Is it love or possessivenes?

[Anonymous]

How normal is it for my husband to Want to know when I ended my class and went back to my office and vice versa. Is it normal that if I didn't have fixed time to leave work and told him I'd leave at 11:30 and it's 11:40 and he had to call me to know where I am and shouted at me about me possibly being somewhere else and not being able to tell him that I was stuck with a small task that I needed to complete. I have to tell him if I move 10 steps to go to a shop or an ATM. He's jobless so he waits around for me whole day and if I have to take an extra class he freaks out because I took away our time together. His family says it's because he's jobless that he's frustrated but it's not. He freaks out if I don't keep my phone next to his pillow before sleeping. He gets mad if I turn away from him midsleep and didn't hug him. He's created chaos few times in front of my university and students. I work all day and he and his mom always tells me about how I don't help out much at home. She asks how are you gonna raise a family if you're out all day. You will have difficulty with conceiving after 30. He sleeps arounf all day and I have to come home and clean the room and bring his food because he was waiting for me. If he's angry he says he won't eat and I have to feed him.

[BrookeAZ90]

You need to run away from this as fast as possible. I assume you know this already. He's paranoid and possessive and he's never going to turn his life around as long as you indulge him like this. You need to boot him and maybe he'll figure out he needs to do something with his life. Nothing you described is love, not even close.

[Anonymous]

I would say that the behavior you describe sounds more like possessiveness and controlling behavior than love. Love involves mutual respect, trust, and support, while possessiveness and control involve a desire to exert power and dominance over another person. It's important to recognize that possessive and controlling behavior can be harmful and can lead to emotional or physical abuse. It's important to set clear boundaries and communicate your feelings and concerns with your husband. It may also be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor to work through these issues and develop healthier ways of interacting with each other. Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity in your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Not initially, but it can sure turn into that. He is a control freak and I feel sorry for you.