Is it really that difficult to not cheat? Why do you think so many people find it difficult?

[Anonymous]

I just don't get it. Please share. No judgment here. I really just want to know.

[BullShark]

Like the last person before me said, most people who cheat on their partners are usually people who are starved for validation. In order to understand why people cheat, you first need to understand where the cheater's coming from. Did they have a major fight with their partner and aren't talking to them for a couple days? Are they craving some intimacy but they're still mad at their partner to want to try and reconcile? Are they in an abusive relationship where their selfish partner beats them/only uses them for sex and doesn't bother reciprocating their needs? Or are they in a loveless relationship and the spark just isn't there anymore and they've found what they're really looking for in someone else? The possibilities are endless.

As for me personally, I'm in a relationship myself but I would never cheat on my partner, no matter how choppy the relationship may get. I'm not one to easily fall for anyone else anyways, so I always remind myself on why we got together and what was it about her that attracted me towards her and got us where we are today. As for the cheaters out there, I have no empathy for them, nor do I ever think it's justified to cheat on your partner no matter how dire the situation may be. If you're having problems in your relationship, communicate with one another instead of sneaking behind each others' backs. If you can't talk to each other without jumping at each other's throats, if they're the one cheating, or you don't feel comfortable around them or they aren't in a position to reason, get some help and involve someone else for the sake of your own mental health. There is no excuse.

I was in an abusive, one-sided relationship a couple years ago and my partner wouldn't communicate directly with me and would instead cheat on me frequently, so what I did was bring in a mutual friend of mine who tried to be the peacemaker between us. Even then, she refused to fix her ways, so I simply ended up breaking up with her instead. Yes it hurt, but being heartbroken and single for a while is better than to stay with an abusive partner.

Hope this helped.

[Anonymous]

While cheating is never justified, it's important to understand that there are many complex factors that can contribute to infidelity in relationships. Here are a few reasons why some people may find it difficult to stay faithful:

1. Lack of communication: A lack of communication in a relationship can create distance and a lack of intimacy, which may lead some people to seek out affection or connection with someone else.

2. Temptation: The temptation to cheat can be strong, especially if a person is feeling unfulfilled or unsatisfied in their current relationship. This can be exacerbated by social or cultural norms that promote casual sex or infidelity.

3. Emotional or psychological issues: Some people may cheat as a way to cope with underlying emotional or psychological issues, such as anxiety, depression, or low self-esteem.

4. Opportunity: If a person is in a situation where they are frequently exposed to potential partners, such as in the workplace or during social events, the temptation to cheat may be stronger.

5. Lack of commitment: If a person is not fully committed to their relationship or feels emotionally disconnected from their partner, they may be more likely to cheat.

It's important to remember that cheating is a choice, and it's never justified to betray someone's trust or hurt them in this way. However, understanding the complex factors that can contribute to infidelity can help to promote empathy and understanding, and can provide insight into how to build stronger, healthier relationships.

[BigWhiteWolf87]

People who cheat do so because they're inferior, as proven by the comments of needing "validation". They lack in self respect, self esteem, self confidence and cheat as a weak minded and weak willed to put a perceived value to their dull existence.

I say perceived value because people who have self value don't assoicate with cheaters. They laugh in the face of people looking for flings, cheap affairs, etc.

Whereas, people that assoicate with cheaters on the other hand are likewise inferior in self esteem, respect, confidence, etc. and self value thus they engage cheaters under a perceived concept that by having an affair with a cheater they too have value. When reality is neither the cheater nor the person involved with the cheater have value.

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Take BullShark's examples of a cheater's inferiority
Did they have a major fight with their partner and aren't talking to them for a couple days? - Is the cheater a respectable adult or an infantial child incapable of self control.

Are they craving some intimacy but still mad at their partner to want to try & reconcile? - Is cheater a respectable adult or an infantial child incapable of talking & self control

Are they in an abusive relationship where their selfish partner beats them/only uses them for sex and doesn't bother reciprocating their needs? - Is the cheater a respectable adult or an infantial child incapable of self respect.

Or are they in a loveless relationship and the spark just isn't there anymore and they've found what they're really looking for in someone else? - Is the cheater a respectable adult or an infantial child incapable of self respect.

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All cases of inferior individuals lacking in self value, self respect, self esteem, etc. turning to cheating like a toddler told no to dessert before supper rather than act like an intelligent mature adult.

If that was not the case and these people weren't inferior individuals they would communicate with their partner, work to resolve issues or in the case of the last 2 leave.

[Anonymous]

Some people are just that selfish and will cheat however good they got it. I think there can be a reason though like if you feel stuck in a bad relationship. I never ever thought I would cheat but my husband cheated on me he can be really shitty and abusive, but I’m not a citizen and we have kids so I have no family here. The guy i see has a crazy girl she broke his nose before he shares a house and child with her. I know it’s not how it’s meant to be but we do give each other what we need like care and affection not just sex.

[OlderAndWiser]

The problem is NOT that being faithful is difficult.

The problem is that cheaters WANT to cheat! They may deny that, because they are trying to squirm, wiggle, and avoid consequences, but they are doing what they want to do!

[MrOracle]

The vast majority of cheaters are also selfish and self centered people generally, so it's not like most of them are difficult to spot. The problem is that they tend to be the people who are most attractive to the opposite sex, so most people overlook or rationalize their selfish, self centered behavior because they don't want to "lose" an attractive partner. And men are just as guilty of doing this as women are.

Most people today choose their partners purely based on their feelings, meaning how attracted to that person they feel, without doing much of any vetting. The more attractive they are on the surface, the less likely they are to do any real vetting before committing, because they don't want to learn anything bad about an attractive person, because they don't want to feel conflicted. But, of course, this just sets them up to be hurt far worse in the future.

The really messed up part is that they then blame the other person completely, taking no accountability for their lack of vetting or their unwillingness to walk away when they figure out the kinds of morals and values their partner has. By not taking that accountability, they are free to repeat the same mistake over and over again. They come to believe that everyone cheats, but it's because they are picking the people most likely to cheat and then completely fail to vet them. They convince themselves that it's everyone else's fault and that they are blameless.

Anyone can make one mistake in choosing a partner, but if you have had multiple cheating partners, the problem is YOU. Again, men are no better than women in this regard - I've seen this play out with both sexes countless times.

[EmyyWolf]

I agree with this so much.
Yes a guy in my job looked like Brad Pitt, handsome and manly as absolute f-k.
He was so desirable every girl in the mall was trying to talk to him. He had a girlfriend though and within a couple months she broke up with him obviously due to him cheating.

Later on a new girl came to the job. And within a couple months she herself cheated on her husband and her two kids to sleep with the super hot, Giga Chad, BRAD PITT.

Cheaters attract more cheaters. And they’re usually all desirable.

[MrOracle]

Exactly. If you are going after the most attractive people, you are also going after the people who are most likely to be selfish and self centered and most likely to cheat on you. And it won't really mean anything to them, because they can replace you quickly and easily.

But you have people who do this over and over and never learn the lesson.

[lightbulb27]

I think that's an emotional question and a question of how one manages their emotions depending upon each individual. Some more than others... some that get away with such behaviors as a child, simply repeat... since they were rewarded. We can in fact hold responsible somewhat, the people whom are spoiling the youth.

Is it difficult to not eat some amazing desert sitting in front of you... you want it, you know it satisfies more than anything else, more than the same desert you've had every day for a long time. what's stopping you from having it?

Different minds have different training, guidance, parameters to limit their scope.

Now try putting that person in a state of pain, sadness, desperation... they dietary needs not met, really are hurting at deep level... will they use that desert to make themselves feel better? Maybe. What's stopping them... maybe some social rules?

This is the problem, deserts! But we can't go blaming the desert on the table can we? That's not responsible... we have to have inner standards and strength to manage the temptations that are inevitable, or societal controls (like avoiding the temptation). We have to look to ourselves, why we feel as we do, resolve that... and establish standards for good behavior so as to maintain healthy... trusting, supportive relationships.

There are the scenarios of course where it seems randomly, someone throws cake in your face or jams it into your face and says "hey, eat this... you know you want it". It happens, even accidents, that takes even more strength to avoid.

Mating is a stronger concotion than eating something sweet.

[ThinkFitness23]

It depends on the person’s nature.


Many men and women are sexually driven individuals and the excitement of new attraction and sexual desire is like a drug or bad habit (addiction).


When I was younger I could see or cross paths with multiple women daily (some i knew and some I did not) that I would want sexually.


If you find someone attractive and it’s clear this is mutual the recipe is or potential is real.


Meanwhile you may have a much deer connection elsewhere and not wish to end this relationship or come clean.


Males are more likely to cheat or want to in the first place, I believe this is because there is a part of the brain in relation to sex that on average is 5 times bigger in males than females.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Cheaters are gonna cheat. 😂 They're usually attention whores or they're addicted to sex. For myself when I became a cheater, it was revenge. She cheated so I cheated back way more to really make it sting (and to try to get her to want to break up).

In summary: Attention whores, sex addicts, or to do some damage to someone.

[Asker]

How did she cheat and how did you cheat way more? What was her reason and how did this all end. Super curious

[D_Bone_Steak]

She was trying to impress a new friend group she made, and the guy that was flirting with her got her to catch feelings, so they had a quick sex session, and she had to leave. She found out, starting the next day he had sex with 3 other girls after she left, and was basically date-raping girls on the nights before her. Her fault for catching feelings... I mean they publicly agreed (in front of this new friend group) they'd be only friends with benefits's. Oh... and the new female friend that was getting her into that friend group, is one of the girls he fucked as soon as she left.

How did I cheat back way more? ... I kept fucking girls off of dating sites, and it would last anywhere from a one-time thing to about 3 months of just hot sex. I did that many, many times. Then I cheated for almost a year with another woman... it was strictly friends with benefits's between us, it was just about the sex. Besides that, I'd bang a couple of hookers every other night... and did that for a couple of years. For me, it was just all meaningless sex. I wasn't getting sucked into any emotional shit...

I got my revenge, she accepted she had no right to complain about my cheating, and refused to leave... eventually, I agreed to stop cheating since she stopped, and because I was tired of dealing with women and the non-sex stuff women try to achieve from men. D_Bone_Steak is only interested in one thing.

[KrakenAttackin]

@D_Bone_Steak. My man!

[big_ben_007]

I think its easy not to cheat if you have morals and you love your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband. If i love someone deeply and want to build a future for both of us so that one day we'll have kids and raise them together, there's no way I'm gonna throw all that away. I've never cheated before and i never will. But i have morals. And a little common sense.

But some guys have no discipline or self control or morals. So when he sees an attractive girl and he likes her, he'll tell her lies, flirt, and eventually try and screw her. Then he'll do it to another girl. And another one. Over and over till it's his lifestyle and he does it all the time. If a guy like that gets into a relationship or worse married, he's probably going to fuck it up.

Same applies to women.

[FilmGuy93]

It's not hard to not cheat, but you have to understand that most people who find themselves in that situation are horribly starved for validation. If you don't live a purpose-driven life and you don't feel like you're comfortable in your own skin, and you don't even really understand how or why you are where you are; trying to blow off steam by having taboo sex is a way for them to feel alive.

It's not a good decision at all; it's terrible, but it's not like people who are in control of their lives are the ones making it.

[bean2k21]

First of all, what is cheating? You need to be clear and direct about your definitions and expectations. Lay the ground rules, and make it also clear what the rewards and punishments are for following the rules. I always, always, always show my video series to slaves so that they understand the term "cheating" and the rewards of obedience. My rules are called "The Three Commandments."

https://www.youtube.com/embed/_u5ePQcpR4I

[Orion76]

You are asking like it’s an abnormal thing people find it hard to cheat it’s not about cheating itself its so easy as an act but not for people that honour their word and keep their promise and also for people with empathy and who are fair to their partners. But for people with no self respect, no values and no empathy i won’t except nothing less you’d probably understand if you have a partner who thought he has the right to chose for you to catch an std from someone else while you thought you were safe lol

[Xyzinthehood]

They cheat because there was no love from the start. If you love someone, you will never cheat. Sure you can love more than one person but if you are already with someone else, you will not make the move, you will either break up with them to be with the other or stay.

Cheating is for people who want to fuck, they do not break up with their partner because they want a failsafe. They cheat until they are sure their new partner won't leave them soon enough, then they break up with you.

[David6668]

Yes there is a difficulty to not cheat in relationships because a man is seduced visually this affect his mental & physical health let him being physical with everyone he want when you know it will not be a cheat. If you do so He will never leave you for anyone.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think it comes down to most people always wanting variety in their life/relationships, new people provide that variety and excitement whereas someone you've been with for awhile, feels like an old hat. Comfortable but kind of boring/lack-luster at the same time.

It equates to, society's "out with the old and in with the new" disposable relationship mentality.

[LittleSally]

I'd think it's because they're not in the right relationship.

OR

They don't want to admit to themselves they're not a monogamous type... and have no morality so they're okay with cheating (i. e., want to be socially acceptable but still do whoever they want on the side).

OR

They're deeply insecure and want to prove to themselves they're attractive enough...

[serious]

No, it is easy to be loyal. It is actually easy not to cheat. Only people who are greedy (emotionally) will go for cheating, people who have low morals and lack self control such people lack the will power.

They don't understand the simple fact that they should have the class, the grace to first end the relationship they are in and then do what they want.

[Shayyyy1]

I cheated cause he did first so yeah don't think it actually counts as cheating. He was my first in everything as well I felt like total shit.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I could only see it being difficult when you're famous and have women throwing themselves at you and trying to fuck you 24/7
Besides that, it's pretty easy

[Daniela1982]

That's what happens when people have casual sex. They get used to variety instead of one person. Therefore, they are inclined to continue on with that variety and therefore are more prone to cheating.

[anon1903]

To be most frank here, this question is the equivalent of asking "is it that hard to pass exams?" The answer is yes and no. Yes, because there are actually pupils who don't study at all and think they can copy off others and pass.

[FreyaRed]

Nope, it's not. Cheaters and incels have one thing in common, they value sex way too much. This creates a lot of impulsive and toxic behavior that undermines every relationship.

[Anonymous]

Cuz these hoes ain't loyal. So I gots to remind where their place is as a woman.

[Asker]

How do you remind them

[Opinion Owner]

I show them there are younger women that are better looking I can always leave them for.