Is jealousy and possesiveness a sign of true love?

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DishLady · Accepted Answer

Not really. Sometimes it’s just a sign of true crazy.

Obviously everyone gets a little possessive in a natural romantic way because they want to be exclusive with one another, however some people (guys or girls) get extremely hot-headed or even violent over their person EVEN TALKING with or LOOKING AT others, which is toxic behavior. I can give you an example of each from my experience…

I had a college sweetheart but we didn’t marry. I didn’t see how his life path into film would work with my life path, so we parted ways and it was fine. I met my future husband around the same time in college but was too young and inexperienced to see red flags of toxicity like the fact of anyone in our group of friends MENTIONING the first guy (who wasn’t even on campus or in the same state anymore) would set my then boyfriend (and future husband) up the wall. He’s be upset for the whole rest of the day. The first guys name never came up again till one day he was on TV. I was married by then and watching and there my old friend was on the television. “Wow! How cool! Come look, it’s ___ from college!” You know? My husband (now my ex husband because this was just the top of the f-ing iceberg) three the TV clear across the living room. Other people were there… he could have hurt someone… but his insane jealousy and possessiveness just blinded him. Over the years we obviously had other issues due to his toxic tendencies, but that was certainly one of many things a person should never allow into their lives.

An example of cute, healthy possessiveness can be found in simple terms of endearment. For example “my girl” or the use of “mou” as we say back home. In greek culture the use of “mou” towards a loved one (even children, friends, etc.) is natural and indicates that the person using the possessive has got your back and will protect you. (Other languages don’t have that.)

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I think it can be. If you're in a relationship and love each other, band you see someone checking them out, yes, you'd be possible but in a good way.

It's really hard to find someone who loves us and we love them, I see that on here all the time. It taking years if ever to have a love and love back relationship.

So, if some chicky or dude decides to move in on what has taken me years to find, I will definitely have something to say or do to the other person; and I have done this - because some chicky needs to be put in her place and go find her own guy cause this one is taken. Sorry.

DrPepper12 · Accepted Answer

I guess. But I don't "possess" anyone. We are together by choice and the thuggish neanderthal behavior that comes with that type of male thinking bothers me to my core. I think jealousy is a wonderful emotion (if you feel it - I don't) because it makes you reflect on what you have and I think the "competition" makes me desire her even more. Just mho

mistershy94 · Accepted Answer

depends on the level of jealousy, I'd say. If you're mad about your SO talking to a random stranger, then it's clearly a problem. If someone is obviously flirting with your SO and they flirt back, then it would be weird if you weren't even a little bit jealous.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I leave guys that do not make me fell happy and a guy who makes me jealous does not make me fell happy.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No. It's a sign of insecurity and dependence.

b_lova · Answer

Noooooooooooo Those characteristics are a sign of control. Love involves trust so jealousy shouldn't be necessary. Possessiveness is ownership and no human should do that to another.

avery58 · Answer

I like some jealousy from the guy tbh but not when it's too much. I like protective not psycho

CrabCakes11 · Answer

No. It’s a sign of insecurity and a toxic or abusive relationship

Chelsdope0 · Answer

Nah… and I strongly thought that…  He ended up loving and marrying someone else.

katiesmuff · Answer

No it is not, in fact a person like that will likely never see or feel true love.

boggboss · Answer

Nope tends to be signs of someone being overly emotional or lack of self control or trust

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Probably yet I look down on such people. A girlfriend who clings to men is as bad as a woman who's got wandering eyes elsewhere

NathanDavis · Answer

closer to be a sign of someone ending at a ditch...

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say more accurately that jealousy and possessiveness can manifest themselves as an example of love. I wouldn't call a sign of true love. There are plenty of people who are jealous and possessive that don't love the other person at all.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

nope, rather a sign of insecurities

lorenzomichael · Answer

Fuck no! It’s a sign of insecurity for the unfortunate people who are like that that’s all..

Starrrboy · Answer

Yeah but only the healthy amount.. and there's a very thin line between healthy and toxic..

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

I always thought that ifyour wanting to be your lady to be your property or embarrassed watching your jealousy.

dustybiker2 · Answer

No, it's a sign of insecurities.

Anonymous · Answer

When you’re married of course, If not then you got some issues.

laly520 · Answer

at times its a sign of toxicity

HelpfulWoman · Answer

not always. they can also be indicators of abuse

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

No not really. It's a sign of control!

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds more like obsession

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

A sign of a dying relationship.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Hahahahahah … NO !

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Nope.

jahaims · Answer

No, it is a sign of immaturity

LiamJHayden · Answer

I see those more as signs of selfishness.

DonVitoCorleone · Answer

It's hard to know. 🇮🇹🇮🇹🇮🇹🇷🇺

DonFredoCorleone · Answer

Know that there is no such thing as love

spartan55 · Answer

True love? Hell no.

GoodgirlNatalie · Answer

No it's very toxic

Anonymous · Answer

No it is not.

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