989 · Answer

It's wrong to let your mom control you

Danael31 · Answer

Why do you even ask, of course she's wrong.

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