My husband said I’m an 8, should I be upset?

Question

He’s wrong.

Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

Everyone sees beauty differently. What may look beautiful to one person may not look the opposite to someone else. Investing time to worry about looks usually causes self-esteem issues.

I had a friend once that could basically get any guy she wanted because she had blonde hair, blue eyes, thin build, nice legs, and perfect skin. One day she had a crush on this guy and when he said he wasn't interested, she asked why? He told her, "You're beautiful, you have a beautiful smile, a hot body, and pretty eyes, but we have nothing in common, and plus, you're so used to getting any man you want, it's a turn off for me. sorry." She was so hurt, she cried for 3 days.

My point is though, just be careful investing time in worrying about your looks. Not every person is going to find you 100% attractive. Honestly, when I talk to a girl who is all about her looks, I start finding her less attractive. What matters is how you treat others, as well as your husband, what type of person you are, how much you care about him.

I don't know how this came up, but if you're the one who asked him what he would rate you, at least he was being honest. I know guys have to lie and tell girls what they want to hear, lol. I've been in enough relationships to know that golden rule, but doing that throws honesty out the window.

The important thing is not how others see you, but how you see yourself. Only you can decide if you're beautiful. Other people's opinions don't matter.

razelove · Accepted Answer

Wrong, I'd say a 5-7 depending on your age, body (can't tell from your baggy outfit), and the standards of your local area. The market determines demand after all. Anyway, 8 and up you can get into modelling, you can't model with that fivehead, poorly plucked eyebrows, split ends, poor coordination of your outfit, so on and so forth. You obviously are not a model as you have an HID card for a key swipe at your job.

I'd say I'm a 6, and have modeled before, but the bar is lower for men as fewer men do try to model. It isn't something I'm saying to try to hurt your feelings, but a number system exists for an objective measurement. a 10 would be like helen of troy catastrophic beauty, 5 average, and 1 nauseatingly ugly. Most everyone we meet will fall somewhere between a 3-7 as each step by one number is a pretty large one, which isn't a bad thing at all.

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

At least your husband told you the truth mine used to tell me he thinks I am the most beautiful girl he has ever seen.. and I'm not even all that, a lot of people rated me as a 4 since I am kind of dorky looking and fat. The only reason I could see your husband tell you that is you are being cocky about yourself or he was mad at you.

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

I did not answer the poll bc I don't think it is important how I would rate you, I think to your husband, you should be a 10 and I would say that about any husband and wife. So yes I would personally be upset even though being super honest, 8 may be accurate, that is not the point. JMO!

AviatorTom · Answer

Why are you upset. An 8 is very pretty and attractive.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes for the simple fact your husband should be saying you are a 10 , you are the girl he choose to marry , you are supposed to be his number 1 priority, the fact that he isn’t putting you on a top scale just shows he finds other girls more attractive then you and could leave some question of concern as to why he doesn’t look at you that way? So What do you rate him on the scale? Overall , how is your marriage with him? Do you butt heads with him a lot , does he easily get annoyed with you? How is your sex life with him? Some guys don’t like rating their partners on a high scale mainly for commitment reasons Most guys feel if they rate their girlfriend’s or wives on a high scale then she will eventually loose interest in him , I know it sounds crazy , but that’s how most men think , especially if they had their heart shit on before by a girl they treated like a Princess , Most girl’s don’t like when a guy is obsessed with her , always complementing her and telling her she is beautiful , in the beginning she loves it but as time goes on she tends to get bored having her man constantly treating her like she is the best thing in the world sadly most girls will tend to start losing interest in him and be drawn to some other guy that comes off as a bad boy , When a girl cheats on her man her excuse usually is because her man was too nice to her , there was no challenge she is annoyed by how in masculine he become , Sadly most girl’s love the opposite of what they already have , if she has a guy that is always good to her and treats her like a princess she will eventually be drawn to a bad boy and vice versa , For a guy to keep a girl by his side he basically has to balance between good and bad or she will lose interest in him , based off my experiences with girls’ that was usually the case , when I learned to balance between good and bad my relationships with girls’ would last longer because I would keep her on her toes having her question whether I was into her or not , I shouldn’t be telling you this cuz I am blowing my chances with girls’ lol But sadly this shit has worked for me , You girls need that challenge, you need the drama in your lives , it’s what turns a girl on , Most girl’s want a man she can look up to not a man where she feels like she is babysitting him , or weak , Most girls are drawn to a guy’s masculine energy and his confidence , and his personality , she wants to be submissive to a man she can look up to , When a guy starts kissing her ass and constantly gives to her , she will start looking at him as he is weak and not confident , his masculine energy disappears making her drawn to another guy that she feels is more dominant and masculine. Again I know this sounds crazy but it works for me lol so maybe your husband doesn’t want to put you on that pedestal for that reason.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

An 8 is very complimentary. The average women is a 5. If you were a 10 you'd be on the cover of Mademoiselle or working for Maybellene, and their badges look different. Women need to stop thinking 5 is an insult. By definition most women are 5s. I'd put you at a strong 6, because you are more attractive than the majority of women out there. It says more about your ego that you think you're above an 8 and would even think about being offended by that. If you think you're a 10 then you're delusional. There's a reason you haven't had to fight off international modeling gigs. Too much InstaSimping out there giving people a heightened sense of self.

thenameless22 · Answer

It doesn't matter what anybody here thinks because we're not your husband. But if your husband thinks you're anything less than the most beautiful woman in the world, then there's a problem. Some possible reasons:

1) You've let yourself go/got fat/plain/boring

2) You just don't take care of yourself/don't want to take care of yourself

3) Your husband doesn't think as highly of you as he should

If it's 1 or 2, then you can change that. If it's 3, then why did your husband marry anything less than a 10 in his eyes? Did he "settle"? Is he looking at other women/porn? Mid-life crisis making him question his life choices?

Only you can know.

stepyo99 · Answer

A 10 is young Catherine Zeta Jones or Jennifer Connelly. You are average, which isn't anything to whine about because the vast majority of people are average looking.

"I married someone who is a 10 in my eyes." I doubt it. There are very likely many men who are more physically attractive than your husband. You married him because he was the best you could get, which again isn't bad, it's just reality. This kind of behavior about how he has to think you look like a 10 is obsessive. There are better things to be doing with your time.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

Hold up, you are pissed at the guy because when he complimented you it wasn't as big of a compliment as you wanted? You do realize that make you a crazy person, right?

Anonymous · Answer

Well what do you want honesty from him like women want from men or so you want him to lie to you? Very confusing when women want the truth but get hurt when the truth isn’t what they want to hear. I’d give you a 6, but that’s based purely on your facial features. If we’re talking physically speaking I’d have to see what your backside looks like. A little makeup could bump that number up, but I’d also want to know your personality. You’re much older as well, yes I’m older too I get that. There’s a lot of factors that would play into this. We could go purely based off of looks or a combination of things. I get that women want to be seen as a 10 by their man, that in his eyes there’s no other woman on the face of this earth but her. In all honesty what were you expecting him to say?

Spongebobssocks · Answer

Why? 8 is a high number. When men rate they are being logical. 5 is avarage (not bad, not good). You are 3 points higher and 2 points from perfect. You should be happy.

Lionman95 · Answer

How do you wanna rate that? I wouldn´t be upset you could ask him what it takes to be a 10 to him but I wouldn´t give much on those ratings because those ratings are just numbers.
It would be different if he said there are more beautiful women than you because numbers alone don´t tell that.

EricSummer · Answer

If you asked him to rate your appearance then I think this is an acceptable answer unless there was a way to dodge the question.

You are obviously pretty, but going for 10 would be too obvious flattery. 8 is a solidly high number that could be close to what he honestly thinks, considering also that he's likely in love with you.

So he made no mistake.

Vanity carries it's risk, so maybe try and focus more on other things to be proud of.

ratking63 · Answer

I wouldn't be upset. You're a very pretty woman, I would rate you higher (if we must use a 1-10 scale)

However, you're husband loves you & has spent more time with you, so I wouldn't worry about it. Looks are looks, but it's really the love that matters.

TheorionMage · Answer

You BEGIN with what Nature's genetics gave you... as a female, you ASSESS your 'audience'.
Naive 'innocent', ... Machiavellian seductress, ... sadistic vixen.
ALL females AFFECT their 'audiences' and... DEPENDING upon YOUR intent, you EXPLOIT their prejudices---
THOSE 'life skills' are collectively termed: 'Glamoury' and USE your Beau's prejudices to ensnare by their appetites, not unlike a 'catch-or-release' sport fisherman.

RavVid · Answer

It is a relative scale to the beholder (husband). So you don't get a vote.

For amusement I have watched youtubes of girls rating themselves and despite obesity they all gave themselves a 10. So if 10 is the average than 10 is 5 by definition.

I would never give a 10, reserving that score. 9 is semi-reserved. I think you should be happy with an 8 from your husband and myself!

AsaKyo · Answer

At least he's not making fun of your hair, calling you a derogatory slur and is talking shit because you're not some rail, skinny Asian girl with no curves like the ones he watches on YouTube

I'd rather my boyfriend/husband love me for who I am and man, being an 8 to him would be great

aoihewgf · Answer

I'm going to assume you asked him to rate you, and he foolishly played your stupid game where there is no right answer.

Are you an 8? If we consider only 42 yr old women, you might actually be. 10 is perfect, and/or top single digit few. Being an 8, though is beyond crazy good.

Now, let's consider how every guy would actually rate.. 42yrs down to 18yrs, and in this case, you are crazy enough still above average at your age (based on this single picture) but at most a 6.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

Did you ask him to give you a number? Or did he just give you it? I think 8 is great. If he is being honest I definitely said solid 8, if I was him I would have said "your always a 10 in my eyes sexy" but that is me. You do have a great smile by the way.

Jay3344 · Answer

If you want to be shallow then yes an 8 basically in the face. Body counts too and so does age, kids, health, past, finance, etc… most people aren’t above a 7 so being an 8 is great. Think about it this way, looks wise most beautiful celebrities are 8’s just with fame to help them become a little more. What do you think you are?

altaboy · Answer

When you think about it, 8 is quite good. Imagine it this way: 10 is perfect, and it might as well be infinity because it is unattainable. Nobody is a 10. 9 is you at your absolute physical peak, like 21 year old you. 8 is probably the best rating he'd give anyone realistically.

I'm just trying to get into the mindset. Do not fear, you rock his world (as you should!)!

LiamJHayden · Answer

Different people have different ideas of the 1-10 scale, so it depends on how his works. To me, 10 would be perfection. Absolutely unattainable for a human. Most people are 4-6 on my scale. Perfectly acceptable, but average looking. I rate myself here. 7 would be gorgeous. 8 is stunning. I do not think I've seen more than one 9 in my life.

abc3643 · Answer

I don't care about numbers but will simply say this: You look fabulous and if 43 is your real age, you look really fabulous!

shades777 · Answer

That was a generous rating, he knows you better than we do, you have a few things going for you as you are petite, have good clear skin, and long hair, and dress classy, not bad. Beauty however is in the wye of the beholder. So my 9-10 will be different from your husbands 9-10 range.

if your happy what does it matter unless your looking to take up modeling.

Anonymous · Answer

Why are you asking if you should be when you already are? Is a poll gonna stop you from feeling slighted?

Just do the normal thing of withholding affection until it creates resentment and sets a pattern of disconnect, use that as an excuse to cheat, destroy the marriage, get divorced and go be alone. If a man's opinion of you is anything less than "you're absolutely perfect", then he's not worth your time and "love", so just end it already.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

On your husband’s scale you rate an eight, on my scale you rate higher.

FreyaRed · Answer

No, you shouldn't.. Exaggerated vanity is an attitude of average girls who seek positive affirmation for their insecure ego. You don't belong in this category from my reference point.

Siri137 · Answer

You're 43? You look 25! Your husband is an idiot (or blind).

jshm2 · Answer

He's still your husband, so it's not something to feel bad about. If he was divorcing you for "being an 8" then he probably means to say you've let yourself go.

DermalPunch · Answer

As long as you think you're fire it doesn't matter.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

What if everyone on here was like, nah you're a 6

SonjaKelly · Answer

An 8 is high. Be happy. You are an 8 so he’s been honest snd accurate. Most men don’t want to marry a so called 10 anyway. They only want to sleep with them then leave them apparently. Do you honestly think you’re a 10? And be real. You look like a very beautiful natural women. 10s tend to be fake and cheap. So be grateful you have a husband and he loves you 🌷

GoodEnoughThen · Answer

Curious, how did the ranking of you even come up? Did you ask him? (Sorry if this was already asked and answered.) Having this info will get you better answers to your question.

megabamse · Answer

Well average is a 5 right? And almost no one is a 10 because that just perfection and an ungodly beauty. And to be put as 8 that's really high up. Your according to him just 1 away from a high fashion model type of beauty. So i would be ok with that

Anonymous · Answer

For your age, that’s generous. Be thankful he things of you as high as he does… you aren’t a 10, and there is a reason he didn’t say you are a 10. In my book, there are  NO  10s. The closet you can get to perfection is 9 and most women aren’t close to that when it comes to personality, character and effort, especially in relationships. So yeah, be thankful that he rates you as high as you got.

inhua · Answer

anywhere from 5 and upwards is considered attractive for a woman it's not the same for men who's bare minimum starts at an 8

TooHot2Care · Answer

……Uhhhh….. lady? professional inspector. I’m gonna need to see that ass. you got an ass you’re an 8, if not then you have a nice smile good eyes and good skin and the conversation is over.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I'd indeed be upset if I was just a number for someone I'm with :)

MsTaniaUncensored · Answer

I have never liked the system of rating people with a number but... Whats wrong with being an 8?

Kabluie · Answer

If you think about it, you'd probably be more upset if he said 10 if it's 10-10. But you can't chastise him for being honest.

Anonymous · Answer

Interesting that you didn't give options for "he's wrong, you're a 9-10" and "he's wrong, you're a 7 or less." Now you won't know how many of those "he's wrong" answers think you're not the ultimate woman.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would put you at 9. You look fantastic at 43, nice skin and great smile. If he is older than you are, he may need glasses. 🤔😂

Kaneki05 · Answer

Why would you be upset about having a husband who say's the truth rather than telling you whatever you wanted to hear?

Normaldude444 · Answer

He's wrong. You are more like a 6. Which is still above average. 8 is really fucking beautiful. You are not that.

VikingWarLord · Answer

An 8? I'd give you a solid 6, but I hate rating based on faces alone, I'd have to see entire body to know. Small boobs automatically under a 7. No Azz either, that's a 6.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I do not know you at all so it would be impossible for me to give you a number. He knows you better than I do, so he is probably spot on.

Jazzy54 · Answer

You’re very pretty. Why is your husband rating you? That’s weird. I wonder how he would feel if *you* rated *him.*

RasmusAiken · Answer

Ask yourself why you would doubt him. He's the man you chose. You're the woman he chose.

Gent207-2 · Answer

Forget your husband  You look like a 10 to me in this photo

Adaeva · Answer

That is a compliment since men tend to be truthful and exaggerate a bit.

BeMuse · Answer

He's probably talking about the size of your penis in inches.

mommymommymommy · Answer

Only if you believe in the rating system. I currently don't. How is a 4 any better than a 3. This is why I don't rate people, ITS FUCKING ANNOYING

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Not into rating people. You don't need us to validate how pretty you are. Just know that you are form yourself. The hell with anyone's opinion

Mr1derful · Answer

He’s wrong. You are so gorgeous and beautiful! Why would he even say something like that anyways? Lol

Anonymous · Answer

He's wrong your a 6 1/2. Maybe a 7 on a good day. What a nnice guy to bump you up a bit.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would say you are a 10 and why? Because I would date a girl like you :) ;)

Anonymous · Answer

Its kind of sad coming from a husband but at least he’s giving his honest opinion. I guess just be glad you have a husband

humanearth · Answer

I think your a knockout. There is no rating scale for you

AngryCarl2 · Answer

8 is good but he shouldn't be giving you a number. Unless you asked him for one, in which case you're an idiot.

soe11 · Answer

You don't have to angry or upset with him, he might saying genuinely.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No you shouldn't. Get yourself. We all gonna get ugly as we age older.

Paulychicagoluv · Answer

I'd say a mix of wrong and right. He has known you longer and may be basing it off your personality too, but you are beautiful

justabuddy · Answer

I think a lot of girls would love to like that.

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