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Girlfriend of 8 months give me her key to her apartment. Two weeks later she asked for it back and became distant. Nothing else odd has happened and we haven't gotten into a fight. She says she needed the key for her mom but i never got it back after she left.
All i can think is she may be thinking about Her last relationship was very toxic and they moved in together very fast.
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Yes, I would think you're probably right that it's related to her last relationship. And if it is, you should be understanding of that and not take it personally. I don't know how much she has, or has not talked to you about her past relationship. So use your judgement here...
But, I think it would be fair to ask her about it... gently... even pre-empting it with something about how "it's ok if it's related to your last relationship, I'm not going to be upset by that, I just want to make sure there isn't a problem with us" or something to that effect.
The only reason I would say it's probably related to the last relationship, as opposed to it just being some problem in your relationship is simply: Asking for your key back and becoming distant... is sort-of a stupid thing to do as opposed to just breaking up with someone. Why not break up with you, rather than send you the pretty clear signal by asking for her key back? That doesn't seem to make sense to me.
However, a girl who had a toxic relationship... can definitely sometimes mean an "abusive" relationship. That can leave some pretty deep scars. I can imagine a woman giving you her key, and then PTSD getting her to ask for it back from you two weeks later and get distant.
It sounds sorta like a classic "fear of intimacy" move. To pull-back like that, right after becoming closer (giving you the key, and all that it implied... especially to her) seems like classic fear of intimacy. If she's had a messed up relationship with a guy she feels she moved in too quickly with... then it makes sense that she might behave this way.
It's fair to try and talk to her though... because... you do get to know what's going on. It's fair that you have some questions about her recent behavior you'd like cleared up. That's very fair. So, be gentle about it, but... try and talk to her. Find out what's going on.
Worst excuse she could ever give